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help!
I'm 19 yrs old, I took a home pregnancy test & came out positive. I am not with the guy nor do I want to be...I was considering an abortion bc I'm not financially ready for a baby..but knowing this baby inside of me and possibly have a heart beat breaks my heart to do it...indeed some serious advice and help. my parents don't know and I'm scared to death.
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Yes, I agree. You do have options and only you can decide what is best for you. Some women do have abortions and it is the best option for them. It is the wrong time of their life, they can't provide what they want to for their child, they are not ready to be parents and don't want to go through a pregnancy --so decide that termination is the best option.
Or they can decide on adoption which can be a very wonderful decision to make as well. A couple that wants a baby is given that beautiful gift and you are able to go on and live the life you want to after the child is born. You can do an open adoption or a closed adoption based on what you and the adoptive parents want. And then when the time is right, you can begin a family.
Or you can choose to keep the baby and raise the child as a single parent. Reality is that this is hard but many women do it. You have to understand all involved and make plans for it-- things like how you will financially support a baby, how you will go to school (who will watch the baby) and get your education that everyone needs, how to be financial independent at some point, health care for the baby, and understand that you will sacrifice your own free time at a time in which you will long to be free of the responsibility that comes with children. In return for the sacrifices, you get the love of your life as babies are wonderful. Lots of work, but wonderful. Being realistic is important in any decision about how you will feel before, during, and after the outcome of that decision.
I do wish you the best and am here to discuss ANY of the options you have before you with no judgment or preconceived notion about what you should do. It is ONLY for you to decide. good luck dear.
Or they can decide on adoption which can be a very wonderful decision to make as well. A couple that wants a baby is given that beautiful gift and you are able to go on and live the life you want to after the child is born. You can do an open adoption or a closed adoption based on what you and the adoptive parents want. And then when the time is right, you can begin a family.
Or you can choose to keep the baby and raise the child as a single parent. Reality is that this is hard but many women do it. You have to understand all involved and make plans for it-- things like how you will financially support a baby, how you will go to school (who will watch the baby) and get your education that everyone needs, how to be financial independent at some point, health care for the baby, and understand that you will sacrifice your own free time at a time in which you will long to be free of the responsibility that comes with children. In return for the sacrifices, you get the love of your life as babies are wonderful. Lots of work, but wonderful. Being realistic is important in any decision about how you will feel before, during, and after the outcome of that decision.
I do wish you the best and am here to discuss ANY of the options you have before you with no judgment or preconceived notion about what you should do. It is ONLY for you to decide. good luck dear.
This is a tough time in your life. My advice is if you have doubts don't do it because it leads to regrets later. I would talk to your parents. Because parents will give you the most support because they love you very much. Remember they were young once and made mistakes themselves and will give you the best advice. Sometimes it's scary but at least you know they will support you and be completely honest.
If you can't talk to your parents (in other words, really can't, not just don't want to, like if they are abusive and might hurt you), please talk to a trusted female friend who is a bit older than you. You need to talk in person. On this site, you will get a lot of people who feel it's fine to keep the baby even at 19 -- when someone posts who feels this way, she gets a lot of support. And you will get a lot of rooting for adoption, with the carrot "many couples are just aching for the chance to have a baby" and the stick "just because you made a mistake does not mean you should kill the result of your mistake." You won't hear a lot of pro-choice remarks on this site. Yet abortion is legal in most places, for a reason. Before it was, young women would go to desperate measures, even though adoption was as available then as it is now as an option. Some women simply have strong reasons not to have a pregnancy.
Assess your choices with someone you trust, who can talk it all over with you, and help you come to an understanding of what each option would mean. If not your mom, your aunt? A parent of a friend? Even a counselor or therapist? You won't get good help online with this.
Assess your choices with someone you trust, who can talk it all over with you, and help you come to an understanding of what each option would mean. If not your mom, your aunt? A parent of a friend? Even a counselor or therapist? You won't get good help online with this.
Only you can decide what you wanna do hun. Speak to your parents and see what they say, cause they;ll know eventually. They can also be a great support tro you whether you choose to keep the baby or not. If you do, they can help you out financially, housing etc I presume? And if not, well they're going to know that something is upsetting you cause it's an upsetting time after an abortion and you will feel very emottional Good luck
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