Are You More Fertile After Miscarriage? True or False

[BearHitch]

Hey ladies... I recently had a miscarriage and DH and I are looking to try again.  I've heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage- does anyone know if this is true or just rumor for someone who would really like that to be true (me)?!  The bleeding has pretty much stopped, though it picks up a bit after sex but then stops again, so I think my body is done getting rid of everything...  Has anyone else had a m/c and conceived shortly after?  I'd love some stories that would envoke hope :)  Thanks!

[michelle4041]

I am 40 now.  Just remarried in 08.  My new husband has never had a child.  So we decided even at our age to try for a small family.  I became pregnant in December of 2010.   All was going so well.  I had genetic testing done at 13 wks along with an US that showed baby was healthy and the odds of downs and the trisomys that are common were so low.  So I felt I could relax from that news.  At 18 wks my ankles swelled to twice their size suddenly in the evening hrs.   My son was in panic right along with me.   My husband was out of town.  The following day I called off work to continue helping myself with the edema.  I called the drs office and spoke to their nurse and she wrote it off that this is normal.  She said swelling is very common with pregnancy.  Well I knew in my heart this was a little more than just the normal puffiness you get from pregnancy since I did have a healthy pregnancy to compare this to.  I went in the following day for my monthly check up and the doppler wouldn't pick up the heartbeat like it usually would.  The dr then decided to do an ultrasound and claimed he couldn't find a heartbeat.  I broke out in tears.  How was I going to tell my husband that was so excited to have his 1st child.  The following day I was ordered to have 1 more US to confirm that there was no heartbeat. This was on a Friday.   The dr wanted to enduce labor for me on Monday but I begged him to start right away since I couldn't bare the thought of carrying a lifeless baby in me all weekend long.  The dr seemed irritated with me but then came around and had me admitted to deliver our boy.  He was 8 inches long and weighed in at .13kg.  It took me 16hrs to deliver him.  I had the epidural and everything like you would if you were delivering full term.  It was so heartbreaking.  My husband seemed so in a daze.  Almost like it wasn't even his child this was happening to.  He didn't want to talk about it much at all after I delivered which made it that much harder.  I believe I cried for 3 weeks every day straight.   I started thinking I would never get over this and that maybe this ruined my life.  But God does show mercy on all of us.  Some how he lightened the pain by the end of that month.  I no longer cried so much but just thought about our boy.  I bled for about 2 1/2 weeks after the miscarriage.  Never needed a D & C.  We had sex as soon as I stopped bleeding.  I had never felt so close to my husband as I did the first time after this all happened.  It some how brought us closer.  It comforts me to know that this experience has not discouraged us to try again down the road.  Of course at my age it will have to be shortly down the road.  I suppose if I do become pregnant again through the grace of God I will just put this all in His hands.  If another miscarriage happens this time around I will have expected it to happen and hopefully it wont be as devastating as the first one.  I can only hope I would be better prepared if it happens again.  I try to find good in bad experiences to help keep that move forward additude going.  I would like to think that this experience has taught me to relate to other peoples losses or trials better.   I used to not be as empathetic as I am now.  My heart bleeds for anyone going through any type of hardship now.  My passion for starting a family with my new husband is still as strong if not stronger than it was before the miscarriage.  Only God can decide to bless us with a healthy child if he feels it's the right thing for us.  What ever the lesson was He tried to teach me I consider it learned because I feel an acceptance now and feel closer to people and respect the whole blessing of conceiving that much more.  There was a part of me in the beginning of the pregnancy that had doubts for having become pregnant due to my age and the set up of living arrangements.  Perhaps that was my lesson to never doubt again.  I will take that guilt right into the grave with me.  But I've learned from that and know I would feel better this time around if I am so lucky.  I used to think when the sperm meets the egg that was the whole miracle.  I learned too that just being able to line up all the chromosomes correctly and be healthy enough to carry baby to full term is a miracle too.  Having baby stay healthy long after birth is a miracle.  Looking at my 21 year old son now is different too.  I realize I was blessed 100 times over back when I was 19 and just never realized it.  What an eye opener a miscarriage can be.  For anyone that has gone through this painful loss I wish each and everyone of you a sucessful pregnancy and birth to your next child.  For anyone ttc may God bless your womb and bring you a healthy child to hold and to love and to raise into a sucessful adult.  God bless everyone on here and all over the world going through this or any other heavy burden you face.  

[babiegirl63]

most doctors recommend you wait 3 months to try again because your body need time to heal, sometimes even 2 weeks after you miscarrage a pregnancy test can show up positive because your hcg levels are still kinda high, my doctor told me i had a blighted ovum the other day and i miscarried 2 days ago, my doctor told me to wait at least 3 months and i most likey would get pregnant with the next couple of tries if i was to try again.

[Kuliana]

I know how you feel. I was 25 when I had my firs miscarriage and then My husband and I tried to concieve for (get this) TWENTY YEARS!  Last   month I got pregnant  and lost this baby at 5 weeks  Im 45 .   I am sorry for your loss. This was our last time to try as I am to old now.  If you are still young Keep trying .. you just NEVER know

[Inmyheartalwayscaleb]

I had a mc at 7 1/2, i didnt find out till i was a few days from 12 weeks i was so excited that week bc the chance of a mc would have gone down.. Until i started bleeding i started crying amediently i was so scared i laid down for 30 mins & checked again i wasnt bleeding but i had someone take me to the hospital anyway there i started bleeding again bt worse they did an u/s they saw the baby but no heart beat i was already crushed by the look on the drs face bt my husband said it looked like it was movin so i calmed down &tried to stay positive for him &my baby bt i knew something was wrong &thy came back hrs later aftr doing 2 more u/s & told me it was a mc i had a d&c 4days later i can honostly say that was the worst night in my entire life im 19 got married a week before bc i was pregnant im in my senior yr of hs i had things for that baby already i had already made it my life had a name picked out im still so crushed we named our baby caleb we always thought it was a boy &his gma had a dream his grandpa was rocking him in a chair singin to him in heaven he will always be my baby my first baby whose always in mind &in my heart i will never forget him

[sarahjane503]

I have been sexually active for about 20 years now, and had 2 long term relationships, and the only baby I produced was concieved through IVF.  I now have a new partner, and we were both extremely shocked to discover in january I was pregnant.  Sadly we had only known about it for about a week when I miscarried at 6 weeks.  I took 3 pregnancy tests in the couple of weeks after the miscarriage, which all came back negative.  At the start of this month I began to get pregnancy symptoms again, did a test and it was postitve!!  I am only 7 weeks now, and still worry daily.  I'm constantly checking when I go to the toilet for any bleeding.  However everything seems to be ticking along quite nicely at the moment.  No sign of any bleeding, and no pain.
I just want to tell everyone not to give up.  It is possible to become pregnant again straight after a miscarriage, but I do worry that I will not be able to cope if I miscarry again so soon.  Sometimes I think we should have waited, to let me heal mentally as well as physically.  But fate is a funny old thing!

[cb70]

If you are really leaking milk then you are or have recently been pregnant. I have had three children and my milk did not even come in until after giving birth. I would most definitely go to a doctor ASAP if I were you. It may not be milk at all and could be something else. I was actually reading these posts because I recently had a miscarriage. I came across yours and was a little alarmed. Good luck.