A lot of bleeding after sex, help

[ineedhelpimmediately]

I had sex with my boyfriend, and it hurt a lot more than usual, because of the positiion. I noticed a little bleeding right after sex, but not too much, however it is the next evening, and there is a lot of blood... like I have my period, but its not the same odor. I think I might have felt a hole inside that goes deep... I can't tell my parents, because I'd never see them again, but I can't afford to go to the hospital, and there are no free clinics around.. I need help, please, I'm very scared that I'm bleeding way too much.

[lyricallyspeaking]

i would say see a doctor because you might have a tear that needs to be addressed.  as far as not letting your parents find out, if you are over the age of 16 in most states in the USA, there is a law that states that your parents/guardians cannot be told of the nature of your medical visit/treatment unless you express that they can, so if you have to go to a doctor, you can say that you don't want your visit information released to your parents and they have to respect your wishes.  if you tell them you don't want them to know, there is no legal way for them to find out, as long as you are over 16.  the age might be different in other states.

also, your parent's insurance, which i'm assuming you're covered under, may not be allowed to release information on your medical visits to your parents without your consent if you are over 18.  again, the age might differ depending on the policy and laws in your state.

i'm assuming you don't know the specifics of your parents' insurance and are afraid to ask them, you might want to go to an urgent care clinic or maybe even an emergency room if the problem persists with no changes for another day or two, since it could be something serious and simply request that your specifics of your visit be kept confidential.

the thing that i would suggest is that if you need to go to a doctor if the problem continues is telling your parents that you know they might be angry with you now, but you need medical attention and you need their advice and help.  tell them that you know that consequences of having sex and are taking measures to prevent STDs and pregnancy (which i'm assuming you are) and are aware of the physical and emotional consequences of having sex.  if you show them that you are taking a mature attitude toward it, they might be a little more understanding.  i know it is hard for you to hear that you might have to tell your parents, but trust me, they will appreciate your honesty.

hope i have helped!

best of luck,

LS

[ineedhelpimmediately]

Okay, well *sigh*

I talked to my mother today, and she called the advice nurse. They set me up an appointment tomorrow. I'm just worried that I'm still losing too much blood, and I don't really want to wait until tomorrow. I've begun to feel slightly light headed, and weak, which is porbably from blood loss... but I guess it will have to wait.

She was 'disappointed' but not mad. I hate that word, but I guess it could be worse.

Thanx for your help.