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adoption?
Im 15 almost 16 weeks pregnant. I didn't plan this pregnancy. I know I had sex blah blah blah. My fault. But there's more to the story I'm not going into.
My question is. How do I go about adoption? What are my options? I can't be a mom. I'm not ready. Help please.
My question is. How do I go about adoption? What are my options? I can't be a mom. I'm not ready. Help please.
COMMUNITY LEADER
I'm not sure why it would be a bad thing for the father of the child to adopt the child if you are considering adoption unless it is out of being vindictive. Just being honest.
It all depends on where you live.
I thought about giving this baby (I'm 13wks) up for adoption (for the wrong reasons, I just didn't want to have to deal with the father of the child because im in love with him, and he ended things abruptly for his ex, etc)
But when I brought that up to him, he said he would never sign anything. I looked it up thinking if I just played 'dumb' and said I got pregnant by a 1 night stand, and had no contact with the guy, that I could get away with it. But I couldn't morally do that, because I live in SUCH a small town and EVERYONE knows we were together and TRYING to have a baby... And the laws here NEED the signature of the father for adoption unless you actually don't know who it is.
I thought about giving this baby (I'm 13wks) up for adoption (for the wrong reasons, I just didn't want to have to deal with the father of the child because im in love with him, and he ended things abruptly for his ex, etc)
But when I brought that up to him, he said he would never sign anything. I looked it up thinking if I just played 'dumb' and said I got pregnant by a 1 night stand, and had no contact with the guy, that I could get away with it. But I couldn't morally do that, because I live in SUCH a small town and EVERYONE knows we were together and TRYING to have a baby... And the laws here NEED the signature of the father for adoption unless you actually don't know who it is.
Yeah. That's why i didn't know. But I see my Dr at the end of the month. I'll ask her about it then.
Oopsies sorry I thought you were saying you were fifteen years old but as @specialmom said have a lawyer help you out with the legal matters because all in all you are the one making the baby the decision is yours you and the baby daddy aren't married so I'm not absolutely sure how you'd go about it..?
I'm 20. Sorry ladies. I'll be 16 weeks on Sunday is what I was meaning. Yeah the baby daddy said he wants to be there for his kid once I have it. But idk. I'm definitely gonna talk to my Dr when I see her next.
COMMUNITY LEADER
That is how I read it as well but also couldn't tell how old she is. Either way, adoption sounds to be a good option!! Hope she pursues it. :>))
I think she meant she is 15 weeks pregnant almost 16 weeks. I dont think that was her age..
COMMUNITY LEADER
Most children end up in loving homes with good parents. Please don't let any fear of an unusual circumstance scare you off of adoption!
I would not, at this point, worry about the father. When you begin going through the adoptive process, you can talk to the agency or attorney you're dealing with (and honestly, all expenses are generally paid via the adoptive family for the adoption as you have a wonderful gift to offer) about the father. They make sure everything is legal.
But since he is not even calling you---- he's not interested in this baby 'really'. I would not fear any repercussions.
anyway, let us know what you find out--- but your doctor is a good place to start with whom to call and adoption lawyers (from the internet or phone book). Is your mom on board to help you?
I would not, at this point, worry about the father. When you begin going through the adoptive process, you can talk to the agency or attorney you're dealing with (and honestly, all expenses are generally paid via the adoptive family for the adoption as you have a wonderful gift to offer) about the father. They make sure everything is legal.
But since he is not even calling you---- he's not interested in this baby 'really'. I would not fear any repercussions.
anyway, let us know what you find out--- but your doctor is a good place to start with whom to call and adoption lawyers (from the internet or phone book). Is your mom on board to help you?
And you are fifteen he has no say in the matter he's over 18 so if he says anything he can get charged with statutory rape even if both of you wanted to do it your a minor you have every right to do as you wish unless he thinks he looks good enough in Orange to wear it for a couple of years
Yes he knows. He's 23 almost 24. I haven't heard from him since a month ago. He just wants to be there when the baby is born and after that. Wants nothing to do with me tho
And another question how old is the baby daddy
My father didn't even know does the father of the baby know ur pregnant by him?
Omg so sadd
But my twin brother ended up with a really good family that loves him and took really good care of him so it can go both ways it's much better than not even giving the baby a chance now I'm 20 years old married and expecting my first baby and I am a very happy woman indeed I've left the past behind me
Oh wow. Yeah I'd definitely get to know them.
Another question. I'm not with the father. But does he have to be in agreement with the adoption? Or can I do it without him?
Another question. I'm not with the father. But does he have to be in agreement with the adoption? Or can I do it without him?
You're the best mommy ever!!!! Doing the hardest thing in the world for the benefit of the baby!!!!!
Coming from someone who was adopted make sure you get to know the family real well before just letting them adopt your baby my adoptive mother didn't give a flying flip about me at all make sure that a child is what BOTH parents want not just one cuz if only one parent wants the baby the other parent will feel badly towards the child for its entire life and the child will grow up not trusting anyone because the person they called mom hit them every time they felt the urge to for absolutely nothing
Thankyou ladies so much! And thankyou for not judging. I just want this baby to have everything he or she could ever want and I can't give that.
You can always go to plan parent hood or a women's clinic both places will talk to you and help you and give you information about adoption. I went to a woman's clinic when I was pregnant with my first baby cause I was confused but I had a miscarriage and they helped me thru that to and now I'm pregnant again and kinda stuck again.
Yes definately talk to your doctor. Theres a lot of adoption agencies out there and plenty of families who would love to adopt a child. I think its amazing that your thinking about thag option. :)
Yes talk to your doctor and they can give you all your options about adoption
Talk to your doctor
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