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considering adoption but again of judgment.
Ok so I'm nearing the end of pregnancy and honestly I thought of abortion but couldn't do it . The baby didn't ask to be here. I really don't think I'll be able to provide for the baby as I would like to. Family say they'll be there for you but it's not their responsibility or do they always lend a helping hand . I'm a ftm and I'm so scared having so many emotions. Sometimes I feel connected sometimes I dont. Most of the time I spend my time alone in the room crying . My babyfather is a worthless price of you know what.
Adoption is an admirable choice. A good friend of mine was only able to have one child but she and her husband wanted more. They adopted an African-American boy and a little girl from China. They're a multi cultural family and they're so happy to have the opportunity to give these great kids a loving and stable home. The adopted kids are doing great. Very high grades in school, participating in sports, you name it. They're very happy and well adjusted kids and it's because my friends opened their home to two kids whose birth parents recognized they couldn't provide the same kind of life for them and selflessly gave them to a family who has been taking wonderful care of them. It's truly inspiring and very amazing to see.
Adoption is an amazing, wonderful option. It's a tough decision for sure, and one that must be weighed carefully, considering the pros and cons.
As for worrying about foster care, often times, depending on the way the adoption is set up, the child never even needs to go into foster care, and I also agree that most foster homes aren't anything like they are portrayed.
It's easy for people to say, "you'll figure it out" when it comes to caring for and raising a child, but it's just not that cut and dry I'm afraid. I commend you for considering your options, and wanting to ensure that your child is cared for in every possible way...even if it means YOU cannot be the one to do that.
There are so many different adoption options, from open to closed. Please do your homework, talk to some professionals, and other people who have experience on both sides of the adoption issue.
I wish you the very best in your decision. Don't make a decision like this without giving it real time and attention.
As for worrying about foster care, often times, depending on the way the adoption is set up, the child never even needs to go into foster care, and I also agree that most foster homes aren't anything like they are portrayed.
It's easy for people to say, "you'll figure it out" when it comes to caring for and raising a child, but it's just not that cut and dry I'm afraid. I commend you for considering your options, and wanting to ensure that your child is cared for in every possible way...even if it means YOU cannot be the one to do that.
There are so many different adoption options, from open to closed. Please do your homework, talk to some professionals, and other people who have experience on both sides of the adoption issue.
I wish you the very best in your decision. Don't make a decision like this without giving it real time and attention.
my parents are foster parents and treat every child that comes in our home like their blood children. they help them learn and grow into wonderful people while providing tremendous amounts of love. my parents have even gone out of their way to adopt a child we had in foster care that we were just way too attached too. to this day even foster children that have went home to their own parents still visit regularly and call my parents mom and dad and look at me like a sister and always will. not all foster homes are awful like they are portrayed to be. we provide so much care and love. I know a foster home and adoption are different but my point is that their are people in this world who simply want to love any child and will kill to do so. whatever decision u make good luck, but just truly weight ur options. I'm sure u may have a change of heart the moment u hold ur baby :) if not, still good luck! wishing u the best!
At first I was considering adoption but I recently changed my mind. It's totally up to you. I even looked into adoption agencies and there's a Christian one that I like. They do open adoption so you can still see your child and stuff. You should look into it.
You ladies are right . I'm just afraid of the struggle but I know I'm not the first and definitely won't be the last. I believe keeping this baby will put all important priorities first and keep me striving for better for the baby
I used to feel like that sometimes I feel like I'm too selfish to be a mommy but I have a great BD for the most part but in my opinion adoption can be.good to cus there are those loving couples out there that can't have children and would love one its all up to you you've got to do what will be best for you and baby I couldn't ever give mine up it would upset so many ppl and I think I'd feel terrible I just get really scared about it sometimes but I believe you can and will make the best choice but remember its not the materialistic things you can give your baby that counts its the love you give that's where its really at good luck :)
This is your dicision and yours alown. There is a adoption foram on this ap that can give you some personal stories from both sides of the birth perants and the adoptive ones. I just sugest you reaserch this alot befor making any decision becouse if you decide to adopt then chainge your mind you could end up loseing your baby dew to lapsed time or you could breack a desprat adoptive parents heart. Concider all your options carfuly befor making any choices and with whatever you decide i wish you and you'r bub a wondufule happy life
What about open adoption? That way you can stay in your baby's life. I'm sorry that you even have to consider it
As a mom you will always find ways to take care of your children. Once he/she is born it will become real and you will put his or her needs before your own. You can do it. Tons of women do, you can always apply for assistance if you need to. There will ALWAYS be someone more financially stable than you are. But money doesn't buy everything, not that an adoptive parent wouldnt provide love etc. You can make your childs life great if you choose to and try as hard as you can. Someone may be able to do it better but that doesn't make you a bad parent. But if it's something you truly believe by all means I have nothing against adoption, I think it is a very selfless thing to do, just remember if they can do it so can you!
If you decide to give your baby away just think of all the pros and cons first. Most times bad things happens to babies in foster care or with foster families so maybe do your reach the search on looking for a loving couple. Before considering the option
I started out 15 with my first child I didn't know anything about mother hood I was a child my self my mother is a widow she had no job and that never crossed my mind adoption or abortion but yes I would stress about how to provide for my child dont give ur child for adoption thier a blessing on your hardest moments make you keep on going striving for better thier always light at the end of the tunnel ..you can also have help with programs that government offers put this unworthy guy in child support but at the end of the day is your decision good luck GBY
Thank you this is probably the hardest thing I ever have to do . I don't want to imagine my baby in a foster home
It's totally up to you whether or not to give it up. I would look into adoption agencies and look into all of your options. Maybe do some interviews with couples who want to adopt. Decide then if you think the baby will be better off with them or you. Also consider whether you want a closed or open adoption. You're not alone in this hard choice. Seek help from support groups as well. Good luck.
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