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2nd baby

My 1st born is 6months today and i foumd out im pregnant again. Im not happy and dont no what to do. Id never have an abortion but i worried i cant cope with too kids and is it too soon :-(
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What great advice.

I like what she had to say.

indeed, some moms are definitely given more than they can handle.  They find themselves really struggling and desperate.  

If you are worried about this, think of your various options.  Who can help you?  What kind of support do you have?  Do you need a second job to support another child?  Is your home life stable and if not, what can you do to make it so?  Is adoption something you'd consider?  Abortion?

Think of your options.   You will NOT be judged for considering them here.  good luck
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My first 2 baby's are ten months apart my son born 10-7-07 and my daughter 8-19-08 I wasn't even over having my first baby when I found out I was pregnant again it's hard to talk about but I wasn't ready for another child I was freshly 18 homeless and in abusive relationship after my son was born I was put in a shelter and then in my own apartment I had left him two days before he was born I was in bed and heard someone at door and it was him he forced his way in and that's how I became pregnant again I wasn't sure what I should do I thought abortion adoption everything but I kept her it was hard she was him in every way I had post depression after her and it was hard lasted about a year but here we are 7 years later and 2 more kids best decision I ever made not knowing is a killer but you are strong and you love this baby or you wouldn't be thinking these things congratulations mommy you will do what's best for you and your family
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I just wanted to give you my story in hope it will help but ether way its up to you. I had my daughter and two months later conceived our second son they are 11 months apart I thought,before I had him that I would lose my mind, but it was much easier then I thought them being so close in age actually helped he learns everything from my daughter. He was completely potty trains at 1 1/2. He has been talking since a out 6 months and he is super smart,as all of my kids are, but I truly believe them being so close was a blessing. Also I also thought about abortion but I did not actually find out about him tell I was 13 weeks and in my mind that was ment to be. Good luck ether way it will be the right choice
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I found myself in the same situation after I had my first. She was 4 months old and I found out I was pregnant again. I had anyways sworn up and down an abortion would never, ever, ever be the right choice for me. But when I weighed the pros and cons of my situation and options, it turned out abortion was the right choice. At the time my husband and I were both out of work, surviving on unemployment and welfare. I was in no emotional or mental state to properly care for two babies and my husband (he was very sick for a while). And I had had a c section with complications healing afterward. So, continuing a pregnancy that soon after would have been medically unsafe for me and that baby. It was a very difficult choice but for me, it was the most responsible and (not everyone will agree) most fair to the baby. I would have brought a child into the world that I wouldn't have been able to care for.
Adoption is another option. And, personally, it would have been harder on me emotionally, mentally, physically and medically to have carried and bonded with a baby for 40 weeks only to give it away.
Whatever you choose will be the right choice for you. Talk to your partner, while the choice is ultimately yours, his opinion counts (assuming he's a good guy and is involved). Don't let anyone sway you. If you do something regarding your body and babies for someone else it'll be harder on you.
Good luck and do what's  for you.
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You are going to get a lot of feedback about this...I encourage you to see what all your options are...weigh pros and cons and do what is BEST for YOU and the child you have. Don't let anyone push you into anything either way. You can do what you have to do...you are strong !!!
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