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Am I Ready?

Hi, I just turned 16 and im 3 weeks pregnant & scared out of my fucling mind
My boyfriend thinks were ready & wants to be a daddy but im not ready I think this
Baby could ruin my life but at the same time I want to have a son or daughter but
Im still in highschool mean I havent even told my mom I got my period
What do I doo I need some sort of help before its to late.
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Well, nothing says you will never have another child, it's not like you have to decide to have this baby or get none forever.  This allows you to consider all the alternatives, including adoption.  Your boyfriend is sweet but pretty unrealistic, and although saying a baby could "ruin your life" might be something that could be refuted by women who have done it at 16, none of them say it was easy.  (In fact, they all say it was hard.)  If you have plans that include college and career, a baby will take a really huge bite out of your time and make it near impossible.  In fact, once the baby comes, you don't have "your life, and a baby," you have "a baby, and [on occasion, a few minutes of] your life."  You're smart not to let sentiment and the notion that a baby is some kind of cute toy, block your awareness that it would be a HUGE challenge in every way (from maturity to finances to simply the daily grind) if you and your boyfriend were to try to raise a child.

Please talk to your mother.  If you can't quite get there yet, talk to a trusted aunt or other female relation, and then talk to your mother.  But talk to her this week.

Take care, sweetheart.
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I had my first kid 13 days after my 16th birthday and well I never finished school and lost all my friends and my guy ended up leaving me while pregnant after he begged me to keep it even tho I would have rather taken the abortion pill and continued my life its only up to 9 weeks pregnant nothing more and I ended up putting my son up for adoption and my exs. family care for him now in all honesty if its him who wants baby and not you onehundred and fifty percent don't go thriving it because its your body and your life that ultimately effected and your family won't ever great you the same either so be prepared for that also
....its very very hard on everyone
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I admire your honesty, kissingmoore.  Too young, have you seen a doctor yet?  You need to take care of this baby right now by taking care of yourself.  
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Hi Too Young, And for me too young if your not ready, I think some on here are not thinking for you but themselfs, its your body, its you who could end up spending the next 20 years struggling to bring it up, if he does a runner, you need to look to the future and so does he, you both have lots of time if the future, if things go right, so see your doctor, tell your mother what has happened and hopfully make the right decision and get it sorted.
But again its your body, your life and you are the one who makes the decision to which way you go, dont be turned by anybody.
Good Luck
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