should i get an abortion?

[ratitas_p88]

Im a 47 year old woman, separated from my first husband, I got in to a relationship with a younger man , I meet him when he was 23, and I was 43, so basically 20 years younger than me, live together for three years and we have a baby daughter who is 1 year old now, we recently sort of split we haven't lived together from 5 mo ago, but we still have sex, finally he confesses he wants to be with me and our daugther but he love to have sex with other women, he asked me If I would accept his lifestyle, I said no to this, but I think im pregnant, I haven't have my period and I haven't been sexually w nobody else but him. Im confused becaused im trying to put him on child support and I don't know if I should have an abortion or keep the baby, part of me wants to keep the baby because its not the babys fault, but other part of me is afraid to have another kid and the situation and the mess we both inn, please I appreciated any good counseling, thank you

[AnnieBrooke]

I guess first you have to determine if you are really pregnant, and then if there is a chance the baby will be born with any kind of health challenges that would make life a burden to the child and to you.  You also have to work out whether you can afford two children by yourself (because if your boyfriend isn't paying child support now, even if you get a court order some guys will still find ways to shirk out of it.)  An abortion is not the only option, you could also put the child up for adoption (it can be an open adoption, so you know the child's story as time goes by).  You've got a lot to think about.  I would put your life with the child you have as your #1 priority, and if you can handle more on top of that, you have more choices.

[Sara_MHModerator]

Hi, I am moving this to woman's choice, however, you do not know if you are pregnant.  At the age of 47, many factors can cause a delayed period.  Please see your doctors to determine why your cycle is irregular or late.  We wish you the best.