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want your opinions!

Ok ladies, I would like to know your opinions on abortion..I myself would never consider one (unless it is a critical medical reason), but my Bestfriend is telling me she wants to have one. I kinda don't know what to say to her, other than do what's best for her, her boyfriend, and her 2 yr old. But I'm curious on how you ladies feel about abortion.
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It should never be an option ad a form of birth control. The only exceptions, in my eyes, are if there is something medically wrong with baby or mama OR if she was raped. I used to be pro choice before I got pregnant (with the same beliefs but not so strongly) but no, it is a miracle to provide life and not all have that privilage. Sure pregnancy ***** at times but (no disrespect intended) don't lay on ur back and open ur legs if ur not willing to own up to the responsibilities should the consequenses of sex arise. People who choose to abort as a birth control method are cowards. This is my sole opinion and beliefs. I dont mean to offend or disrespect anyone.
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Ditto on the above
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I would NEVER have an abortion unless like you said there was something VERY wrong bc the fact that there are so many people who can't have babies and desperately want one. Y kill a baby bc you don't want another or can't support another baby when you could find that baby a good family with parents that would love and care for it. I'm 18 pregnant with my second child and we might not have all the money in the world but we get by we have a place to live and my daughter is 3 and healthy and happy and has everything she needs and my son will be the same way I didn't plan to get pregnant again bc I know we are not ready for another baby but we will do the best we can bc it is our baby! Abortion nor adoption ever crossed my mind bc I GOT PREGNANT and my babies depend on me.
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I would never have an abortion, but I am prochoice.
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@baleighsmom7: I have a lot of respect for you, especially being a young teen mom. I'll be 25 Tuesday and I'm just gettin my life straight. You seem to have a head on ur shoulders. Not a lot of people that age are so mature. Well done!
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I would never have an abortion, but I am pro choice.  Now if you have an abortion, and get pregnant again and continue to have them, then you a moron.
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I believe a women should be able to make her own choices when it comes to her body. Also i dont think this question should be posted on here. This forum is for expecting moms. It maybe ppl on here or had abortions or maybe considering one and ur opinions which are not suppose to be on this kind of forum maybe be inappropriate for them.
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Aww thank you very much that means a lot. My babies are my world I just couldn't picture my life without my daughter and I know ill look back in a couple of years and say the same about my son!  What kills me about abortion is my sister lost her son when he was 3 months to sids and that was the hardest thig she ever went through and then there are people out there killing babies just bc THEY got pregnant and see abortion as an easy way out!
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@mommylove21 this is a support forum for regarding pregnancy. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and as long as everyone is respectful, whats it matter?
@baleighsmom7 my husbands cousin jusr had a baby and she's 18 but the complete opposite. She always complains about the father and how he acts and treats her. Its like he did that before u had a child together. Why would he change now.
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Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Im expecting my first bby and abortion never crossed my mind. But i will never judge someone who decides to make a personal choice with their.body.you never know someones situation. Having a abortion has nothing to do with people who cant have children or miscarriages or anything else. I just dont think this forum is the right place for a debate on if abortion is right or wrong. I mean who are we to decide
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I didn't ask if it is right or wrong, I'm just curious to know opinions of other ladies.
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Well i guess u got my opinion goodnite ladies nd congrats to all the expecting mommies.on here
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I'm against abortion.My baby daddy AND his mother both tried to tell me to get one but after I told them that it is never going to be an option they started pushing for adoption.Although I knew I wanted to keep my baby I agreed to go talk with someone and hear all about adoption.I feel bad for the people who can't conceive but overall it was my decision and I can't wait for these last 13 weeks to pass to meet my baby girl!I am so happy I made this decision and the father made his;I haven't talked to hum in over a month and even though it'll be hard with the support of my family we'll make it
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In my opinion if you didn't care enough to try to prevent pregnancy, then don't act like you're not ready for a child when you do become pregnant and act as if abortion is your only choice. I am against abortion unless like the ladies above said it's for medical reasons or rape then I can understand. There is so many precautions you can take to avoid an unwanted pregnancy and if for any reason even while being careful you end up pregnant there are other choices besides abortion. You could give someone who cannot conceive a child, give them a chance at something so amazing thru adoption. I always told myself my mother gave me a chance at life. So how can I take a life away simply bc I'm not ready or don't want a baby. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with my babyboy and I wouldn't change it for the world.
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I personally wouldn 't have one but if I knew someone who thought that was the best or only option for her....then that is her choice. It is not up to me or anyone else to judge. Unless you are perfect you have no business judging anyone.
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My opinion would be that no one should get an abortion because they can't financially pay for the baby or because the father isn't there or because they just don't want to take the time to take care of a child. The best birth control out there is abstinence.
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I have had an abortion so i'm pro-choice , but not for myself anymore. I know what I did was wrong & I regret it 100%.
I guess I never looked at the negative side of it. I was 16 now 17 & this happened 7 months ago. I did it for medical reasons. No doctors didn't tell me , I chosed cause of my chance of dying. I knew I could've died. But now I think about it as an excuse. I should've went to the doctors to know forsure. I would've died for my child anytime. I think what I did was selfish & this guilt will forever stay with me.
So do I agree on abortion? Yes, but in a way No. I don't know how to explain it.
I didn't choose adoption cause I knew once I saw my baby, I would fall in love & not let him or her go to a person I barely even know. & I wouldn't want to see my baby growing up with other people that aren't his or her parents :/
I think if you won't regret it or if you can handle depression by aborting , then I guess go for it.
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I got pregnant at 16 and was told to get out or get an abortion! And i got out for around 6 months my entire family ignored me. But i do not regret keeping my son. He is now 5 and the best thing to ever happen to me. His father my now husband of 5 years and i are now expecting our 3rd child. Though we struggle and live pay check to paycheck i would never consider abortion or adoption. It is your responsibility! Woman up! I couldnt imagine killing my child i have suffered miscarriage and blamed myself for a long time. Thinking i did something wrong! So making that decision would not be an option for me!
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Im neither for or against abortion. If there is genuine medical concern, then I can see where it would be necessary as a last resort. However, anything other than that I just cant help but think "What did the baby do to deserve this?" Give the life inside a chance. If you cant do it there are parents out there who can and have been wanting a child yet for some reason cannot have one themselves.
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My fiancé and I share the same opinion when it comes to abortion: politically, pro choice. I don't judge others who have had an abortion because it is them who have to deal with the consequences of their actions, and probably don't need any more criticism and guilt shoved in their faces. My best friend had one and she regrets it but knew it was probably the best decision for her and her bf at the time, and they are still together and decided if it happened again she would keep the baby for sure.

Personally, we are pro-life. I would never have one unless there was danger to our child's life. Even if I was raped, I would consider adoption instead. My fiancé and I had this discussion a few months in to our relationship because I was not steadily on birth control, he wasn't sure if he could even have kids, and it's a discussion you need to have if you're serious about each other. He had to go through an abortion with his ex, and that was because she wasn't ready and had had an ectopic pregnancy that resulted in miscarriage and she couldn't do that again. He says it was the worst mistake of his life. I could never do that to him.

Sorry this is so long lol. But that's my opinion.
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This is so two sided your never going to get a straight answer. I don't believe in abortion but that's my choice. I'm not going to knock someone for their choice. I had my first at 16 and abortion never crossed my mind but that was my choice. I don't like it but that's me.
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When I was younger like 15 I'm now 23 and expecting my first!! It would be easy for me to agree with someone that wanted to get an abortion when they got raped. But only for that reason! But when I became pregnant and found out at 5wks and started reading about how it develops fast I don't think the same! It has life and its not the baby fault! But I won't judge if someone did! That's not my place and everyone does what they think is best.
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I personally would NEVER have one unless me or my baby would not make it like medically necessary or if raped. I do believe ppl have rights to but i never would
. u could always put baby up for adoption nd have a loving family take the baby
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Not all pregnancies are down to carelessness and just laying there with your legs open. I was on the pill when i fell pregnant, like my mum who had even had the coil fitted. For me, abortion was something i was considering because im young and i wanted to be able to give my baby a good life myself, and i wouldn't be able to let somebody else do that, personally. There are so many reasons why a person would want to abort a child, and it is a personal decision.
Anyway, i chose to keep my little girl and im now 35 weeks. We shouldn't judge anyone on their decisions.
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I would NEVER EVER have an abortion!  My opinion it is murder!!
and SHOULD NEVER be used as birth control.  
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I've had an abortion. I don't agree with it as birth control but 4 years ago i got raped repeatedly by a family friend whom was supposed to be trustworthy. I fell pregnant & couldnt cope. Everyone is different & personally if you aren't 100% ready to have a child why not look at adoption instead of abortion. Its not right for everyone but its how the person feels xx
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I agree with all these mothers. I got pregnant with my daughter at 15 and she's now 5 and I'm pregnant with my second baby girl and could never imagine taking my child's life because I didn't want to take care of another child or didnt think I could afford it. We are struggling as it is. But that's why your Kids come first. Abortion is not a option in my mind. Unless your raped. No disrespect ment either.
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Hi C, Theres a lot of against, and some for and some between, but please remember its her life, her body and ultimately her choice, nobody has the right to try and persuade her differently.
Look we all love our children, but would you try and stop them having one, if so your so wrong, as any body here is, if you think I'm wrong just go back and reread, her life, her body and her choice, end.
Good Luck
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Such a personal decision.  I think it is often cruel to bring a child into situations that are less than ideal.  So many are ill equipped to provide for babies or care for them.  I would absolutely prefer a woman go for adoption in that situation but also think it unfair to expect anyone to carry a baby if it is not what they desire.  

So, I think that it is a choice that women make for a variety of reasons and that should be accepted.  Good luck to your friend.  
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I am pro-choice.  What I'm against is people having children that they are completely not ready for that then live off the tax others pay. A lot of people are saying people should keep their babies if they are stupid enough to get pregnant. The problem with this is that the people being punished are the baby - who has an unprepared mum, and the taxpayer - who is paying for someone's stupidity. If anyone can go through the heartbreak of abortion because they know they can't treat that baby how it deserves, who can say they are wrong?  
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I agree with alot of what you said. I do know that here in the USA birth control is free, or at a reduced rate depending on your income. I see so many young girls on the teen pregnancy forums taking chances while not being on birth control. Or, worse yet, trying to get pregnant. Some are 13, 14, 15 years old. By law you can't even work until you're 16 so how will they pay for these babies on their own?
No own will ever have the right answer as far as abortion. If they were to outlaw it though girls and women would be back to the old days of possibly dying from untrained people doing them.
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It's been a while since this thread was commented in but I'm still going to post.

I'm pro-choice, and very vocally so. I believe the government has no place in dictating a woman's reproductive choices no matter whether a fetus is considered viable, if the procedure is a D&X, that is all between her and her doctor. The only place the government has is in making sure clinics are kept up a standard and are providing safe abortions. I'm active in volunteering for organizations that work to keep a woman's right to choose safe, legal, and accessible in the US as well as improve accessibility and challenge anti-choice laws.

I've also had an abortion, shortly after my husband and I got married, I found out I was pregnant which was a shock because I have PCOS, primary amenorrhea and have been told I most likely would not be able to have children. My husband and I do not want children, I have mental health issues that at times limit my functioning to minimal and they are also very much hereditary, mental illness runs down my family tree on my dad's side for generations, and I inherited my bipolar disorder, as well as other issues from my dad who inherited it from my grandma, who inherited it from her father, and it keeps going. The emotional suffering I've gone through at times, the number of psychiatric hospitalizations I've had, the inability to work, not knowing if I'll be up down or in the middle from day to day since I ultra-rapid cycle, that's not something I would EVER want for a child of mine. I also have severe allergies, both food and environmental, a primary immune disorder, fibromyalgia, and dysautonomia from POTS. Genetically, I'm a mess.

As soon as we found out I was pregnant, I called a local clinic, made an appointment for the ultrasound and the appointment for the abortion 48 hours later (another type of laws I'm against), got my ultrasound and they always look like blotches all over a black screen to me, I don't see anything, waited, went to my appointment with my husband and had my procedure done. I don't regret it, I didn't question if it was the right decision at any point, I'm glad I had an abortion, and even though I've undergone a sterilization procedure, if it failed and my husband's vasectomy failed, I got pregnant again, I'd get an abortion again. I'm not ashamed of my choice, it's my body, life, and decision to make, not anyone else has the right to make that choice for me or any other woman.

It makes me sad and upset at how anti-choicers come out and make women who have had abortions feel like they need to be anonymous or remain silent about it when the statistics are that 1 in 3 women will have an abortion in her lifetime, plain and simple. Yet it always seems so anti-choice biased in discussions.

I've also helped a friend pay for her abortion that she has no regrets about. She's now married, pregnant, and due in October, expecting a girl.

Not everyone regrets an abortion, in fact, majority don't. Having an abortion doesn't make you a different person, suddenly some evil woman with a neon sign on her head. And you aren't aborting "babies" as babies are no longer carried in the woman's uterus. Embryos and fetuses are aborted.
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first off, abortion is the WOMAN'S decision, no men should even comment on this topic! Anyway, Idk her full situation or reasons y she wants to have one... but being her best friend u need to let her know you support her in any decision she makes. There are a lot of people so quick to judge other people's lives and that's not up to anyone to do but God.Let your friend feel like she has her best friend by her side no matter what bc obviously, she is going through a lot. There are a lot of people who want to say how wrong abortion is, guess what? It's not illegal and it's not anyone's business what decision a woman makes...
How far along is she?
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People are not wrong for being pro life and people aren't wrong for being pro choice.  We are entitled to our opinions.

I'm glad that we have a forum where a woman can come to safely discuss the choices she has regarding her pregnancy.  

peace to all.  
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