Hello,
I am now 45, trying to get pregnant, for the first time. With high FSH levels, it was deemed that I can only use donor eggs. Turns out my partner has some issues as well with his sperm motility, but his sperms can still be hand picked for IVF. I have a 2.5" uteran fibroid, which per the doctors needs to be removed first via laporotomy. Hsyteroscopy was tried 2 weeks ago but it would have destroyed the uteran wall, so we're back to abdominal incision, at the bikini line, 8-12 inches. I (we) want very much to have a baby, of course, but also wondering what the heck I am going to look like afterwards. If I am lucky to get pregnant, I would end up with a c-section as well. Soo, being 45 (by then 46), with a stomach already sagging a bit (I am average weight), I am so scared of what the scars will look like first with the laporotomy, then the pregnancy, then the c-section. I still want to stay attractive after this; let's face it, it is a naive wishful thinking that men still have desire when so much may look unattractive. I also tried to search for after photos on the Internet, but couldn't find any. Are there any real life cases out there to let me know what's in store with all this scarring and bulging? Many thanks.