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Hello I'm 29 I am a mother of 5 children. I resently found out I am pregnant with my 6th baby . I have a 11,10,8 and a set of 19 month old identical twin boys. My husband and I were not expecting to have more children after the twins. When I told my husband he went into freeze mode freaking out telling me to have an abortion as he will not raise another child. I have NEVER considered this as an option however I'm scared to have another baby as I almost died after developing postpartum pre eclampsia after the twins were born. My Dr told me I am at risk again for it since I already had it once. My worst fear is getting this again and not being able to care for my children. I'm all they have I do everything feeding bathing dressing changing taking my older kids back and forth to school appointments the help I get from my husband is little any adive would help thank u
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I thank you both very much for your advice and for taking the time to help me understand that my worries aren't selfish I was so scared to even think about the option I'm praying about this constantly and I only pray that I am strong even enough to make the right choice that is best for everyone involved thank u so much again and I will keep u posted
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Hi there.  I really agree with EllaMari.  I think abortion really can be a good option for women in your situation.  This is your health---  physical and mental health that we are talking about here.  You have 5 children to care for now.  That's hard without the complications that might come about due to another pregnancy.  

But this has to be YOUR decision.  I would talk to your husband.  Once the gut reaction/shock wears off---  really talk to him and come up with what you want to do together.  I would tell him you are open to discussing abortion (if you are) but want to make a thoughtful decision together.   Then talk about pros and cons of it.  

peace and luck and we are here any time you need us.  Let us know what you decide and if we can support you in any way.  hugs
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I want to start by acknowledging how difficult, scary, and overwhelming your situation must seem.

I'm sure you and your husband are pretty intimidated by the idea of having another child to support. You are most likely worried about the financial impact this will have on everyone in your family and it is something very serious to consider.

Then there is the emotional aspect, can you handle more stress? What happens if you get postpartum and pre eclampsia again? Like you said, your children need you.

It does seem there are big risks you would be taking by continuing the pregnancy. If it were me, I would terminate. Then make my husbsnd get a vasectomy.

Most women never think they will need an abortion and many women who get them are in situations like yours. It just has to be what you want and can be OK with. Lots of support and peace to you for whatever you decide.
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