need advice

[Amourbiianca]

I've been dating my first love who actually took my virginity for 2 years and just found out that he cheated on me "a year ago" and Now all of a sudden I have chylmidyia. I'm 9 weeks pregnant and I'm not sure if I should keep it and stay with him or just stop everything now while I have the control .

[rajahn]

This is a decision for one on else but you.  I was a young mother in a similar situation please contact me if you want some advice about my similar story.  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, this is such a personal and deep question that I'm not sure anyone here can or should try to answer it for you  Hon, you have to sit down and really think what this means for you.  Having a child with someone you want to end things with means you really can't ever be totally done with them. A child binds the two of you for the rest of your life.  It also means that you would be a single mom. This is done by many woman and they make it work but it is a hard road to take.  Hats off to all single moms, for sure!  But you have to think if this is what you want and the direction you want your life to take.  It's okay if it isn't.  We have choices as women in this country and you need to think what makes the most sense for you!  There is no shame in any choice you make.  Oh, and there is adoption as well.  

So, think about what is best for you hon.  No one here can answer that for you.  peace and hugs.  Here if you need any help talking this through.  

[OctoberMommy2014]

trust me, it's not worth it.

keep your baby, lose the guy, and you'll never regret it.

you'll never look at your baby & say, "I regret you." BUT trust me.. you'll look back & say, "I wonder.." or "I wish.." if you go through with the abortion.

trust me. it's a hard pill to swallow.

good luck & congrats! EMBRACE becoming a mother.. it's a gift. I thank God for my (almost) 8-month-old, but I regret having to repent for the sin I committed with his first sibling a few years ago.. it's a pain I'll live with for the rest of my life, unfortunately. <3

[santimargrid]

Please have an ultrasound and bond with your baby, he or she has little limbs and a tiny heartbeat by now and totally depends on you. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, and I know it is very difficult to go through. I promise it will get better if you decide to leave the relationship, I know you can find someone who will love you and your tiny little baby more than you could imagine :)

[mommies2bee]

I do think you should dump him, but I'm pretty sure it's too late for you to do the abortion pill and you would have to get it surgically done. If you think you can raise the baby without your bf I would think about doing that. When I was 16 I got pregnant and my parents were going to kick me out if I didn't get an abortion even though I fought not to. Long story short I kept it as long as I could until I got extremely sick and had a 107 degree fever. After having it for nearly a week and my parents refusing to get me to a doctor the deal was that if I got an abortion they would help me get better. At that point I agreed because I figured my baby was already severely injured by the heat. Now 5 years later it still kills me that I couldn't of been stronger. I'm also pregnant again and it's hard to bear the fact that I killed my baby girls sibling. So my point is unless you can deal with there bein documents with your signature on them killing your child I suggest just dumping him and avoiding him... Try moving states or something. It's just a really hard thing to do and live with.

[PL01021925]

Keep the baby. I've had two and with my second pregnancy, the father gave me the same thing. Don't punish the baby. Believe me, being a mother is the greatest joy

[00Baby00]

I'm still with the person I lost my virginity with and personally I would hate him for the rest of my life if he ever cheated on me. Him not carrying about your health and passing chlamydia to you is horrible. Sometimes you can pass it on to the baby during pregnancy and I feel that the poor little doesn't deserve to have this. People that cheat once will keep cheating unless he's those rare type of people that truly regret it with all their heart. I'm so sorry for what happened to you :(.

[Kelbelsss]

You really shouldn't base such a heavy decision on whether or not you guys stay together. Yes what he did to you is terrible, but your baby shouldn't have to pay for his mistake. Esp if you have the means to care for him or her without your boyfriend, or by coparenting together.

[xoAmbsss]

I also agree . Guys come and go , but your baby will be there forever and love you unconditionally . Being a mom is an amazing expirience <3

[Roxxxy915]

Iagree w.^ xojensen , its his fault . Dont harm the baby the baby is innocent. Being a mom is a blessing .

[xojensen_]

I'd dump him and keep the baby, it's an easy fix they just give you antibiotics. But if my bf kept something that long from me would just make me question what else he's lied about. I have major trust issues so I just wouldn't be able to stay with him! But I'm really sorry to hear and I hope you decide on keeping the baby i bet you wouldn't regret it after finding out the sex and actually feel them kicking and hiccuping it's an amazing feeling <3