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abortion pill please no judge

im 9 weeks pregnant i already have a daughter with my husband and we are currently not living together. i live with my mom and dad who are helping me and he just got a job.. im not able to get on any medical insurance nor medicaid because my parents make to much income. its not a good set for a second baby right now.. my parentas might kick me out if they find out im pregnant and my husband doesnt want it at all.. i have no choice cause i have no job no nothing and he wont help me with this baby. I used to be one to bash on peoeple who get an abortion because i felt no excuses to killing an innocent life.. Now im in a situation that i have no option. i dont even have a way to go to the doctor or anything. NO NOTHING i mean it. I want an adoption but my husband said he refuses to do that .. and if i dont get an abortion he will leave me for good and i have nobody no friends im depressed with life and i dont want a procedure done just the pill............. any advice PLEASE no judge im already in a very very terrible situatuion i dont need no worse
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thanks all your posotive feed backs i really appriciate it and after reading your posts the next day he had a change of heart and wanted to keep it! i dont think i would have had enough in me to get that done i was really torn but thanks so much :') <3
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I agree that a doctor's guidance is key.  This is not an unusual thing to ask for these days and I would just set an appointment to get the pills and go from there if this is your decision.  Don't do it alone.  Work with a doctor on it.  good luck
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It seems like you're asking how to do it at home without any doctors help. I don't think there is any safe way to do it at home with no doctor intervention. Anything you try to do to yourself could be very dangerous and possibly affect your future fertility. I know you said you don't have insurance but this is the type of thing where you need a doctor to prescribe the necessary medication for you to terminate the pregnancy and to be able to check you out afterwards to make sure you're ok. I strongly advise you to get a doctors guidance on how to do this because you could really end up in bad trouble health wise if you don't have their input and assistance to do it safely. Don't let fear of what your lousy husband says or does prevent you from going about this in the safest way possible for you so you don't end up suffering a major health crisis for not having been under the care of a doctor.
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Yes, it is a personal decision.  Many women do use the pill method for termination and then down the road if the situation changes, they go on to have another baby when things are better  or use really good birth control to prevent it.  :>)  But you have to do what is best for your marriage and you.  I'd weigh the situation with pros and cons and do what you feel would be best for ALL of you.  Sometimes another baby when it isn't an ideal situation puts horrible stress on current children and man and woman.  And I think for some, to be a couple with kids already and to give a child up for adoption feels like you'd be under immense scrutiny with so many questions.  That would be a little hard.  It is probably more related to that than being 'against' adoption.  Some feel it is hard to have their child 'out there in the world' and not be with them but also don't want to raise the child.  So, just making the problem go away through termination is what they think is best.  I don't know if these are the places your partner is coming from but talk to him about it.  

wishing you all the best and here if you need to talk.  peace
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Welll.. In the end, it's your personal decision.
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Tbh if I was u I will keep my baby just like Jessica said its alot of ppl in this world want babies but can't have them and if your husband loves u he wouldn't tell u to get an abortion my daughter father told me the same but we are not together so why does it matter u don't know what your baby can grow up to be hun but that's my opinion but do what's best for u sweetie :)
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yes... he doesnt believe in adoption
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Your husband is against you guys giving your child to an accepting family?
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Do what you know is right, so many people out there want children and can't have them, I'd give the baby up for adoption. Your husband can't keep you from it, especially since he already said he wants nothing to do with it. Talk to your family, tell them you want to find someone to adopt the baby and if you approach them with a plan then maybe they'll help you.
Where there's a will, there's a way.
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