am I horrible?

[momma_101214]

I'm gunna start this out with this. im 7 weeks 2 days pregnant and I have 2 girls already. I honestly feel horrible saying this, but I don't want this baby. I can barely afford the 2 I have and I'm not with the dad of this one. none the less, it'll make #3 from a different guy. my oldest wasnt planned, I was taken advantage of and he has nothing to do with her, my current youngest was planned but her dad and I split due to problems between us. and now, this sperm donor, yes I will call him that, already has 3 kids on the ground, and possibly a 4th!!!!! the baby wasnt planned at all, my patch failed as well as the condom. im in a hard spot bc lately me and my youngest dad have been working things out and I can see us back together by the end of the year, BUT if I keep this baby, that's not going to happen..

what would you do? it wouldn't be fair to the baby being brought into a world where I'm already struggling and barely able to afford what I can :/

[meganmalie]

I believe in a woman right to choose! You do what's best for you and no one else. Don't let anyone's opinions on here dictate your decision to do what you feel is necessary or right for your situation. If you choose to have an abortion good for you, if you decide to give the baby up for adoption good for you, if you decide to keep the baby good for you! Good luck on this very hard decisi

[MamaDanielle]

Of course not, well thats not what im saying anyway. My first option would be adoption, but I totally understand how that would he emotionally impossible for some people.

[elliec1989]

Just do whats best for u and ur kids. Its very very hard but u have to do what u see best x

[Love_N_Hate]

You aren't a horrible person. I may be young considering I'm only 19 but i was stupid when i was younger and ended up pregnant at 16. After i found out i had to really grow up and make a huge decision. I ended up getting an abortion because i really didn't have a choice it was either that or the father could go to prison for 10 to 20 because he was 21 and my mom gave me an ultimatum. I said i hated her for a while after that but after a couple months had gone by and i had time to kind of move on a little i realized that it was the best decision for me. I never would have been able to give up the baby for adoption after carrying it for 9 months. Now I'll be 38 weeks Tuesday with another unplanned pregnancy but i was on birth control just like you and it was a total accident. Looking back on when i was 16 i don't regret what had to happen or blame my mom for what she made me choose between because i realize i wouldn't have been ableto do half the things that i have since then. Now I'm in college and have a 4.0 GPA, live in my own apartment and own my own car. Some women believe your a horrible person for getting an abortion instead of doing adoption but in my humble and honest opinion your not because deciding between the two can be one of the biggest decisions of your life. There are moments I still wonder what could have been but those are few and far between and go by so fast that I don't even stop to try and remember then. Alls that matters is that you do what you think is best for you and your two babies already. If you want or need to talk please feel free to private message me, I may only be 19 but going through some of the stuff I have i don't feel or act like it. Your a strong woman and just need to do what you think is best and not listen to what others say you should do.

[MamaDanielle]

Thankyou for your advice hun but honestly im perfectly educated enough to know that everyone has equal rights.i will teach my child just as i have been taught and that is that you do not judge others based on their life decisions. If you want an abortion you can have one without being a bad person. So if you say these options are a test then how come so many people come out happier and stronger after doing what is right for them? You cant speak for everyone

[Absey]

Looking at the comments going back and forth im suprised your not completly confused! Your still really early in the pregnancy. If i was you i would goand tlk to your doctor. That way you can voice your thoughts and opinions to someone that will not judge you. They can then give you advise and all differnt information on each option so you can work out yourself which is the best option.  Before anyone slates me, i wouldnt have an abortion myself but i would never judge a single person for considering/having one as you do not know their sistuation. Good luck sweetie xxx

[Lulu_Beear]

Honestly , its not like you were having unprotected sex and got pregnant ! You were on birthcontrol ! to PREVENT pregnancy ! Do whatever is best for you and your kids

[bellamommydaddy]

I love my babygirl so much and I couldn't imagine getting an abortion with another. But I won't call you a horrible person. If you're gonna do it just please do it asap before he/she gets a heartbeat and feelings. Don't drag it out. Goodluck.

[HeatherEstelle]

This topic hits me close to home and I personally think that it is your choice, but reading everything that you've said reminds me of myself a bit. I was pregnant this time last year and it was unplanned, I have always told myself that abortion was okay for others but that I would never be able to. Well I was a freshman in college and only 19, so it was very unexpected. After the 9th week I finally caved and aborted it. I cried the entire time and still regret my choice to this day. I am now just 4 days away from my fue faye to a beautiful little girl and I couldn't be happier but a part of me still wonders about the other pregnancy from time to time. If you honestly feel you have no other options then you should do what you feel is right, just don't forget that you need to make a choice that won't make you feel regret either, it can be a dangerous thing. I hope everything works out for you though! Best wishes!

[abbb01]

I feel u have every right to get an abortion because it wasnt juat unplanned it was a bc failure.  If ur bc doesnt do its job then that can leave u in a horrible situation like u are at no fault to u. I would feel horrible either abortion or adoption. Yes adoption can be a great thing thing but it can also mess a kid up for life. I would say do whats best for u and ur girls and get a different bc thats more reliable.  Life is precious but quality of life is more precious to me

[smackems]

let me just say this god doesnt give you anything you cant handle he puts things in our lives for a reason its all apart of his plan weather u feel ready or not theres a reason he blessed you with that baby seeing that u did evrything to prevent a baby & he still got one says to.me it was meant for you to keep the baby only god knows your strength he knows it better than you do . You may feel like you cant do it but god makes ways he's been making a way for you & your two girls thus far why would he stop there ? Im not tryna preach or nothing im just voicing my opinion . Your not a horrible person whatever u decide it ultimately up to you hun & i wish you nothing but the best & at the end of the day no one has the right to judge you either !god bless :)

[AOlivia94]

Your body your choice. Do whatever you want. Considering you have stated you have already made up your mind I don't see a reason why you need the input of a bunch of strangers. Of course a forum of pregnant women there will be tons of responses against abortion. At the end of the day you are the one who lives your life. Not any of us. As far as asking if you're horrible, who cares what strangers on the internet think of you.

[mitch_14]

Goodluck with whatever you decided no choice will be easy but you sound like you know what is best for your family and that's all you can do is what is best for your situation no one else's.

[RN_JC]

I'm pro choice. Do what is best for you and don't beat yourself up for the choices that you make. No one knows your circumstances therefore no one can really tell you what to do. Just remember that abortion is not a form of birth control and be careful in the future. Best wishes hun

[keke_mommyof3]

Do what is best for you an them girls good luck!!

[momma_101214]

thank you. Im the kind of person once my mind made up, ain't no changing it. it's nit going to affect me like everyone thinks. I'm not attached to him/her. I'm not ready. Its really not wanted. there's more NOTS then DOs right now in this pregnancy, and I've made my mind up, I'm just seeing what others think. Granted its a horrible decision to assume, it's the BEST for my girls and i

[sutton19]

In my opinion if the guy you're going to get back with really loves you he will still be with you even tho you're prego with a different mans baby.  I mean it's not like you cheated on him with that guy, you guys were broken up right?  Just think of it this way if he got a girl prego an wanted you back, if you loved him enough you would be upset an sad but wouldn't some part of you still want to be with him? I don't think you should abort hun. But it's your decision.. don't let anyone judge you!   You might regret it tho. But it doesn't make you a bad person if you do decide to get an abortion! :) I hope everything goes good! Good luck hun an god bless!! :D

[keke_mommyof3]

Honey I been in your shoes an trust me I cried for days before I made the decision to get an abortion but I felt in my heart it was the only right thing I was still really early and look now I'm blessed with my 3rd baby and I'm ready!!  So I believe God forgave me an was ready for me to be a mommy again

[momma_101214]

exactly, I couldn't live with myself knowing I have a child out there somewhere being raised by other people. I couldn't live with that knowledge.

[momma_101214]

exactly. im not prepared for a 4 yr old a 2 yr old and a newborn. ALL  on my own. I have miscarried once around this far into my second pregnancy (in between my girls) and honestly that's how I'd feel now if I did. I don't even consider it an abortion at how early I am.

[keke_mommyof3]

Do what is best for you before this pregnancy I had my baby boy in 2012 an got pregnant two months later I knew I was ready for a newborn a 4 year old and being 2 months pregnant i got an abortion at 8 weeks an I feel it was the best decision for me an my family I knew in my heart I couldn't go with adoption its just something I couldn't do and there are a lot of people who would say abortion is murder but unless you been in somebody shoe who are you to judge!!!!

[katieangel27]

Good Luck. I truly mean that.... dont let the negative comments take over. There's alot of positive good people on here and in the end you will do what best

[SlavicaTurpin]

Whatever your heart tells you to do, just remember you will be the one having to deal with the consequences at the end. Only you know what your heart can handle. Are you gonna feel guilty after abortion or adoption? Are you gonna be glad you did it because that was the best choice for you and the baby? God forgives will you be able to?

[kayydeeohh]

Good for you. Good luvk with everything and your decisions. Youll do whats best