Induce

[Eunique1988]

Can I ask my doctor to induce my labor at 26 weeks due to the health problems with my baby. I don't wont to put child through pain all her life

[Amyjoftm]

Good luck on what you decide.  I have a Co worker where both her boys have hydrocephalus.  It's definitely something she fights everyday. Her youngest son just had his 18 surgery and he's 6. Other than major headaches they don't have any other of the problems. I wish you luck and support with whatever you decide because it's a tough one to make.

[3rd_time_around_]

I am so sorry to hear such news about your baby. I just wanted to let you know that I had a cousin that was pregnant with a baby with the same diagnosis and they did surgery while the baby was still in the womb. It didn't solve all her problems but gave her the ability to be a happy functioning little girl who is now a bright spunky teenager. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.

[mylovestwoboys]

Praying that u have strength to deal with this and maybe this is Gods way of telling u he has chose her to be a special Angel I can't imagine how it would feel to have to take all this in and try to make a decision about what to do for her

[BELLALUNA2015]

I'm so sorry you are going threw this...I will keep you and you baby in my prayers...

[specialmom]

Ahhh, I'm so sorry.  It's so hard to get that kind of information.  I totally understand that.  It's heartbreaking.  do you have a support system like parents or a partner to help you through it?  

[Eunique1988]

Thank you and I am waiting to see what my doctor say it's just im scared of hearing more bad news and at the moment I don't even think I can handle no more bad news im trying to be strong and have hope but that's hard when all I see and hear is the bad news the doctor gave me already.

[specialmom]

They should be able to give you a pretty direct answer regarding prognosis.  It's not like downs syndrome where you have false positives.  I'm so sorry.  They'll be able to give you some clear cut information regarding the severity of the condition.  Doctors DO indeed induce labor for children in which the prognosis is very poor and there is suffering expected.  Your doctor will guide you and most likely give you a real scenario for what is in store for a child with the disabilities you mention and the level of severity your child has.  

So, your best source of information is your doctor where you will get unbiased information not based on emotion but the true medical condition of your child.

I'm here any time if you need to talk, vent, cry.  peace

[Eunique1988]

I Thank everybody for you support at  this moment I just need people I can talk to until I can talk to my doctor i hope it get better by my next appointment

[Jsyska]

I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm sure it's very hard.  Lots of "what ifs" in your future.  Think about this though- what if her conditions aren't that severe and she can live an almost normal life??

[specialmom]

Hi there sweetie.  So sorry that you found out this information as I'm sure it is very painful.  I would talk to your obstetrics doctor. My doctor will perform this procedure for medical reasons.  It sounds like the prognosis of your child is poor and I understand how that must feel.  no one can judge you as we don't walk in your shoes.  My doctor is very clear that this is a procedure they will do if the circumstances warrant it so talk to your doctor.   If there is anything I can do to help or you need someone to talk to, I'm here.  peace and hugs

[excitedfor6th]

They can not induce you early unless it could help save your or babies life by doing so. Your baby is viable and they can not risk babies life to induce. I would suggest carrying the baby to term and giving her up for adoption.

I was considered a normal baby and have a few of the problems you mentioned including scoliosis, bladder issues, balance problems that cause dizziness and weakness. The list of medical issues go on and I was born normal, what would you do if one of your other children developed these issues? You don't have to have a birth defect to have health problems.

I was told with my first to abort due to birth defects. Just about every birth defect was popping up. All tests came back that she was severely deformed. Ultrasounds blood work it did not look good. I refused the abortion and left it to faith. They did weekly ultrasounds and frequent blood work until I went into labor, they never changed and the drs were very sure. My daughter was born normal with no defects. Just thought I would share my story with you. They can not be that sure until the baby is born and every child deserves a chance at life. I know the hard ships of a child with illness, I had a child with cancer. She has now lost most of her hearing and has learning difficulties and that is putting it nicely. It is hard with us having five other children but we make sure all of the needs are met.

You can do this but if you don't want to adoption is an option and someone will want her and be willing to provide what she needs. There is no shame in adoption and I am not judging you. You were told your child was very ill and all thoughts that go through your head are normal. It is fear for the baby and for the sacrifice that is needed to have a child like that. Put fear aside to make your decision and decide what is best for baby, you and the rest of your family. Also you might find comfort in speaking with a therapist. Good luck.

[AngePants]

I am so so sorry to hear this about your little baby girl, but all the same she is beautiful. I know there are people that would be willing to care for her through adoption. I can't imagine what you are going through, but consider adoption if you don't think you could handle the issues she may face. Praying for you and your family.

[Peachy1584]

You keep saying problems she "could" have. Don't you want to know for sure the situation and severity before making any final decisions? Miracles happen all the time. Give your daughter the chance to be one and defy the odds. I think finding out a few days ago hasn't even given you enough time to process everything. As she grows and you have more ultrasounds you will have more information and will have even more after she is born. I pray she proves you wrong..

[babymama36166]

If it were me I would talk to my doctor. Explain your concerns and fears of not being able to care for your baby girl. I'm sure they can give you options. I work and supervise two group homes. All of my individuals have been living with us since they were very young. We specialize in care of people with birth defects and developmental disabilities. I'm not sure where you live but maybe this is an option. You can stay as involved as you wish. I have some parents who are very active others are not. I can't imagine how hard this is for you and your family. Prayers to you all.

[Eunique1988]

Thank you

[BLESSEDwith5tobe]

This is just terrible I wish you the best in whatever decision you make I couldn't imagine having to make a decision like this!! I'm praying for you

[Eunique1988]

I respect everybodies opinion but this isnt easy for me I did reaserch on but of her problems and yes some kids do live fairly normal lives but she has the sever one in both

[Eunique1988]

These are the problems she can have with her hydrcephalus Muscular: problems with coordination, stiff muscles, or abnormality walking
Cognitive: mental confusion or amnesia
Whole body: nausea or balance disorder
Also common: blurred vision, headache, delayed development, irritability, high pitched cry, sleepiness, leaking of urine, vomiting, enlargement of head, or tense fontanelle

[Eunique1988]

These are some of the problems she can have with spina bifida Leg weakness and paralysis
Orthopedic abnormalities (i.e., club foot, hip dislocation, scoliosis)
Bladder and bowel control problems, including incontinence, urinary tract infections, and poor renal function
Pressure sores and skin irritations
Abnormal eye movement[16]

[lurooney]

Oh im so sorry to hear about your baby..i dont believe in abortion but i totally have compassion towards your situation,thats got to be such heartbreaking news to get..whatever you decide i wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my prayers x

[BLESSEDwith5tobe]

I understand that is a lot to deal with especially having other kids and they are kids that probably wouldn't understand at the moment why the baby is sick and needs so much. I know that this is going to be the hardest decision you will probably ever have to make in your life! But I think that the open adoption would be the best. You can still be in your babies life and I'm sure there is a great family out there that can take care of her in the ways that you feel you can't and its OK that is a lot to deal with!! How does the daddy feel about this?

[jennymeaney]

I tjink thats a really good idea... you are the mother and know what is best for your baby and if adoption is what you deem best then I think its a selfless act. I think the comment above is unfair. U cant possibly judge unless u are in that situation yourself... I couldnt even imagine.

[phxmommy]

So basically u want to ask the Dr to kill your child, I know someone that has spinabifida and is a fully functioning 31 almost 32 year old. Yes the child may experience pain but would u rather her not have the chance to experience life? I'm sorry if this is harsh but I don't think it is ever OK to kill a child. Honestly it sounds like u are more worried about the problems it will cause u and your other children. If u don't want to or can't care for the child give her up for adoption. I have a son with health issues that he and our family deal with daily, but he is a very happy guy and most can't tell anything wrong with him bc of how smiley he is. Again I'm sorry for the  harsh words.

[jaloveslorelei]

Oh there is a long list, from what I know of both conditions a person can live a good functional life. I guess hers is more severe.