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Abortion
Hello....Can people please tell me what their personal experiences have been with a medical abortion. I know what the clinics etc tell you but I am interested on whether people have actually experienced them all or what symptoms people did have and the time it took to feel phyiscally ok again.
true theres people that want to have kids and cant so have it and give it to someone that will take it love it and take care of it i have no kids and ive tryed but seems like i cant i'll adopt it!
I am 100% pro choice. but thats just me, i dont judge others for chosing abortion, although Im strongly against it. I have never had an abortion. I have a 3 and half month old son, me and his father tried very hard to have him. I dont know what i would do without him. He is my world. and I tell you what I got my first ultrasound at 11 weeks and after seeing that I could never think about doing something so cold.
My suggestion to you would be to carry that baby to full term, and give it up for adoption. that baby didnt ask to be made, and although it was unplanned and a total surprise, its still your responsibility to do the right thing. and abortion is not the right thing once so ever.
My son is the only child I want, i could never have another kid, I want my son to have all my attention. But if somehow I were to get pregnant, I would carry it and give it to a couple that couldnt have babies... there are couples out there that cant have children and it tears them apart, and then theres others out there just killing innocent babies, before they even have a chance.
I really hope you decide to not do this. I honestly dont think you could live with yourself. especially since you have two kids already. you will look at them kids everyday and ask yourself, how you could do that. You may think you can do it, and talking about it is soo much easier. But Im telling you no mother could just kill an innocent baby, and feel nothing! Once again dont do it!!!!! think about adoption! Its the right thing.
My suggestion to you would be to carry that baby to full term, and give it up for adoption. that baby didnt ask to be made, and although it was unplanned and a total surprise, its still your responsibility to do the right thing. and abortion is not the right thing once so ever.
My son is the only child I want, i could never have another kid, I want my son to have all my attention. But if somehow I were to get pregnant, I would carry it and give it to a couple that couldnt have babies... there are couples out there that cant have children and it tears them apart, and then theres others out there just killing innocent babies, before they even have a chance.
I really hope you decide to not do this. I honestly dont think you could live with yourself. especially since you have two kids already. you will look at them kids everyday and ask yourself, how you could do that. You may think you can do it, and talking about it is soo much easier. But Im telling you no mother could just kill an innocent baby, and feel nothing! Once again dont do it!!!!! think about adoption! Its the right thing.
i had one and physically all was fine. i barely bled afterwards and went on to have normal cycles. the procedure itself was very painful though.
emotionally is a different story. its an awful experience during it. i cried. i was on demerol and very out of it but i knew what was happening and it was emotional. the recovery room was the worst because all the girls were crying in there. it was really an eye opener for what abortion really is.
afterwards i felt fine emotionally. it wasnt until later that i had problems. it caused severe problems for me and the father. and not only that but i was guilty, i regretted it, i wondered about that baby, and also when me and the father broke up i regretted it even more because if it weren't for that we would have still be together.
i am fine now i will be honest because i am married to a different man ( a BETTER man ) and we have a 3 month old daughter. i dont know what i would do without her and i wouldn't have had her had it not been for the abortion. but im sure i would have felt that way about my first baby too.
please dont do it. that is my advise. a child is stressful and its difficult at times but it truly is a joy. you don't realize how much you can love a little baby until you have one. its a part of you.
i was 7 weeks at the time. and my baby had a heartbeat. 2 more weeks and my baby would have been moving. i saw my current daughter move on the ultrasound at 9 weeks.
i strongly encourage you to consider your options, research how developed your baby is. get an ultrasound. its not fair to your baby to kill it before you see it. at least get an ultrasound and demand that they show you first.
theres adoption. why not do that? you can give that baby a life and you will have none of the responsibility. if theres problems with the father you dont have to be together. you can parent on your own. theres SO many things you can do.
or go to a savalife center that will tell you your options and talk to you. be fair to your child and look into other things first.
i will never be the same after my first and i always wonder about him/her to this day.
emotionally is a different story. its an awful experience during it. i cried. i was on demerol and very out of it but i knew what was happening and it was emotional. the recovery room was the worst because all the girls were crying in there. it was really an eye opener for what abortion really is.
afterwards i felt fine emotionally. it wasnt until later that i had problems. it caused severe problems for me and the father. and not only that but i was guilty, i regretted it, i wondered about that baby, and also when me and the father broke up i regretted it even more because if it weren't for that we would have still be together.
i am fine now i will be honest because i am married to a different man ( a BETTER man ) and we have a 3 month old daughter. i dont know what i would do without her and i wouldn't have had her had it not been for the abortion. but im sure i would have felt that way about my first baby too.
please dont do it. that is my advise. a child is stressful and its difficult at times but it truly is a joy. you don't realize how much you can love a little baby until you have one. its a part of you.
i was 7 weeks at the time. and my baby had a heartbeat. 2 more weeks and my baby would have been moving. i saw my current daughter move on the ultrasound at 9 weeks.
i strongly encourage you to consider your options, research how developed your baby is. get an ultrasound. its not fair to your baby to kill it before you see it. at least get an ultrasound and demand that they show you first.
theres adoption. why not do that? you can give that baby a life and you will have none of the responsibility. if theres problems with the father you dont have to be together. you can parent on your own. theres SO many things you can do.
or go to a savalife center that will tell you your options and talk to you. be fair to your child and look into other things first.
i will never be the same after my first and i always wonder about him/her to this day.
If I could have done, I might of done adoption BUT having the bubby would have killed me being so weak and ill but if I could of had the baby I would have kept it and I was living in a safe house under police protection... I used to be able to fit in a 5yr old clothes at the age of 16!!!
Which isnt good.
And I was told I would have the councilling and things like that... Nearly a year later I am still waiting... Please dont just rely on what they say, From experience.
Please beaware that your next pregnancy after an Abortion no matter about the time apart whether its years or months.. will probably end in MC... as this has happend to alot. Including myself!!
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Which isnt good.
And I was told I would have the councilling and things like that... Nearly a year later I am still waiting... Please dont just rely on what they say, From experience.
Please beaware that your next pregnancy after an Abortion no matter about the time apart whether its years or months.. will probably end in MC... as this has happend to alot. Including myself!!
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Have you not discussed adoption? You could have an open adoption and still be able to receive pictures of the child as he or she grows up. I'd personally take adoption over abortion simply because the baby would have a chance at life. Who knows he or she could be the one to find the cure for cancer!
Thank you all for your comments etc. I am in australia so not sure of the procedure here, still looking into it but I have been told I will get counselling. I am having the abortion for family reasons - I do have two kids already which you might wonder how I can have an abortion after having 2 already but for reasons that my husband and i discussed in full this is our only option, financially. We are struggling now and won't be able to financially cope and our hosue in no where near big enough for 5 and we are years off being able to move anywhere. I was on the pill so this was not a planned pregnancy in fact a total shock. I guess I need to be really sure this is our only option and I will make sure my decision is the right one for us and is 100% right for us all. Thank you again so much for sharing your experiences
Are you from the uk? When i had my abortion i saw a counciller before the abortion (standard procedure) and i just completely opened up to her. They do offer you an appointment if needed after but to be honest i didnt take them up on that offer. I decided it was my family and friends who would be the people i confide in.. It really helps.
You will go through alot of emotions and will question yourself at the time but if you went into it 100% then you should have no niggles as to whether you have done the right thing for you or not.
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You will go through alot of emotions and will question yourself at the time but if you went into it 100% then you should have no niggles as to whether you have done the right thing for you or not.
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Btw, my abortion was for medicall reasons. I was anorexic. So had too... Or I would have died, I was so ill :(
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You WILL need emotional support from a councillor you know you DEFO have because its rare the clinics actually live up to what they say. We are all here if you need to talk. But make sure you speak to your doc about having a Councillor or a support worker or something because you will need it. If you are in England I have a number you can call.. :)
My abortion was different to yours.... mine was surgical I had 6 hours worth of labour, I was basically Induced. They didnt give me pain relief, like they said they would. Nothing. I was left in pain for 6 hours then put to sleep woke up and it was gone :(. Make sure they give you a hot water bottle,.. and lay on your side and have half over your back and some one your stomach, put it on the side you aint laying on, Helps with the pain!
Please talk to your doc about being referred to a specialist to talk to. You wont get any help from the clinics.
Here if you need someonee :)
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My abortion was different to yours.... mine was surgical I had 6 hours worth of labour, I was basically Induced. They didnt give me pain relief, like they said they would. Nothing. I was left in pain for 6 hours then put to sleep woke up and it was gone :(. Make sure they give you a hot water bottle,.. and lay on your side and have half over your back and some one your stomach, put it on the side you aint laying on, Helps with the pain!
Please talk to your doc about being referred to a specialist to talk to. You wont get any help from the clinics.
Here if you need someonee :)
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I would never abort my baby. But I am pro choice every woman for her own. I believe If you're going to feel emotional afterwards than you are not ready to have an abortion :/ may I ask why you're choosing to abort?
Thank you both for taking the time to talk to me, I am 6 weeks so 7 weeks when I am booked in. I am having the medical abortion. It isn't really the physical pain I am too worried about as I know I will get over that, it is the emotional pain and trauma
i do agree with Cassandra you dont get any real emotional support provided so you need a good support network around you. I was very early with my abortion 7 weeks and i didnt feel the physical pain. How far along are you?
I was 22 weeks. I found out at 22 weeks. But as I was so small and ill I didnt have a clue I was preg.
Please be 100% and DO NOT trust the fact that the abortion clinics say they offer after care treatment 90% of the time they don't. Please see your doc afterwards. And take Extra pants :) And joggin bottoms to put on whilst you are waiting for the process to happen. What kind are you having, I had a surgical... :(.
Please be 100% and make sure you have so much support and people you can talk to please :) I am here if you need to talk to anyone :).
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Please be 100% and DO NOT trust the fact that the abortion clinics say they offer after care treatment 90% of the time they don't. Please see your doc afterwards. And take Extra pants :) And joggin bottoms to put on whilst you are waiting for the process to happen. What kind are you having, I had a surgical... :(.
Please be 100% and make sure you have so much support and people you can talk to please :) I am here if you need to talk to anyone :).
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Thank you Cassandrajane for sharing your experience, that couldn't have been easy. Can I ask how far along in the pregnancy you were at the time? I wish you all the very best with this preganancy and good luck for teh rest of it.
I was put into labour. The worst 6 hours after my life. AND I now have emotional councilling. I was Anorexic and couldnt have the baby... I am pregnant now, and I regretted my abortion.. It was the worst thing in my life...
I was still 100% because I HAD to do it... I was ready and everything to be a mum, but I couldnt because I was so ill...
You WILL need emotional councilling. And there will be lots of blood, and LOTS of pain.. worse than period pain... Basically these were contractions....
I was asleep but I gave birth. And I regret it soo much. I am pregnant again, and there is NO WAY in my life I'd have another one, and If I have another girl (Like the terminated one was) I would never force her to have an abortion because of my experience it wasnt very nice.
Please be 100% before you go ahead, and Please make sure you have a counciller, because if you are in England and going to Marie Stopes. They DO NOT offer the services they say they do. There is no after councilling, and things like that... what they say they offer doesnt happen.... Trust me, I was meant to go back after a week for a check up, That was last Novemeber, I still haven't been baclk, because they forgot, and never gave me an apt.
Also... There has been a pattern of this... your next pregnancy MIGHT end in MC.... as this can be a result, it happend to me and a few other people I have spoken too... It's not always the case but it is fairly common...
Please be 100% and talk to you doc for after councilling. :)
I am telling you from experience. Okay, Please be careful
Good Luck, and all the best.
I was still 100% because I HAD to do it... I was ready and everything to be a mum, but I couldnt because I was so ill...
You WILL need emotional councilling. And there will be lots of blood, and LOTS of pain.. worse than period pain... Basically these were contractions....
I was asleep but I gave birth. And I regret it soo much. I am pregnant again, and there is NO WAY in my life I'd have another one, and If I have another girl (Like the terminated one was) I would never force her to have an abortion because of my experience it wasnt very nice.
Please be 100% before you go ahead, and Please make sure you have a counciller, because if you are in England and going to Marie Stopes. They DO NOT offer the services they say they do. There is no after councilling, and things like that... what they say they offer doesnt happen.... Trust me, I was meant to go back after a week for a check up, That was last Novemeber, I still haven't been baclk, because they forgot, and never gave me an apt.
Also... There has been a pattern of this... your next pregnancy MIGHT end in MC.... as this can be a result, it happend to me and a few other people I have spoken too... It's not always the case but it is fairly common...
Please be 100% and talk to you doc for after councilling. :)
I am telling you from experience. Okay, Please be careful
Good Luck, and all the best.
Time heals alot of things. 5 years on and i now have a one year old daughter and im planning for my second child now. I just wasnt ready for a child at 16.. so young. I wish you all the best :-)
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Thak you for your feedback. It is all booked in to go ahead but not for another week and I will make sure I am 100% sure before going ahead. I appreciate your feedback and I hope you are ok now.
I have experianced one. Physically i felt fine straight after the op. Just a bit tired and had bleeding (like a period) for a few days.
Emotionally it wasnt pleasent.
I guess everyone is different in that respect though.
Only go through with it if you are 100% sure it is what you want to avoid feeling distressed after.
Emotionally it wasnt pleasent.
I guess everyone is different in that respect though.
Only go through with it if you are 100% sure it is what you want to avoid feeling distressed after.
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