abortion?

[lsara18]

Has anybody on here had an abortion? What was your experience? How did you know that was the right decision?

[Chima7]

My best friend got pregnant at 18 while using a condom with her bf. It didn't break so she's not sure how it happened. She had an abortion and now she is 39. No, she doesn't regret it cause she knew at the time that she was not in a place financially nor otherwise to take care of it. The only thing now is that she married a guy 12 years ago who doesn't want kids so he went and had a vasectomy earlier this year so now she's really not going to have any kids. But as for her abortion, she's still glad she did it because she didn't want to be a drain on society with public aid and all that. She's at peace with her decision.

[specialmom]

This is a woman's choice forum and we support the right to choose.  Sadly, a lot of pretty irresponsible people have sex and for them to raise a child is not an option.  Not saying this about the poster but as a general statement.  I admire the poster for knowing her limitations.  Kids can suffer.  And a person's path can completely change if forced into being a parent.  It's great to have options to help mold your life into what you'd like it to be.  :>)

[KelseyK1027]

Everyone says its okay to have an abortion.  I honestly dont think it is okay but i wouldnt put someone down for doing it either. I believe if your responsible enough to have sex then your responsible enough to raise a baby because nobody is god and can pick and chose who to bring into this world. There are so many women who cannot have child and try so hard and could give these children a good life but it doesn't always happen that way. I'm nobody to judge, just my option.

[specialmom]

I know of lots of women that made the decision to have an abortion and have no regrets.  They then went on to lead productive lives and when things were better and the situation was different, they planned pregnancies with their partners and now have a family.  

Sometimes abortion is the best option for someone and that 's that. The procedure is not complicated or difficult and recovery is quick.  


good luck to you

[lsara18]

Thank you all <3 I expected really harsh, judgemental comments. This was very comforting.

[em_mummytobe]

I had one 4years ago when I was 14. Already in an abusive relationship with a nasty manipulative person. I was sad but also knew it was the best decision I made, for myself and my unborn 'child'. He was cruel about it until I finally left him. Now I look back, the 14year old me would have been an uneducated mother compared to the young 18yr old educated mother I am about to become. My mum was very supportive the whole time. I was still a baby myself. I am still young but learnt alot over the last 4yrs. Which will beniefit the abilty to raise my son. You make the best decision for you, and you only.

[AuziNikol]

I got one last year, I hated myself and I don't think I could have kept going if it weren't for my amazing best friend. I know it was for the best since I was going to art school in Chicago and all my family was 4 hours away in Iowa. I still have moments I cry about it. But it is definitely an option if you think it's best. Don't let anyone talk you into or out of it if you think it's what's best for you. But do make sure you have at least one person to help you cope with it since it is physically and emotionally traumatizing. Good luck

[natalcia]

I had one 4 or so years ago I was a teen and with a boy that was cheating on my all the time at that time yes I did think it was the best decision as Iy family didint know anything about it no one knew exept the guy and family problems parents fights all time was stresfull and if I was to be kept the baby I would have ending up loosing it anyway

[kriscalli]

Several family members of mine has and some regret others feel like it was for the best. Either way it is your choice. Don't let anyone judge or put you down because they don't know what reasons you may have. But really think it through because it is your baby and your future.

[alanatb]

I had one nearly 3yrs ago. I was in an abusive relationship and he was wanting to take me to court for full custody before I was even 7 weeks... there were other issues that he threatened aswell but I wont go into detail but I know I had to terminate to protect my baby by not bringing it into the world I would never let my baby be abused. It was very hard decision to make and still today I think about what could of been but I know I made the right decision now im happily married and 10 weeks pregnant :) everything happens for a reason but if I didn't terminate the last one I never would be where I am now :)