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[Isabella180]

I'm 6weeks and I have to make a decision weather to keep or abortion. I'm 21 and will be in my final year. Has anyone ever been in this situation???

[Claire_MHModerator]

Hi, folks,

The OP asked if anyone else has been in her position, so she's clearly looking for insights from people who've been there.  She did not ask to be convinced one way or the other.  She didn't ask for opinions or speculation about any given option, either.

If you've been there, please feel free to share your experience, whether it was positive or negative.  And please remember that this is a support forum, rather than a debating arena.  Thanks!

Claire

[remar]

This is just not true.Abortion does not always lead to depression. What about the women who were pressured to have a baby they knew they could not care for? What about their depression and struggles? I don't think we should judge or tell any woman what they should and should not do. Women come to this forum for support. We have no idea exactly what they may be going through.To the original poster, no matter what you decide to do you do have people that will support you with that decision. Only you can decide what is best for you.I'm so glad that Specialmom gave you all of your options, and there are several.

[specialmom]

By the way, there is a tremendous amount of misinformation here such as abortion leads to depression.  I'm not sure where this information comes from but it is not based on research or facts.  

make a decision for YOU and do not let others opinions on abortion (as some are not prochoice period) decide for you.  Abortion is a good option, adoption is a good option or having the baby and caring for it can work.  Plenty make it work and all is fine . . .  it is just hard.  But you can do it if it is your choice and you are motivated.  Think about it and make the best choice for YOU.  We are blessed to live in a country where a woman has options!!

[specialmom]

Oh, and I know several women who have had abortions at different points in their life.  College in particular and none regret the decision.  We can't speak for everyone but that has not been my experience in my circle.  I'm sure some do but please do not be mislead that it is everyone.  Many many women have had abortions and just don't talk about it because they literally moved on after.  

You'll be fine with whatever decision you make as long as it is the best one for YOU!!

[Blueberrybow]

You can do it if you choose too. Dont think its impossible!

[Blueberrybow]

I am 25 and I had my daughter 20. I went to school, worked,  and raised her. I have my associates and im still going for my bachelor's. ...we are pregnant with number two im about 5 weeks along and starting my next semester next month. I personally found that my daughter was a huge motivator for me. Its harder but worth it. Work fulltime as a 911 dispatcher, go to college fulltime, and a momma/wife fulltime!

[Abi_Gabi_Cj]

Praying for u & sweet baby

[momshammah]

One thing I have learnt is that people who tell u they regret aborting are honestly haunted by their decision and those who tell u its ok just want u to join the group so they wont feel alone in it. At the end of the day its up to u. To bad there's no trial and error in this case. It can never be undone. Good luck

[joannagonzalez]

Well Ima be straight up honest when I was young I had a abortion, please don't start judging me we aren't perfect !! And I honestly felt terrible after I got it done it would sometimes bug me thinking about what I did, it was horrible. But I grew up more recognizing that we are not perfect and still gave a chance I'm so happy to say I have a baby boy and I'm pregnant again next to a wonderful man and father that has my back. I wouldn't ever choose for anyone to abort from my experience its a baby and a blessing. I don't think university should get it the way your good :)

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

Its your choice and no one can make it for u. Dont listen to those who say "never abort" and it "never ok" it is up to you, but get yourself informed about all options before u make a decision. And the longer u wait, the harder it is to have an abortion. Good luck and do what is best for YOU. No forum can tell u whether to have a baby or have an abortion.

[nikkirilling]

What do u feel in your heart that you wanna do? As my own personal choice I would not get an abortion but everyone is different and has different circumstances. There is other options but whatever you decide on there are helpful groups out there for what ever option you choose

[sabrinaallen]

I've had friends who chose to abort and every single one of them who's has done it regrets and wishes they would never have done it. I had a friend who opted to have an open adoption she said it was the best choice of her life sad sometime but she said that the other choice would have been so much worse

[GeekMom1213]

You are the only one who can make the decision. No matter what you decide to do there are people who will judge you. At six weeks an abortion is a pretty simple and non-traumatic procedure and it is certainly your choice if you don't feel you are prepared to carry, birth, and raise a child at this point in your young life.
Anyone saying "there are so many families who will adopt" must not realize how many thousands of babies and children are in foster care waiting to be adopted - it's not that simple.
I had an abortion when I was young and I have not ever regretted it, not for a single day. Sometimes I wish things had been different but I knew I was not ready to raise a baby on my own and I knew I would not be able to provide what a baby deserved and I did what I felt was the right choice for me. I won't ever be ashamed of that and I do not regret it.
You have options and you have a little time to decide. Be honest with yourself and come to a peaceful place with yourself and your decision. You have the right to be in charge of your own body. Best of luck to you no matter what you choose.

[Isabella180]

Sorry guys I meant to say my last year in university

[alipeachcobbler]

Im not going to college (assuming that's what you're talking about) because I'm pregnant so I do understand that that will be HARD. What you need to understand though is that if you abort, you are ending a human life. It can't live without you but that doesn't mean its not alive (it has a heartbeat, its developing a brain). If you're not cut out for school and child care then sweetie no one will force you into that. We can only hope that you will opt for adoption (even if it's a closed adoption) because there are so many families out there that are ready and willing to take on a child. Just because you don't think you can give it all you have doesn't mean there's no one else that will.

[kouklaxo]

I have been in this situation, I was 15 when I had my son, still in high school. I am now 21 and my son is 6 years old, and my daughter is going to be born in aug. I put off going into college because I am against abortion. It's your choice to do what you want to do.

[february2015]

I've never been in a situation like this before but it really all depends on you because in the end you're the one dealing with what you decide to do. But in my opinion I would never suggest abortion ... Maybe adoption if you decide you don't want a baby..