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i have found out i am 18 weeks pregnant and i dont thing i could cope with another child i have a 2 and a 3 yr old and they are a big big hand ful but is 18 wks to late for an abortion
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to all who have replied thanks for ur coments i have the implant in and had other forms with the other 2 something is canceling it out for some reason  i to had an abortion at 17 due to medical reasons and had to give birth and it was horrible but i dont think i could give it to any one else with me knowing its out there somewhere i have only just got myself back on track over depression and dont want to go back in to it after this baby my other children need me more i know i havent long left to decide its just so hard to decide what right not just for me but for every one in my family
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1094587 tn?1375999710
in my opinion yeah it is too l8 not medically i no but i had to have a 'medical' termination at 20wks(he was found to have a very large cyst on the brain which would of left him v v handicap) it was basically a birth with no live baby at the end! i held him an studied every last detail he was perfect an it was such a hard decision to make but the docs had told me the situation without mixing there words.i do no it was 4 the best but guilt an sadness overwhelms me everyday.....sorry for the following!!! you want to abort because you cant cope!!! you are not a child you no that babies come from having sex!! now imagine what im going threw an i had a reason now imagine how you will feel doing this because you cant cope!! i think you should deal with your consequence of not taking precautions after your last child and then as soon as this 1 is born get a permanent contraceptive ie coil or implant.rant over :-) now on the other hand on the subject of adoption:i have a good story an a personal 1 at that! at the age of 12 i learned i have a brother whom was adopted 6yrs before i was born i tried to find him with no luck an people told me to be careful that he might not want to know an may be bitter about being 'given away'.anyhoo i was at my mums1 morning an a letter came an from the tears in her eyes i new he had found us! we got writing talking an soon he came 2 visit.he was v understanding towards my mum and dad an said he thanked them because he had a wonderful childhood an has been brought up wonderfully.an that he was grateful that his birth parents had given his mum an dad a chance to have a family!..like i said earlier it doesn't always turn out as ace as it has for us but still i think this is a much more humane way with dealing in the predicament you have got yourself in.personally the 2 options above are the only options in my eyes.good luck in what you decide an go and find some help an support to help you threw this hard time.take care an keep us updated if i haven't scared you off! xxxleah86xxx
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what about adoption? there are other options than abortion. and in the united states 24 weeks is the limit for an abortion. after 24 weeks it is illegal.

before you do have the abortion...here's something about a baby at 18 weeks...

Head to rump, your baby is about 5 1/2 inches long (about the length of a bell pepper) and he weighs almost 7 ounces. He's busy flexing his arms and legs — movements that you'll start noticing more and more in the weeks ahead. His blood vessels are visible through his thin skin, and his ears are now in their final position, although they're still standing out from his head a bit. A protective covering of myelin is beginning to form around his nerves, a process that will continue for a year after he's born. If you're having a girl, her uterus and fallopian tubes are formed and in place. If you're having a boy, his genitals are noticeable now, but he may hide them from you during an ultrasound.
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997670 tn?1297173071
It is still legal.  It is your choice .It is too late for a first tri-mester abortion, but second tri-mester is availabe.  I get a real kick out of people with their judgemental attitudes.  according to the best known scientist in the field, there isnt any consciousness at this point.  having said that , you have to decide what is right for you.  adoption isnt right for everyone,   I am interested in where you live, and if you have a suppor system..  
         In the future, make sure you have dependable birth control, and if that means saying no, to any man who dosent wear a condom, so be it.
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525485 tn?1314361301
Yes, it is too late for an abortion.
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589762 tn?1330207135
Yes, I would think it is WAY to late....Why dont you consider Adoption, there are plenty of loving, caring Couples that would love to have the chance to be parents to your little one... Give the gift of life.... You would be able to make some Couples dreams come true...good luck
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