how to cope with rejection

[4281417117655346904_938_5]

Hiya girls, Ive just found out im pregnant with my 2nd child. Im 26 been with my partner for four years and weve got our own house etc, anyway today ive told my mum ( who absolutely hates my fiancé ) Purley because of the bad patch we went through, arguing etc, anyway shes said some pretty hurtfull things to me today, in other words she doesnt want anything to do with me if I keep this baby, its never been an option to terminate my child,me and my partner both feel blessed to have been given a child, I just dont know how to deal with my mum, any advice? Thankyou x

[millimeter89]

Xx

[4281417117655346904_938_5]

I had a rough time with him for the first 12 to 18months of the relationship weve both got 1 child each already from a previous relationship.  He had a very bad relationship before, she cheated on him alot used to hit him then left with his child, he used to put me down alot but in the end I stood up to him, enough was enough, it was always his way or no way, he begged me to come home and after a month I did go back, back to my home with him, and he has been perfect since, hes always spoilt me and took me out, took me and the kids on holidays abroad, brought me puppies. Etc, but hes a very shy person and I think my mum mistakes that for ignorance,  hes got his own buisness we own our own house, weve got a car each, he pays all the bills, ive got everything with him, but all she can see is the bad hes done in the past and to be perfectly honest he isnt even that bad, hes just got a gob on him sometimes but who hasnt when they get angry, he doesnt drink smoke or take drugs,  I think its just because hes upset me a few to many times in her eyes

[specialmom]

Sorry to hear about her reaction.  She must really be concerned about you with your fiancé.  What kind of rough patch was this?  

Anyway, whether everything works out fantastic or not, it is your life to live.  Your mom shouldn't threaten you in that way and I'd guess she doesn't mean it.  If your guy were on drugs or something major and she was trying to get through to you, that would make more sense even if still not the right way to handle that.  

I would go on about your life.  Forgive her if she retracts these kinds of statements and let her know it hurt you.  Good luck with your baby.  

[XxCookieMonsterxX]

It's OK! !!! If she wants to behave in such a manner, than cut her off. She is not fit to be the grandmother or have contact with your child since she wants you to get rid of it. However, I'm sure she will come around and when she apologizes, than you can slowly incorporate her into your child's life after you set firm rules.

[wyattsmom2015]

Only thing you can do is choose to love and care for baby no matter her opinion. You and your boyfriend are having a baby and she can just get over it or miss out. Its her loss not yours and personally I would not let her in the baby's life even if she changed her mind just because of her attitude when she found out.

[jaloveslorelei]

Oh my gosh this makes me so angry when I read stuff like this, I am really sorry to hear. Its amazing people can be so rotten about a baby, and even worse when it's your own family! Put your foot down now. She wants control and attention. Let her know that conditional love will not be tolerated although her forwardness was appreciated and it was nice knowing her. Protect your beautiful baby you will feel so much better than trying to won your mom's affection! Congratulations!

[KellSull]

I cannot imagine a mother saying that about her grandbaby!! That is so horrible. Hopefully she will come around. Stand your ground with her and let her know you won't tolerate her negativity. Good luck! And congrats on your prrgnancy!

[bgirl1285]

Wouldnt worry about what mom thinks. If you are happy then be happy. I know it hurts but it will pass. She might come around but dont stress over it. If you stress too much it will have an affect on the baby. Just be happy for your family.

[dhill1989]

I wouldn't let her get to me at all or try to pressure me into doing something I don't wanna do. Your 26 with a fiance and you don't live at home. I wouldn't care how she feels about being pregnant or my fiance. Once you started your family they become first. No matter what if your happy your fiance is happy that's all that would matter to me. I know it might be hard but at the same time it's your life and decision. Enjoy your pregnancy and live your life to the fulliest. And just put it in gods hands.

[1578594233168731253_692_5]

Congratulations! ! I am sorry about the lack of support from your mother.  It's great that your fiance is there for you and that really is very important.  She may threaten to have nothing to do with you but she may just need more time to adjust.  It's tough when there are Rocky feelings between mom and the father of the baby.  But don't terminate a life over her concern for your happiness and well-being.  She may just be worried about you being happy in the long run.  Maybe might take time for her to see that things are better now. Just try to not let her stress you out and enjoy being given this bundle of blessings!

[kate042015]

If she wants to act that way there really isn't much you can do. Maybe after baby is born she'll come around. Don't let her dim your joy over your child. Good luck.

[Angie1722]

Your mom needs to get over it. Do not terminate the life inside of you. Your be may not be perfect but she doesn't need to condemn him and disown you or your child.