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[cacanc814]

I had posted a previous post on here that I think was deleted.  After a ton of thinking and weighing out all of my possible options I have decided that I want to have an abortion.  I'm 17 and have a 22 month old daughter already.  I have managed to stay in school and do extremely well with her but I do not have the financial support or the room for a new baby. Both of my kids would have the same father but he is more interested in "doing his own thing" now even though he was involved with our first until recently.  I am finishing high school in December and have been accepted into a nursing school after that would start in Jan the only thing is I would be due in feb and if you miss over 2 days you are immediately dismissed from the program.  Please spare the bashing and the you could Always do adoption because it is not an option for me. Okay so now i will get to my question i have no idea how i could tell my mom that i am wanting an abortion i am only 9 weeks but the abortion is 395$ and there is only one place that helps fund abortions for students. We are going through a financial struggle. We are moving in a little less than two months to a smaller house and I know that she can't afford the abortion. I know the best thing I can do is just talk to her but I don't want to put her in the position where she feels like she has to go through a financial hardship because of a mistake.

[specialmom]

Again, this forum is for SUPPORT and is intended as a safe place for women to discuss their choices when they find they are pregnant and do not want to be.  

We are here to support posters who are thinking of abortion and to help them if they need it.  good luck

[specialmom]

By the way ladies, people have their own reasons to abort and it definitely can be the responsible decision at times.  We should not say what is right for another woman.  good luck to all

[specialmom]

Please don't let people scare you with stories.  There are plenty of really scary birth stories too.  

Abortion is a good option if it fits your needs.  And I think that not having a pregnancy to go through or raising a child that you aren't wanting to is important to have a way to not do that.  Every woman controls this choice and those who disagree won't be there to help you in the wee hours of the night.  Just remember that.  You have a right to choose and judgment is not appropriate here.

So,  financially---  what about a city close to you?  Any Planned Parenthood's?  Is there someone you can borrow the money from?  Think of all your options.  It's hard but in the big scheme of things, that amount of money is minor in comparison to the cost of having a baby and raising a child.

Do you have any cities near by that you could find a clinic that will have a sliding fee scale or a payment plan?

[specialmom]

Abortion is our right and a very good option.  This forum is to explore that along with the other options and not to judge.  Judgmental comments will be deleted. We are here to support the poster.

Please be supportive or do not comment.  thank you

[GigiBella]

Your gonna have to woman-up and talk to your mom. No way to sugar coat it. You also need to get some money from the guy your pregnant by bc this is partially his responsibility. make sure your decision is what's best for you & not just what he wants. Abortion is a very permanent decision for a temporary "problem".birth control & not dealing w an irresponsible guy will also help u in future.  Good luck!

[Renae08]

I had an abortion at 20 weeks with a little girl but I did it because of the terrible situation I was in so I had to do wat was best for me and my life. This is your life and your decision so if u feel like it's what's best then good luck. I'm not going to look down on u becuz I was in the same position u was in and I never told my mom about it but I would suggest u just sit her down and explain to her that you made a decision to get an abortion because it's what's right. U may have some regret later on but u will get through it just try not to think about it so much and try to do things to take ur mind off of it. I hope this helps u and I'm here if u need to talk or have any questions?

[showard022]

Your not banished from the program you just have to retake the semester. You could always put it off and start in the fall. Currently in a nursing program.

[jess1ca1995]

Honselty. I was going to do an abortion. But I looked up the side effects and I also didn't want a regret for the rest of my life. I'm currently only 8 weeks +3 and honestly I would find a part time job and keep the child. If you knew you couldn't afford it you should of used protection. And if you did then it was meant to be. But seriously you'll feel guilty and shame b/c I did when I paid 575$ and I didn't go through because of the guilt and regret and I am always against abortion. Justtthink of how you could and would handle it before actually getting it done. I never wanted it done. My boyfriend wanted it done. And if you have to tell the father of the child he needs to step up his game. He has another! But good luck to you. Choose wisely.

[KJ_Wright]

Yikes. That's a hard one. I wouldn't even know how to tell her. You're a strong mama for making this choice! Is there a sort of loan for the hospital you could do temporarily so its just small amounts going towards it per week or month?