Bad Taste

[msniki412]

ok so i know this is the womens health forum, and i posted this on the mens health forum but didnt get much there...

i do oral sex on my boyfriend, and he always cums...but the problem is the taste its really bad, i mean like bleach. i never had this problem in the past with any of my other boyfriends normally it was just salty TMI sorry!! is there anything that he can do that will make it taste somewhat better?? and i dont wanna just come out and say its horrible, cause that would be rude. thanks!

~Niki~

[JJety]

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/MensHealth/messages/1767.html

I just wanted to throw a little something out there, because I'm really confused.  

You're only 20 years old, your BF doesn't even have his own room, you can't "be" together inside the house unless his dad is gone so you're stuck having to constantly give him head in his car, and you're worried about sounding "rude" so you won't discuss this issue direclty with him......but yet you two are planning ttc very very soon??  If you can't/won't discuss this minor issue with him, how are you going to discuss all of the other pregnancy issues with him?  And if you're mature enough to be ttc, why does he feel the need to sneak around his father?

[pertykitty]

i loved la snag's kleenex fetish idea lol. you know if it tastes bad and you dont like it, dont do it!

[msniki412]

we dont sneak around, it would be kind of odd doing this and his dad walks in...right? he doesnt have his own room right now, becuase his uncle [just got out of the hosiptal] is living at his house with his mom and sister, so my bf moved in with his dad for now. we are not ttc at this moment do to my health right now...
but thanks anyways

[JJety]

Ohhhhhhhh, I see.  I stand corrected.  

Yes, when he's able to have his room back at his mom's house instead of his dad's (and you get your cycle started) then everything will be ready for ttc and won't be awkward.

[jenniferolivebridge]

i am trying very hard not to be judgemental here but just a few months ago you were posting freaking out about being pregnant and now you want a baby...

PLEASE think about what is going to happen after you get pregnant if you and your boyfriend dont even live under the same roof.. is the baby going to sleep on his father's couch with you? Get your life together first, you are young and have plenty of time.

[msniki412]

yes your very true about that...that was because the guy i was with at the time was not a bf, it was just a fling...the guy i am currently with since 2/17 we want a baby...but not at this point as i stated before because of my health...doctors are still not 100% sure if i can conceive...

thanks again

[Christie04_returns]

So.....you've been with this guy since 2/17?

Well then, as long as its such a long term relationship, things should be fine!

Cripes, I was worried there for a second that THIS was a fling.  Thank goodness it's not.  

[msniki412]

ohhhh no no!!! this isnt a fling, this is the real deal. the guy i was last time back in january was a fling, but my bf now [love of my love] he is the last guy im ever gonna be with...

[peekawho]

Honey, I have food in my fridge from before 2/17.  

6 weeks does not a lifetime make.  You can't even bring yourself to have a rational discussion about where he will ejaculate.  I hope to God Almighty that you are NOT going to TTC anytime soon.  Wait a few years--perhaps 10.  

[msniki412]

please i have said this already, we are not ttc anymore seeing that the doctors are not even sure if i can conceive...i am already upset about that part, i have been through so many tests and was rushed to the hosiptal last week. like i said, no more baby so no worries so dont worry about me messing up another human life, besides my own...i now feel depressed

thanks

[jenniferolivebridge]

first of all, you need to SLOW DOWN and take a step back. You said that the doctor's thought you had a hormonal imbalance, this has nothing to do with your ability to concieve a child. There are so many things that can be done to help you concieve if you have any problems.

i understand having bleeding can be scary but you are very young and have no need to jump to any conclusions about concieving.

You had tests done and they found nothing wrong, am i correct? then why think you cant have a baby?

you have plenty of time to have a child and you definetely need to be with a man for more than 6 weeks to have a child with him. like i said before, there is no need to rush into anything, you have YEARS of fertility ahead of you.

[JJety]

I agree.  From what you've posted on here that the doctor's have said - no one is jumping to the conclusion of infertility except you.  Don't ever assume you can't conceive and certainly don't tell your BF you can't.  If you don't want to be pg, then certainly use protection.

[msniki412]

im sorry for being a little uptight today. its just that my cramping started again yesterday, and its getting alot worst today so i guess im just worried.

yes doctors think it might be a hormonal inbalance, i called my doctor today but they didnt get all the results in yet. my only concern is WHAT IF its not my hormones?? what eles could have caused me to bleed for so long? and i dont believe i am ovulating, because i have been testing since march 12 and nothing yet...so i guess im worried about that too.

i understand the fact that i need to be with my bf longer then 6 weeks, just like my mom told me...but you dont know how i feel. im so in love with him, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me...the first guy that has ever loved me for me...looky look heres a pic of us [im in a sharing mood today]

http://i127.photobucket.com/albums/p144/msniki412/l_ec70877dae92a43e86a477735c774f1c.jpg

[anxiousmomtobe?]

You can't possibly know this guy is the love of your life after a few weeks.  Right now you are in the hot and heavy stage.  Only with time and the stresses of everyday life will you know that.

My guess is that in a few weeks you will have another "love of my life"  and you are young so there is nothing wrong with that.

And giving head in the car does not sound remotely romantic to me, but I am 40, probably old enough to be your mum!!

[JJety]

"but you dont know how i feel"

Yes, we do.  We totally completely absolutely understand how you feel.  A new relationship is the greatest feeling in the entire world and you're on Cloud 9.  But it takes a lot longer than 6 weeks to know that this person is true and real and that you want to be with them forever.

[msniki412]

hmm...true...well i have known my boyfriend since december 1, 2006 but we only made it offical on 2/17/07...
and your right that u are old enough to be my mom [im 20] and yes giving head in the car is not romantic, but it is a major turn on...sorry tmi i know.

anywho...he is the love of my life, were talking about getting engaged next month...we will see... : )

[lynne1276]

Just for the record.  I met my husband Dec of 05....started dating in Feb and we were married by July.  We just knew.  BUT.....I am 30.   I think you need to enjoy life a little while you are still young.  By the way, did I miss a post.  I never saw you say you wanted a baby.  I'm confused.  

[lovethebops]

the things you are talking about were such a huge thing to me when I was 16..lol, i miss those days:0 do what feels right for you and him...I was engaged at 17(imagine the **** I got!) was married at 18, and was pregnant by your age...and you know what?? I'm happier than ever before, and now trying for #2..Things will work out if you make right descions and do what is best for yourself..only don't rush into anything! I love my DH to death now, but I definately was not in love with him at 6 weeks into the relationship..it takes time..best wishes~bops

[PGB]

another one of the old fogies, throwing my 2 cents worth in here...

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE get married, or at least live together for a while before anything else.  I know you said you weren't going to do any more baby talk right now, but for the future is what I mean.  There is such a major difference in "dating" a guy and "LIVING" with a guy.  Girl!!  I dated my dh for 2 years before we got married.  I thought I knew him.  WRONG!  You don't really know someone until you live with them.  I mean, for all you know, this guy may fart in his sleep all night long and you may not be able to stand it and decide to leave.  Why bring a baby into that?  See where I'm going with this?  I mean, there are a lot of single parents out there who are doing wonderful jobs raising their kids alone.  I know a lot of them myself.  And they are doing much better alone than they would've if they had stayed with an ex who was  dragging them down.  But why do that to yourself and a baby if you don't have to?  And I would also take some time to enjoy all the "dating" times you have coming to you.  Boy, do men change when they KNOW they've "caught" you!  Right now, you have an advantage you won't have when you move in together or get married...milk it!! LOL

[jacksynn]

I have been with my husband since I was 15...We are married  and have been together now for nearly 13 years.
We have 2 boys aged 8 and 10.
We somehow knew...so young that we were meant to be...
However...we didn't get married or have children for a long time.
We did not jump into anything.
I think it is possible for young ppl these days to be serious at such a young age.
The reality is...is that most of the time it DOESN'T work out.
Take your time...you are still young and have many years ahead of you to make big decisions such as having children and getting married.
I wish you all the best....and just know....Being in a relatioship when everything is great and wonderful is an amazing thing!.....Don't rush into anything ....and make that relationship grow before you add anything to it.
I love my husband more today then I did yesterday...and far more than I did at 15 or even 20 for that matter.

[msniki412]

yup i agree...but i have known him longer then 6 weeks

[JJety]

4 months... 6 weeks...   When you're talking about getting married both of those times are just a drop in the bucket.  It doesn't make it any better.  It's still moving way too fast, when you're only 20.  You need years, not months or weeks.  Years.

[msniki412]

ok true...but i never said we were going to get married right away...a long engagement like 1 or 2 years...

lol this is so an open forum now... : )

[jenniferolivebridge]

get engaged, get married, move in together and then talk about having a baby.

I guess this is a little old fashioned, but time really does "tell" as they say.

and your bleeding and cramping could be absolutely nothing, until i got on the pill i had ridiculous cycles just like what your describing and it had nothing to do with my fertility whatsoever...

[peekawho]

I looked at the picture.
I take it all back.  You guys DO look like you belong together.  Forever.  And ever.  

*goes to fridge to re-check the date on that lunch meat again*  Yep, 2/17.  I thought so.  

Happy BJ-ing!  Ah, true love.  Somehow being married just isn't the same...

[msniki412]

hmm...my period only became wacky in november 06, and its hard for me because at this point i generally dont know when it will show up...like my doctor told me on saturday dont be suprised if i dont see it in april...wow

as for as my relationship ill take it easy for now...no baby talk no marriage, one day at a time...which is hard to do as we already act like were married [sometimes]...lol

thanks ladies

[JJety]

"I guess this is a little old fashioned, but time really does "tell" as they say."

Yep, it's true.  Totally true.  And we're the kids in our 20's saying this.  Not just the old foggies, like anxious...    ;-)    

j/k  You know I heart you, anxious.

[peekawho]

Well, I'm married and I can tell you for sure that there are no BJs going on in the family truckster.  Or swallowing, taste or no taste.

I'd tip my hat to you if I was wearing one.  Don't let that man get away!  

[JJety]

Also, something that occurred to me....   Have you been recently dabbling in some recreational drugs since meeting this guy?  Could something like that suddenly be affecting your cycle?

[jenniferolivebridge]

talk to your doctor about getting on the pill to regulate your cycle.

[msniki412]

drugs?? as in bad drugs?? OMG no!!! my cycle became wacky in november 06'....the only drug i take is Inderal La 120mg which i have been on for ohh wow umm like 5 years for my mirgrains....

i also dont drink...just to throw that info in...

i was under alot of stress last year with my ex from august-november...maybe that was the cause of wacky cycles????

[msniki412]

yup yup...but not at this very moment...still waiting on blood work, to whats going on...thanks

[peekawho]

You had an ex from aug to nov, then had a fling in Jan, and on 2/17 became enamored of your current love of your life?

Girl, you get more action than most of us married gals do!  

[msniki412]

ahh...lol i guess so...yeah so had a bf in august 24-december 12, then another guy for 1 day [no sex or sex things with him] and then i met my current bf december 1, met another guy december 26 had a fling with him on december 29 and jan 1 and on feb 3...then my bf now on 2/17....

ummm...does this sound slutty...oops!!!!!!!!!

oh yea all sex was protected except jan 1...

[tiredbuthappy]

i don't think i'm an old fogie yet, so i'll throw my 2 cents in too (although, we certainly have gotten off of your original topic!!)

if you truly feel that strongly about him, then get an apartment together. if you can't afford to, then obviously you can't afford to get married or have a baby yet either. but i am a strong advocate of living with someone before you marry them. (not that i'm saying everyone should run out and live with the next guy they sleep with- i was with my boyfriend for 5 years before we moved in together, and we lived together for 2 years before we got married). my older brother was deeply in love, and it took living together for 2 years before they both realized how incompatible they were. my younger brother falls in love almost as often as you. and i don't doubt that he truly loves each and every girl. at 23 he got engaged to a girl he had been with for about 6 months. within another 6 months he moved to another state with the next love of his life. they lived together for almost a year before they acknowledged that they were incompatible. (there's been one or two loves since). and like i said, i'm not criticising him- he honestly thought he was in love with them and thought he'd be with them forever. at least when all was said and done, all that had to be decided was who gets to keep the couch. no divorce settlements, no custody battles.

[Trialanderror]

Hey, you never got an answer for your original question... The bleach taste is normal, with slight variations depending on diet. It`s the same taste as aging camembert cheese. Ah, let me check the date...yup, it has to be older than 2/17. So if you do not like Camembert, there is not much hope for that part of the relationship but all else can be wonderful if you take your time.

[msniki412]

ok, so i have deceided to wait with everything [baby, engagement, marriage] and for now just enjoy being with him. we talked last night and both have agreed that we will wait a while before we do anything life changing. =]

as far as the taste of it...lol im good with it, last night was the first night i didnt get teary eyed or gag...so yay! he came i swallowed TMI sorry!!! and we were good, mouth was numb for a lil bit haha TMI i know...but woah!!!!

anyways ladies thank you all a zillion times for all the advice you have all giving me...im always up for a good chat sometime so if anybody would like to email sometime or IM me on AOL feel free to!!!

AOL email: ***@****

thanks again!!!!!

oh yea ill be calling my doc tomorrow to see if they got the rest of my results, ill keep you all posted =]

~Niki~

[msniki412]

umm...if you happen to take a look at any of my other posts i did. Me and my BF want a baby [not at this point any more], and all these ladies here always remember everything on here [lol thats whats so great about them!!!!!]