adoption and abortion

[hellojojo2200]

So iv noticed over the past months that when ppl post about gettin an.abortion most ppl say they  should go with adoption...and the other day I saw someone post about how they were gunna.put theyr baby up for adoption and 90% of the answers said that she should keep it no matter what...im sure she had her reasons and some.of them.she listed...adoption is a hard choice and I bet she put alot of hard thot into it..and I think shes a strong smart woman for deciding that...I wudn b able 2.....I
Basically all im saying..is ...it seems like the only choice that is right in moSt ppls eyes is 2 keep the baby no matter what problemz it would be living in...or what situation the mother is in...unfortunately some r not Inthe position to.provide a home for a baby...and have 2.make some hard decisions... adoption is a good answer...and I doubt anyons makes yhat choice without thinkin long and hard about it.....same with abortion...im.not against abortion..it was not right for me..(I had good reasons 2)..I just could.not do it..and im.very happy I didnt..but thats not the best choice for evryone...I dunno...it just suprised me that most ppl always say go with adoption instead of abortio ...then when someone was doing that...most of the answers were against that as well...

[iDez]

I agree with LucyMarie1991....well said

[specialmom]

I don't think it is the right decision to keep a child no matter what personally.  I believe in choice and sometimes abortion is an option that does make sense for someone.  Same with adoption.  These can be very valid choices for a woman or young lady that is not in the position to adequately care for a child.  Or doesn't want to.  

I do think sometimes babies suffer when with people unprepared or immature raising them.  And there is a vicious cycle of poverty associated with this.  Children born into poverty often live that way their entire life and hat is unfortunate.

But people have to do what they feel is best.  And many many women make it work as a single mom or a young couple with the odds against them and that is great when that is the case.  

So, in essence, there is no right or wrong answer and everyone really needs to do what is best for them.  luck to all

[RayJackson]

completely agree with u ^^

[LucyMarie1991]

Consider giving the baby up because "she opened her legs". It is completely hypocritical.
I believe that every woman has the right to choose. And none of us have the right to bash any of them for their choice.
And to the women who use god as some kind of guilt trip, not everyone is religious. So saying "oh honey, god won't put on you more than you can handle" or "well it was obviously gods plan" is of no comfort and will mostly just annoy someone who wants support, not.guilt.
And I'm sorry, but at a few weeks, abortion is not murder. At 5w the fetus doesn't have a heartbeat. How can you kill something that isn't really alive yet.

[LucyMarie1991]

At the end of the day, this forum is for support and advice. And many of these girls and young women may have nowhere else to turn. Yes I agree that we all know sex=babies, but if a woman is using birth control which fails, or is possibly in an abusive relationship is it really right to pressure her into keeping her baby because "she opened her legs".
And when they are being abused, the advise given by most is leave the guy and raise the baby by yourself.
Why is it Ok for the man to get off lightly and not have to spend the next 18+ years raising a child he helped make? But the woman cannot even considergiving t

[RayJackson]

I'm pro choice, because I believe that there are situations where abortion is the right thing to do. I personally had one last year because I was not in the position to care for a baby. I could never consider adoption, I know the pros and cons of it because my brother is adopted and his family before us that had adopted him was awful to him even locked him up. it's not always the best option. and on top of that I do not have heath insurance and was denied coverage, therefore I couldn't even afford having it. and I was also going to be possibly homeless . I believe having a child when u cannot fully provide for it is wrong. I regret it, but know I DoD what I needed to do. I'm now 12 weeks, with a completely different situation.. it depends on the situation and I feel it's harsh to bash a women when u have no idea of the struggles in her life.

[hellojojo2200]

Ya I agree...abortions are not birth control!!!!!!

[minimistyy]

I'm against abortion , but that's just me . If you know and think long an hard bout adoption threw out the whole time your pregnant and you know you can't raise the baby and wanna give it a better life . Then give your baby up for adoption . Least there will be a family that will give the baby the best life possible . Might even be a family that can't have kids of their own . I could never have an abortion , the guilt would live with me forever . If I knew I couldn't provide for the baby or give the baby a good life , I would deff give him/her up for adoption or to a family who has struggled to have any kids of their own . But that's just me . It would be hard for me to give the baby up for adoption , but I would know I made the right choice and giving him/her a better life . I do understand everyone's reasons one abortion and adoption . But one thing I can't stand is when people keep getting pregnant and keep having abortions everytime .

[tasha_mudding18]

I don't want to sound crappy but if someone isn't in the position to take care of what they did than don't open your legs.  The only reason you should get adoption is if you were raped. You should never kill an innocent baby. Keep the legs closed until you can handle a baby. Sorry but it's true.  

[Staci_Day]

Once that baby is conceived I believe that it is a human and has a soul. I believe abortion is the same as murdering a person.

[hellojojo2200]

Its cool... :)

[syddie50]

I agree whole heartedly! If a woman can't honestly keep her baby why would you try to convince her to keep it when it'd be better off with someone who can afford a baby. (: I think I might have misunderstood your post forgive me I'm extremely tired but can't sleep lol XP

[hellojojo2200]

I agree..to a  certain point...thats why im saying ppl shudnt be discouraged or put down for deciding to go with adoption

[syddie50]

Well abortion in my opinion is killing an innocent human being and when there are so many infertile women out there why would you kill a little life that deserves to live just as much as you and I have. Just my opinion though.

[hellojojo2200]

***good reasons.2 consider abortion as well..