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30 week termination
Hi ladies, so I'm a bit scared to ask about this but feel maybe you guys can give some good advice and support. I'm 30 weeks pregnant but I'm really questioning everything, there is a really high chance my husband and I aren't going to be together much longer and I really can't be a single mum, its way to much for me, I'm only 18... I want to get an abortion done soon but I'm still unsure and what to know what everyone thinks? Oh and I don't really have an income besides centrelink.
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I'm sorry, I'm the mother of two and I STILL don't agree with you on your ideas of 'science and biology' and that is much debated between clinicians. YOU are the one that posted asking about it. I'm a married woman raising my family but defend any woman's right to choose. Again, YOU and YOU alone are the one who contemplated the procedure.
Its not about when each person says its a child, its a child from the moment of conception according to science and biology,its already been decided. I disagree, violence is never a good choice for women. Its horrendous that anyone would try and make it Ok to brutally murder a child at 30 weeks. You have just given me more incentive to not go that way.
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I also appreciate when someone posts a question that it is sincere.
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Abortion can be a good choice for some women. This is not a place to just give your opinion on when YOU believe a fetus is a child and if you are for and against abortion. This forum is NOT intended for that. This is a place where someone who wants to exercise their right to choose between different options INCLUDING abortion to come and have a safe discussion about it. Please respect that.
Wow. I have a lot of interesting responses. Thank you to all who told me not to and said about the life of the baby being valuable. You are right, I have no right to take this child's life because of my situation, the baby didn't ask for the mutilation they do in abortions and all the excruciating pain they would have to go through just so I could feel better again. It was selfish to think a child deserved to be thrown away because I wouldn't seek an option that would be best for both me and the child, a decision that provides both the ability to feel better and still have their life. I also know that it has recently been proven that a child can feel pain from as early as 10 weeks. I found out that they have a heartbeat before I even knew I was pregnant, at 20 days old, they have fingerprints at 7 weeks, brain waves at 8 weeks. They are also apparently fully formed (looks like a human being, has their arms, legs, hands, feet, eyes, ears, and on and on, at 12 weeks. I could never imagine killing my child again at any stage, let alone 30 weeks. I realised that just because he looks more human and is more like me now then he did at the start, doesn't mean he wasn't human, he had it all there, it just hadn't all properly developed, just like, a baby isn't a baby or human just because they can't speakyet, they have the ability to speak, ththey just haven't developed and learnt that yet. Thanks for your honesty guys :)
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And I have another comment to make. Many women have abortions with no regret as it is the choice that fits their lives. I would not assume that your feelings are that of another woman's. It may not be the choice one themselves would make but it is unfair to put your feelings into their head. Abortion is something no one 'wants' to do necessarily but it is an option and can be the RIGHT one for someone.
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By the way, in the United States, there are several states in which abortion is legal for any reason throughout a pregnancy and past 30 weeks.
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This forum is specifically a place to discuss safely without judgment the issue of abortion. It's a woman's right to choose this and it can be the best choice for her whether anyone agrees with it or not. Please leave any type of judgment out.
I know we all want to believe WE know what is best and we have all the answers but in truth, we don't know what is best for another woman.
all judgmental posts will be reported on this forum so please keep that in mind.
to the poster, if you care to talk about your options, please contact me. I'm sure that if abortion IS an option there, you will be able to have it performed. good luck
I know we all want to believe WE know what is best and we have all the answers but in truth, we don't know what is best for another woman.
all judgmental posts will be reported on this forum so please keep that in mind.
to the poster, if you care to talk about your options, please contact me. I'm sure that if abortion IS an option there, you will be able to have it performed. good luck
lol, I'm sorry... I'm going to be straight up here, and lay down a scenario about how much you'll hate yourself, and resent your partner if you decide to kill this baby and you guys end up working out and live happily ever after.
I'm all for us women being able to have the right to choose. But there's a difference between a blob of cells, a fetus that's only a few mm big, and a f*ckin' 30wk baby.
obviously none of us know the whole story here, but the cut and dry of it, is that you've made it this far - and if you think you can handle killing a baby at this point, then you really need to think about adoption.
I'd google late term abortions and see what they do to the baby. Some of them take out the amniotic fluid and replace it with saline... which is salt water, and it burns the baby and probably causes damage to your insides also. It forces your body into labor, and you still have to deliver a baby. Only it's dead, because it was burned alive in your womb.
"No physician in Canada can terminate a pregnancy over 24 weeks without serious indications that the life of the mother is at risk or that the fetus has very serious malformations."
March 2013 "A private Melbourne clinic, which was the only facility in Australia performing terminations post 24 weeks for ''psychosocial'' reasons, stopped offering the procedure more than a year ago." - http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/hospitals-clamp-down-on-abortions-20130323-2gmvw.html
Do some research.
I'm all for us women being able to have the right to choose. But there's a difference between a blob of cells, a fetus that's only a few mm big, and a f*ckin' 30wk baby.
obviously none of us know the whole story here, but the cut and dry of it, is that you've made it this far - and if you think you can handle killing a baby at this point, then you really need to think about adoption.
I'd google late term abortions and see what they do to the baby. Some of them take out the amniotic fluid and replace it with saline... which is salt water, and it burns the baby and probably causes damage to your insides also. It forces your body into labor, and you still have to deliver a baby. Only it's dead, because it was burned alive in your womb.
"No physician in Canada can terminate a pregnancy over 24 weeks without serious indications that the life of the mother is at risk or that the fetus has very serious malformations."
March 2013 "A private Melbourne clinic, which was the only facility in Australia performing terminations post 24 weeks for ''psychosocial'' reasons, stopped offering the procedure more than a year ago." - http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/hospitals-clamp-down-on-abortions-20130323-2gmvw.html
Do some research.
In Victoria you can get one up to 24 weeks unless 2 drs agree that its medically necessary not at any stage but if you ask me 24 weeks is murder a baby can survive if born at that stage and as for only getting centerlink as income you can live on that for a while then they can help you get a job and you'll get child support its not your baby's fault you two aren't in a great place right now so why punish your child
What about adoption?
Why kill a baby because you can't handle raising him/her?!
This is craziness.
Why kill a baby because you can't handle raising him/her?!
This is craziness.
Actually I can get an abortion through the whole time in Victoria
Are you in Australia? If you are there is no way you could get an abortion at this stage in your pregnancy it is illegal in most states after 12 or 16 weeks.
your child would have been able to live outside your body 4 weeks ago.
you have a little over 2 months to go if you make it to term.
You've carried the baby this far, so adoption would really be your best bet.
If you think you can handle killing the baby, and yes - I said baby - at this point, then giving it to someone who's been struggling for 10+ yrs should be easy...
you have a little over 2 months to go if you make it to term.
You've carried the baby this far, so adoption would really be your best bet.
If you think you can handle killing the baby, and yes - I said baby - at this point, then giving it to someone who's been struggling for 10+ yrs should be easy...
Your baby is pretty much fully developed.. I think adoption would be best.
All honesty love, that baby deserves life whether things are going wrong or right between your husband. He/she didn't ask to be put in this world. Furthermore, your only 18, I'm 19 and I go to school and work to support myself and my seed. Your love should be unconditional for your child regardless of your relationship status, Ya know? & as far as income get up and go get what you need love. Grind. Nothing in this world will ever be free.
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Hi there and welcome. This is a very personal decision sweetie. No one can tell you what is best for you but YOU. I think you first need to check out your state's laws to make sure abortion is an option still for you. I know several states allow abortion at any point for any reason during a pregnancy and others have some restrictions. so, you need to see what the laws are where you live. Once you know for sure, you are in a better position to think about what works best for you.
Abortion is something that many women do find to be the best option for them. And it is our right as women to choose this so think about what is good about termination for your situation and what is bad. Write it down for clarity.
Then think of other options such as adoption. This also can be a good choice for a woman who does not wish to keep and care for her child for whatever reason and I'm one that does think financial resources or lack of is something to consider when bringing a child into the world. I commend you for being so young and thinking realistically about it. So, think about if adoption is something you'd consider. You are almost through with the pregnancy so not much more to go and then birth. Then your child could go to a family that desperately wants a baby. And you can go on with your life.
Or you could think about how you could make motherhood at this point in your life work. Even without a partner, many women do make this work. It's hard. It's best to be realistic about that fact. But it can be done.
So, sit and think about what you want and that is what is important. Others opinions are based on their own beliefs, lives, etc. and this is about you. because at the end of the day, this is your life and you are the one who will have to deal with it all. So, make this choice based on YOU. I'm here if you want to chat about it. good luck
Abortion is something that many women do find to be the best option for them. And it is our right as women to choose this so think about what is good about termination for your situation and what is bad. Write it down for clarity.
Then think of other options such as adoption. This also can be a good choice for a woman who does not wish to keep and care for her child for whatever reason and I'm one that does think financial resources or lack of is something to consider when bringing a child into the world. I commend you for being so young and thinking realistically about it. So, think about if adoption is something you'd consider. You are almost through with the pregnancy so not much more to go and then birth. Then your child could go to a family that desperately wants a baby. And you can go on with your life.
Or you could think about how you could make motherhood at this point in your life work. Even without a partner, many women do make this work. It's hard. It's best to be realistic about that fact. But it can be done.
So, sit and think about what you want and that is what is important. Others opinions are based on their own beliefs, lives, etc. and this is about you. because at the end of the day, this is your life and you are the one who will have to deal with it all. So, make this choice based on YOU. I'm here if you want to chat about it. good luck
Adoption is the best option then. I can't imagine aborting a child at 30 weeks..that's just way too far. There are so many people who want to adopt. Please reconsider.
You can always put the baby up for adoption.
30 weeks to late for one. You should look into adoption and let a family who can't have kids of there own have a baby.
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