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abortion ?

I want an abortion but im scared about the process. Please dont judge. Its a long story behind it. I just cant have this baby. Has any ever had one ? And how did u feel afterwards ?
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480448 tn?1426948538
Ditto specialmom's advice.

Abortion is always going to be a heated controversial topic, and while everyone is certainly entitled to their opinions, this isn't the place for them.  This is a forum for women to discuss their options INCLUDING termination.  They should be able to do that without horror stories, talk of religion, and the like.
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Abortion is a woman's right and an option that can often be the best one for her.  And that is what counts.  We have to do what is best for us.  So, please keep that in mind that none of the people asking you to not have an abortion will not be there to help you with a baby.  It's about YOU and what works for your life.

Now, the procedure of abortion is pretty simple.  You are in stirrups such as you are when you have a routine gynecological exam.  There are noises of equipment working, you feel a pressure and pulling a tiny bit but it is not painful from my understanding.  It is quick.  Women generally look at the ceiling, many offices hang things for there for you to look at.  And then it is over.  You stay in the office for a bit and they ask that someone drive you home.  You most likely have some mild cramping after and some light bleeding.  Wear a pad.  But by the next day after the abortion, most women are up and around and feel pretty much back to normal.  no sex or tampons for 6 weeks and at the 6 week mark, it's wise to have a doctor check up just to be safe.  

That's pretty much it.  

let me know if you have any questions.
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8241872 tn?1409339987
there is an abortion forum were you might get more support and help. i honestly don't think you should go through with it, i personally am against abortion. however, it is Your body and Your choice with what you do with it. whatever your decision, i hope it's what you really want. yes, i will pray for you, but I'll be praying for guidance to help you through your ordeal. in my opinion, i think abortion is murder and no child should have their life taken away. i hope you have the courage and strength to make the right decision. make sure you do use protection next time though so you won't have to make a choice like this again.
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Theres plenty of people who do want to adopt and will pay for the medical bills. It's not true they get overlooked . I know so many people who cant get pregnant and want to adopt so badly. And gay couples as well deserve to have a baby. They have all kinds of sites for this as well. All in all always do what feels right to you. This is your choice make sure you do what's right for you.
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7672763 tn?1411583430
Everyones situation is different, but a decision to have an abortion is something you have to live the rest of your life with. Theres is always the option of giving your baby for adoption. There are many loving couples that are not able to have children of their own. You can become a blessing to a family that wishes to have a baby. My prayers are with you and hope your situation gets better. Plz seek professional guidance before making your final decision.  
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In my opinion I wish you really wouldnt I had just gotten with my boyfriend when I got preg after just two weeks of dateing I take full respo ability for my actions . Did I want a baby at the time? No did I need a baby at the time ? Heck no . And for a while I went through the same things I dont know ypur situation but I know the feelings I had when I firat got preg and how much was going to change I was a emotional wreck and for a while I didnt even really take that I was pregnant even at my first ultrasound my boyfriend was so excited and i really didnt hav much for it cause I knew I was in no place for a baby no place to live or keep the bahy no job nothing and honestly i was a lazy *** person it took me a while to actually step up and get a job and im 18 17weeks preg  and I dont regret any of it . I beleive its normal to have the thought but yoh have to think of you and your baby and whats best for you both but just know when those little feet start moveing in your belly and you start thinking more and more youll realize that that little person in ur belly needs you ..your the only person in its world right now and it already loves you unconditionally
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Everyone has a story. You need to follow your heart and write yours. I was a child.in a home of drugs and abuse and was signed over to the government at 9. I was adopted at 12. I got pregnant by a drug user at 19 and knew I would not be able to provide for my baby. I was in college and wanted to break the cycle from my childhood. I had a very painful and awful abortion. I now have had six miscarriages and one kid. I am married 4 years, have a bachelors degree, and a beautiful two year old that my doc calls a miracle baby. I have such a beautiful life because I made the decision to wait to become a mom, but now am having trouble becoming a mom at all.  Just think it through. There are pros and cons. You have to do what's best for you and that baby.
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How you will feel is anyone's guess. Sounds like you're hesitating. No matter what you choose,there will likely be positive and negative feelings. Find a good counselor to help before and after. Thinking of you.
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By the way, everyone screaming for adoption, people are more likely to want a child through their own pregnancy.  That's why in vitro exists.  I honestly feel that kids given up for adoption are more likely to be overlooked.

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Don't do it :( you already have a living thing in you that will soon grow to something soo precious. God bless you.
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Make sure you have a good doctor.  Don't go to anyone who seems shady.  I found out my original OB/GYN was performing private/secret abortions and he botched one.  The woman died and he lost his license to practice.  Needless to say, I don't go to him for anything anymore.

Whatever you decide, don't listen to those who are trying to judge.  The only other piece of advice I can give you is that if you terminate, do it before a heartbeat can be seen/heard.  maybe 1 - 3 weeks??  Because Once you hit that stage, it will be much harder on you emotionally.

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God also gave you free will to make your own choices and this is one of them.  I myself had an abortion 15 years ago and it crosses my mind once in a while but overall I never had any regrets. The process itself was not too bad.  I now have a whole different life, wonderful husband, and the most beautiful 2 year old little girl with baby #2 on the way.  I made my choice and made peace with it.   If I hadn't I would not have the house, career or beautiful family I have today and the stable life we are providing our children. That is just my story.  
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People will judge you regardless. . It's not actually that scary. You need to do what's best for you. My ex was a psycho addict who tried to kill me then shoot junk into my baby. .. sometimes you only have so many options in life. I've never done drugs in my life and I can tell you that afterwards I was depressed but nothing could compare to knowing who your baby would grow up with as a father. .. telling you to go somewhere else is ridiculous.  People need to learn to live and let live.. you'll be fine! Just pray and think really hard and you'll do whatever the right thing is for you..
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I'm not judging, but please do some research into abortion. You could end up not being able to ever get pregnant again. Every single person is different and some of these women have testimonials of getting pregnant after an abortion, but that's not everyone who has ever had one. Plus, there are many couples who have had no luck having their own children and would give anything to adopt. Unfortunately, our government makes hard to adopt children out of foster care, so adoption of babies is a waiting list.
How do you feel when I say that a fetus' heart starts beating at only 5 weeks? How will you feel after you stop that heart from beating? Can you answer these? How will you feel 5, 10, 20... Years from now? You need to be well informed about this decision and mentally prepared for ALL of the physical & emotional possibilities after an abortion. Everyone is different and no one can make the decision or bare the outcome but you. I hope you can come to peace.
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All I can say is do what's best for you and your situation. I'm 19 weeks pregnant and 20, it was a surprise to us, but we couldn't be happier. That being said one of my best friends had to get an abortion because of many personal reasons, all I can say is either way have a good support system. Do what you think is best don't let someone else influence your choice, wish you all the best !♡
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And the heart starts to beat at 5weeks  and by that time you have just found your pregnant
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I had one and I truly regretted it. Even though I was fine and it went okay, the thought never left my mind. It's been over 2 years and I still think about it today. I told myself I would tell women who were thinking about having one to never do it. Seriously. Pray. I will say a pray for you.
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Anyway you get it done, your gonna cramp real bad. Jus like contractions.. after, it'll cross your mind every day. Goodluck
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Pregnancy is always possible when one decides to have sex. So we need to think that it could happen every time. I have tried for two and a half years to become pregnant with my little miracle that I'm carrying now. You really could make someone else's dream come true by adopting this sweet miracle to someone who has been waiting . I pray that you can find peace andyou could go to LDS social services and get help to find a family and resources to pay for the pregnancy. My God bless you and the baby.
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Give the baby its chance and give it up for adoption.
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Oh my god, the poor girl asks for one thing; please don't judge. You don't know a thing about her situation and still you decide to do just that; judge.  
I recommend cassie to really think about all alternatives before she makes up her mind. And yes, some people have a hard time after an abortion, psychologically. And some of us get over it. Whichever decision you make, it should be your own. Don't let anyone else influence your choice. You're the only on who knows what's best for you.
I know i could never give up my baby for adoption. For me the choice was between keeping the baby or having an abortion. I knew abortion was the right code for me and I have never had any regrets.
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I had an abortion when I was 21. I was to nieve (sp) and didnt think I was pregnant till I finally went to the Dr. because I thought something else was wrong with me. I was about done with my first trimester when I found out. The dad wanted me to have an abortion and we were a freinds with benifits kind of relationship. I wanted to keep it so bad at that point. Then we went to his brothers place and his sister in law chewed me a new one and broke my spirit. Seriously shes a B**** anyways but I let her get to me. I finally reluctantly decided to abort the baby and was in my second semester. The procedure was so painful and required an in office visit to implant seaweed to dialte my cervex for the O.R. procedure the next day.
I have an ultrasound picture to remind me of the worst mistake I knew I have ever made in my life and I regret it every day of my life.
You should think long and hard on this choice because it can mess you up mentally and make sure your reasons for not having the baby are legitamite. You may never forgive yourself and live with the choice you made. I allowed people to push me into something I didnt want so if this seems to be the case for you kick those people out of your life right now and do what you think is right. If anything you can always put your little one up for adoption.
Hope this helps!!!
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10494796 tn?1410584612
Personally i never had one will never have one in my life .. i see that if u can have sex and get pregnant then u can take responsibilty and ur consequences along with the decision you made instead of killing a life . Just because maybe its because of age or the father doesnt matter i was 17 with my first fibushed school and been having all these jobs to take care of my child and now 21 with my second . I would never abort and i never regret my childern .. at the end of the day ur childeren will always be there for you and love you !
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I would suggest going on with the pregnancy. I'm not judging or anything but I think abortion is wrong. But that's my own opinion. I'm pregnant n I'm keeping my baby I've already grown attached n love this baby. But if its just because u dnt want to be pregnant thats just wrong bevause ita ur fault not the babys. But if you got raped then that's diff. But if its just bevause u dnt want to be pregnant or have kids then do adoption. There are women that can't get pregnat n want children but can't. They would love to have a child. N I believe it would make you happier n even those ppl. They would sharish u. Just do the right thing.
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