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[willominna]

I'm 17 and I'm pregnant iets my bf last year on school I still have 2years left I don't know what to do to go for abortion or give my unborn child away need advice please

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, the best thing to do hon when you find yourself in this position is to weigh what works best for you. You do have options and none is better or worse than the other nor should anyone really tell you what they feel you should do.  It's more about what works best for YOU!

So, your first option is termination or abortion.  This is a great option when we just want to go on with our life.  We don't have to carry a baby to term and go through the hardship of pregnancy (which no doubt about it, IS hard) or the social stigma of being pregnant.  No questions to answer about what happened or what your plans are.  Just over with!  There is some beauty in that scenario for sure.  The procedure is pretty simple and it doesn't cost much.  It can even be free if you find a clinic that uses a sliding fee scale based on income.  They don't want a woman to not get an abortion that wants one due to cost!  Look up Planned parenthood in your area or a nearby city.  You can have a friend or your boyfriend drive you or your mom or a sibling.  

Another option that can be good is adoption. With this option, you give the gift of a child to a couple that can't have one and are wanting nothing more than parenting.  You can be connected to the baby through open adoption or not through a closed adoption.  Adoptive parents are vetted or 'checked out' to make sure they are good candidates so it is nice knowing your child is going to a home where parents are able to adequately take care of your child.  The downside is that you DO have to go through the full pregnancy which is hard on your body and opens up the door for lots of people to approach you about your choice, treat you a certain way because you are a teen mom, and to then ask what happened after you've had a baby ---  and where it is.  Nothing to major and you do eventually get to go on with your life as you do with termination but you have to endure a pregnancy and all that goes with that.  An adoption attorney is the place to start with this or an organization like Catholic Social Services.

Last, keeping the baby.  This is a rough one if you aren't prepared.  I'm a lover of children and a mother myself but it is hard and something that I feel we need to really have the right frame of mind to do a good job.  I'm sure you can do it if you set your heart on it and you are willing to work hard as many young, single teen moms do it and all turns out fine.  But you need to be very organized and prepared for the sacrifice involved.

Wishing you all the best and we are here to support you in any way.  It's YOUR decision sweetie, do what is best for you!  peace

[bakerymom82]

My mom was 17 when she got pregnant with me. It was very difficult for her, but she had support and help of her family. If you do not think you can provide a good life for your baby, consider adoption.  Not death. Your baby did not ask to be conceived. There are many families that can not have their own children. My aunt was adopted. She was blessed with an amazing family and now knows her "birth family" as well.

[Shannir]

You have to think on what you have to offer a baby. Most teen pregnancies the child grows up in poverty. How ever there are adults who would give your child the world. These days if you choose have ur baby adopted out there is open adoption. The best thing to do is go to you pregnancy center. Research all avenues before you make a final decision