Aa
what can I do..parents trying to make me get rid of my baby
I am 19 years old, just turned 19 at the end of December.
found out I was pregnant last Thursday- today marks 5 weeks! I know I am young. and I know this will not be easy. not even close, but I couldn't feel more excited to take on this responsibility.
but my parents think otherwise. they really regretted having me and my sister and both of them are trying to convince me to get rid of it. they said I'm "throwing my life away" my dad woke me up this morning and made me promise I would consider abortion. he's trying to say he'll go with me and pay for it and be by my side the whole time.
this is so heartbreaking guys, and I literally don't know what to do. I mean they're my parents.. and I feel like they're saying they would've rather gone back in time and not had me. they'd rather support an abortion then a grandchild.
at this point this is just motivating me to prove them wrong- but honestly part of me is being convinced by them, part of me is starting to believe that I can't do this.
how do I go about this? ignore them? listen to them? I mean they're my parents and technically I am still a child, 19, really young. I don't know):
found out I was pregnant last Thursday- today marks 5 weeks! I know I am young. and I know this will not be easy. not even close, but I couldn't feel more excited to take on this responsibility.
but my parents think otherwise. they really regretted having me and my sister and both of them are trying to convince me to get rid of it. they said I'm "throwing my life away" my dad woke me up this morning and made me promise I would consider abortion. he's trying to say he'll go with me and pay for it and be by my side the whole time.
this is so heartbreaking guys, and I literally don't know what to do. I mean they're my parents.. and I feel like they're saying they would've rather gone back in time and not had me. they'd rather support an abortion then a grandchild.
at this point this is just motivating me to prove them wrong- but honestly part of me is being convinced by them, part of me is starting to believe that I can't do this.
how do I go about this? ignore them? listen to them? I mean they're my parents and technically I am still a child, 19, really young. I don't know):
that comment above was to rockrose
I may be under my dad's roof but I support myself and have a job where I work six days a week, I pay him rent and buy my own groceries. i do have to apply for Medicaid but only because private health insurance is very expensive and I am not on my fathers insurance. I lived on my own the past year I just recently came back here for personal reasons. i don't plan on being on Medicaid for long- hopefully just the first year. I chose to take a year off from school and this was unplanned. I will be looking into trade school for nursing as soon as the baby is old enough for daycare so I can juggle all at once. yes the father is here for me. there may be hills to climb but I am going to climb them!!
I am sorry to hear that you do not have the support of your parents.
You must not listen to your parents.
As you felt so excited when you found out that you are pregnant - that says it all! You want your baby and it is your right to have your baby and keep it. Don't let anyone, including your parents, tell you otherwise.
The decision has got to be yours and yours alone.
If you do go ahead with the abortion, you will regret it for the rest of your life and will likely experience psychological and emotional problems too for a long time.
You are a young adult yes. There have been much younger people than you that have had babies and have kept them and have managed. No one is saying that it is going to be easy. But I am sure you will manage.
I do hope that you have the support from the father. Do his parents know? They may be more supportive than your own parents.
You never know, your own parents may come round to the fact that this is their first grandchild and eventually accept that you are going to have a baby.
Never feel guilty that you should not have been born - after all they made you out of love and did it twice!
This is your life and that of your baby's.
You must not listen to your parents.
As you felt so excited when you found out that you are pregnant - that says it all! You want your baby and it is your right to have your baby and keep it. Don't let anyone, including your parents, tell you otherwise.
The decision has got to be yours and yours alone.
If you do go ahead with the abortion, you will regret it for the rest of your life and will likely experience psychological and emotional problems too for a long time.
You are a young adult yes. There have been much younger people than you that have had babies and have kept them and have managed. No one is saying that it is going to be easy. But I am sure you will manage.
I do hope that you have the support from the father. Do his parents know? They may be more supportive than your own parents.
You never know, your own parents may come round to the fact that this is their first grandchild and eventually accept that you are going to have a baby.
Never feel guilty that you should not have been born - after all they made you out of love and did it twice!
This is your life and that of your baby's.
Legally you're an adult even at 19. The decision is yours. You have the right to choose to do what YOU want to do. Do not make decisions based on others beliefs or wants. If you do choose to keep your baby, do so with the expectation of doing it without your family support just so there are no disappointments. Good luck.
I got pregnant with my first at 18 year's old and had her three months or so after I turned 19 years old. It was hard kinda but she is the best thing that ever happened to me. She is amazing and eight now, she is in second grade and the biggest help with her younger sister's. I never regretted getting pregnant with her or having her, she is my favorite and we are super close.
I was lucky in my family abortion was not an option and adoption was not an option. My mom had an abortion right before she had me and it was never spoke if because it was a sin and embarrassment to the family. I found out when I was almost a teenager because she told me. She was always depressed and suicidal and I never knew why she was a great mom. She was the best mom or so I thought and I had no clue what could make her so sad. She broke down and told me I guess she wanted my support during her depression. I gave her no support and never looked at her the same again. I could not even comprehend how or why someone so good could do such a thing. Over 18 years later and she was still not over it, she died knowing what she had done.
If I were you I would do what you really think is right. You made it very clear that you want this baby. 19 is not young to have a baby it is actually a perfect age. Lots of people nowadays think think that and are having babies too late in life. Babies of older mothers are more likely to have problems and mothers are more likely to have problematic pregnancies, if you have your children younger you have adequate time to spread them out and have a few children.
Good luck just tell them it is your body and you want your baby. If they care for you they will understand. I hope they come around or you find someone to stand with you and support your decision to keep your baby. Remember if it is too hard for you there are lots of women who can't have babies or waited too long that would give anything to have your baby.
I was lucky in my family abortion was not an option and adoption was not an option. My mom had an abortion right before she had me and it was never spoke if because it was a sin and embarrassment to the family. I found out when I was almost a teenager because she told me. She was always depressed and suicidal and I never knew why she was a great mom. She was the best mom or so I thought and I had no clue what could make her so sad. She broke down and told me I guess she wanted my support during her depression. I gave her no support and never looked at her the same again. I could not even comprehend how or why someone so good could do such a thing. Over 18 years later and she was still not over it, she died knowing what she had done.
If I were you I would do what you really think is right. You made it very clear that you want this baby. 19 is not young to have a baby it is actually a perfect age. Lots of people nowadays think think that and are having babies too late in life. Babies of older mothers are more likely to have problems and mothers are more likely to have problematic pregnancies, if you have your children younger you have adequate time to spread them out and have a few children.
Good luck just tell them it is your body and you want your baby. If they care for you they will understand. I hope they come around or you find someone to stand with you and support your decision to keep your baby. Remember if it is too hard for you there are lots of women who can't have babies or waited too long that would give anything to have your baby.
Okay, before anybody goes off on living on assistance means you're not ready, don't let that bother you. I'm a full time mom, 23, with a boyfriend who works twice as hard as I do, 16 hours a day and we still struggle. I'm on medicaid, my daughter is on medicaid, and I get $115 a month on food stamps. Anything helps, I pay taxes too, and we're surviving, you do what you gotta do, but don't get rid of that baby because others think you're too young or unable. You make things happen for the sake of your baby and his future. You're 19, your head should be able to think like an adult now. You're old enough to get yourself together before baby arrives.
I'm 18 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant .. And its ultimately your desition yeah it will get rough but just push threw and remember that you'll have other to support you and eventually you'll parents will come around .. It isn't the babies fault
I'm 19 and 31 weeks pregnant, I'm seriously so happy to have my baby, it's the greatest blessing ever. If you want it, keep it. It's what you want, don't let your parents decide for you.
Do not have an abortion because someone else wants you to, even if it's your parents. You will always regret it and you will resent them because it is not what you want. I think you need to explain that to your parents. And how hurtful it is that they are pushing you like this and telling you they regret having you. I understand they are your parents and want to respect them, but they really arent respecting you. You dont have to be confrontational. Maybe they really are trying to be helpful, but them pushing you to do this will have a negative impact on your relationship with them and making it harder on you. And I think you could also tell them that you are young, but you are a parent now and you and the dad are responsible for the baby, no one else. Your life won't be what you planned, but it's hardly over. You also have to realize that now that you are a parent it really is your responsibility alone. You'll need to get yourself financially stable and so will the father. It may be a good time to move out on your own, especially if your parents are not suppietive. You certainly don't need more negativity or pressure to do things their way once your baby arrives. Eventually, they will see that you are not a child any more and that you can do this with or without them. And it's normal for anyone at any age , in any financial situation, single, married, or dating, no matter where you are in life to have doubts about how capable you are. To worry about wether or not you can really handle it. To worry you won't be a good parent. But you will surprise yourself. If you love that baby you will be a good parent. And if you get through this situation making the best decision you can for your baby then you are already a good parent.
I got pregnant with my first child at 19, no it's not all a walk in the park, but I wouldn't trade the life I have of being a mommy for anything. The way I see it is that God will never give you more than you can handle and here I am now 23 with another baby to love and be a great mommy too! Don't let anyone try and convince you that you can't do something because you can do ANYTHING you put your mind too! Best of luck and btw never consider yourself a child at 19, you are grown sweetie and you can make your OWN choices!
First off if you want to keep the child can you afford it without the state government system of welfare? Do you and the after have a job a place to live have all bills paid and not have to struggle? Adoption is a option there's open adoption where u get updates yearly visits to make it easier for u.. And your parents are most likely saying abortion for a reason yes your young but what else is there reasons think about it because they have a reason to suggest what they want. But you also have to think can you make a life commitment right now or not
Do what you think is right. I dont agree with abortion. You could always give your child to someone who cant have children. My dad said the same thing when my sister got pregnant at 16. My neice is now two years old and he says he cant imagine life without her. Just make sure.if you keep the baby you take care of it and not put the responsibility on them.
This is probably the time for you to take real stock in your life, lilocha. Looking ahead 8 months, where will you live, how will you support yourself and the baby, are you going to have to sue for child support or is the baby's father willing to step up and formally recognize your relationship and take care of you and the baby? If you aren't already in a trade school or doing something to put yourself in a position to support yourself, now's the time to get that going also.
The fact that you're still living at home and aren't at college or out on your own indicates that maybe you have some hills to climb before your baby arrives.
The fact that you're still living at home and aren't at college or out on your own indicates that maybe you have some hills to climb before your baby arrives.
and yes the father is in the picture and he seems to love me even more now that I'm carrying his little bean. thank you for making me feel better about this and sharing your stories, exactly the supportive advice I needed!
I'm 18 now and 34 weeks pregnant ... Last year I had an abortion when I was 17 .. I'm not proud of it . But pretty sure it wasn't the right moment to it . Now it's not the best moment for me to be pregnant
But it's a lot better now than before . There's always time for everything Sweety and I'm pretty sure you're parents know why they're telling you that . Any body can get pregnant . But sometimes it's just not the right time and them you'll thanks your parents just like I did to mines and now they're helping me a lot with this one . You're parents before anything remember that
But it's a lot better now than before . There's always time for everything Sweety and I'm pretty sure you're parents know why they're telling you that . Any body can get pregnant . But sometimes it's just not the right time and them you'll thanks your parents just like I did to mines and now they're helping me a lot with this one . You're parents before anything remember that
your responses make me want to cry... it might be the hormones but thank you so much, I feel like you all care and you don't even know me. you're all entirely right. and I'm so happy to hear it because that's exactly how I've been feeling I want the baby, it's my decision, and I am very excited to be a mom. I love you all random commenters (': and I can't wait for the day when they come around and accept this. I know they will love their grand baby
I'm 19 and 27weeks...If you want your baby don't let anyone persuade you otherwise
Im 21 and my bf and i had discussed abortion but ive always been against it unless u have a valuable reason. Im not judging im just giving my opinion. If ur excited and want to keep it, keep it. And if u decide to listen to them make sure u weigh ur options very hard. With abortion a lot of time comes regret and hatred toward yourself and the person who pushed you to do it.
I was 16 & pregnant & my mom supported me but my dad on the other insisted on me getting an abortion that he almost kick me out cz I was fighting with him to keep my baby. & that my life was gonna be over & it was gonna ruined my life but in my heart I knew I wanted to keep my baby I knew I can prove him wrong & I knew god blessed me with a baby for a reason so I told my dad your being selfish your only thinking bout yourself & he shut up & said fine but don't be coming to me when that baby ruins your life. Well guess what I prove him wrong, my son is now going to be 5yrs old & been a big part of my parents life. My dad was happy to have his 1st grand baby & even more happy that I had my 2nd son now he even more excited for our 3rd baby
Your dad may be acting like this now but once you have your baby he'll come around. & I pray that everything works out for you. As it did for me. & trust me your dad may not talk to you for couple of months & it'll hurt but be strong for you & your baby.
Your dad may be acting like this now but once you have your baby he'll come around. & I pray that everything works out for you. As it did for me. & trust me your dad may not talk to you for couple of months & it'll hurt but be strong for you & your baby.
Honey...... You and only you make that for yourself!
Girl im 19 too. I was still 18 when I found out I was pregnant. Granted my parents weren't thrilled to be grandparents but its not the worst thing to happen. And they've grown to be happy for me and accept my son. My dad took the longest to accept it but they'll be okay with it. Its your baby and your body. And parents especially dads have no clue what its like to be in your position...
19 is really young but that doesn't matter.. you're legally an adult. You could be more mature and/or stable than a 30 year old either kids, age doesn't matter! What matters is that you can support the baby and hopefully you'll have the father around to help with that. It's no one's decision besides yours. Keep your baby.. once your farther along I'm sure your parents will be so excited. It's still fresh in their minds and they're probably still a little upset about it which is completely understandable. You will despise your parents for the rest of your life if you go along with what they want you to do.. it should just motivate you to probe them wrong because you can & you will!
I'm 19& I'm 16 weeks pregnant it's not about how young you are if you want to keep your baby keep it! Only you can make the decision, you will only regret it if you have an abortion and it's not what you want 100%. If you want to keep it, keep it! xx
Bullied*
You are reading content posted in the Women's Choice Community
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
Bumps in the genital area might be STDs, but are usually not serious.
Chlamydia, an STI, often has no symptoms, but must be treated.
From skin changes to weight loss to unusual bleeding, here are 15 cancer warning signs that women tend to ignore.
