Bleeding during/after sex

[tfca]

Over about the past year to year and a half, I have had some slight bleeding during or after sex.  There is no pain or discomfort, just bleeding.  It doesn't last and after, maybe two trips to the bathroom, and things are back to normal.  My last PAP (that was about a year ago) was clear and I told my doctor about this and she said, "some people are just that way".  But I didn't use to be that way.  I am married and only sleeping with my husband.  I believe he is only sleeping with me, so STD's really aren't on my radar as far as something that could be causing this.

I don't have insurance right now so it's not as easy as "just go to your doctor".  I'm just looking for ideas of what this could possibly be or be caused by.

Any ideas?

[desperate michigan]

I had went through my 3rd miscarriage back in feb. this year. After all that I found out that i had lecions on my cervics and my obgyn said i was one step away form cervical cancer and that we needed to treat it right away. Well at the same time I had decided to have a tubal cauterization done. I have had 2 boys ( which I am very greatful for), but I am about to be 30 years of age and was blessed with 2, so I knew it wasn't going to be a hard decision to make. Well, after all said and done and waiting my time out plus some before I could get back to my "special activities" ( intercourse), i finally had intercourse. The problem is, I bled quite a bit during it, but not afterwards. It was like a faucet just shut off right after we were done and realized what happened. I have been wearing panty liners for a week thinking it was because my period was coming, but it hasn't. We attempted it 2 more times since the first time and it still does the same thing. Nope, no period yet. I  found very very little spotting in my panty liner every couple of days, but still no period. But if my boyfriend and I have intercourse its all over us. He thinks he is hurting me or destroyng something inside and I try to encourage him that its not him. We don't know why its happening and why i have pain and I mean hard pain like cramps or contractions, but it really hurts when the pain comes. Enough for me to tighten up my whole body and feel like I can't breath or grab my private like I just been punched. Is there something wrong with me? My obgyn can't get me in for a few days, what should I do? Someone enlighten me that please! I need to know if I am going to be o.k.

Thank You

[tfca]

"nickle14
05/04/2006
C4  . Yes, I had the same thing. Ignored it like you are and then my uterus just fell right out while I was at the grocery store."

I'm just the type to never know when one is serious or being rude...I sure hope you are being rude and that didn't really happen to you...



"averygrace
05/05/2006
C5  . man... you guys are rude. cant you stop and try to understand what she is going through? well... i can. the same thing happens to me. not everytime we have sex, but sometimes. its a very light tint of blood. i understand. i went to the doctor and pap was fine too. ill look at that website you were given. this has been going on for about a year and half for me too. have you ever had chlymidia? im not saying that you have it now, im just asking if you have ever in your life? when is the last time you have had a test for chlymidia? you guys could both be carrying it and not know. its a cureable std with an antibiotic. i got it from my boyfriend, we both had it and didnt even know it until one day i started bleeding during sex (no pain). cured the problem... still bleed every once in while. let me know what you figure out?? (no insurance, just graduated college, so i cant go to the doc either) good luck to you! sorry so long!"

I'm gonna have to tell ya - if I somehow have Chlamydia my husband is going to have some serious explaining to do!  I've "walked the line" as some say and been faithful to him and I really believe he has been faithful to me.  I did have a brush with Chlamydia when I was a teenager, went to the hospital, got the antibiotics, beat the **** out of the guy I got it from, and moved on.  I was told and I assumed I was cured.  I KNOW they tested me for everything under the sun STD-wise when I got pregnant and everything came back negative so I KNOW I didn't have it 10 years ago.  So, are you saying that, having had that could be the cause for this problem now?  Even if it hasn't been this way all the time between back when I was a teenager and now (I'm 32)?

"SweetKia
05/06/2006
C6  . tfca,
You SHOULD have a planned parenthood somewhere close to you. They don't require a specific income bracket to look at you. I have a couple friends who go there regularly (20-years-old, college students with no insurance) for check ups, birth control pills, etc. How often do you and your husband have sex? I've noticed that when I don't have sex for a couple months and then I do have sex I spot a little after. I would still definately go to a doctor, only they can tell you if you're ok or not (i'm sure you are though!) "

I probably do have a Planned Parenthood somewhere close to me; however, last time I went, when I was much younger and not-so-wise, they DID in fact ask me to fill out a financial questioner and they did base their fees on a sliding scale depending on your income.  I make enough money that I SHOULD be able to afford the doctors, but with our bankruptcy and my husband having been out of work and not getting paid regularly, it's all I can do to keep the phone and lights on.  They don't see that though, all they see is that I make $13.00 an hour and they assume I should be able to afford regular treatment prices.  

The Planned Parenthood I went to when I was younger was dirty and the doctors looked burned out and miserable.  They weren't careful with my body or my feelings and unless I was having sex outside my marriage and was desperate for protection or some treatment I was trying to hide from someone, I wouldn't go back to one.  I don't mean to sound ungrateful for your suggestion, it is a good one, I just had a bad experience when I was younger (for two years) and don't like the idea of going back to a Planned Parenthood.

I suppose we have sex about once or twice a week sometimes, sometimes it's more like once or twice a month - really just depends on what's going on.  With our financial problems we haven't been as intimate as I'd like, but I suppose that is natural for a man to pull away when he feels like he isn't supporting his family (right?)?

I guess part of my problem is that I feel like, isn't it bad enough that I have to have a menstrual cycle and bleed for a week out of each month...WHY do I have to then bleed more when I choose to have sex with my husband...ya know?  And there is always that fear that there could be something serious wrong.  

A dear friend of mine started to experience vaginal bleeding, a little at first, here and there, and then more often and more bleeding, till she was really bad off.  She didn't have insurance and was scared to go to the doctors, fearing the worst.  She waited till the DAY she got insurance, went to a gyn doctor, they told her she had STAGE 4 cancer and that while she could try chemo and radiation, most likely she was going to die, and soon.  And...she did.  So the cancer scare isn't just something I cooked up from TV and I don't want to end up like that, but then again, if I go to a doctors now and get diagnosed with any kind of cancer, I won't be able to get insurance and if I do, the premium will be so high and they all have that "pre-existing condition" clause that would exclude anything a doctor might find "pre-insurance".

It's all so frustrating and confusing.  I think back to when my grandmother used to tell me to "stay young because it is easier" and I thought she just didn't want me to grow up and have fun...man; this sure is fun...NOT!  :(  

Thanks for those that offered their suggestions and advice - I really appreciate it.  I'll check out that website!!!

[SweetKia]

tfca,
You SHOULD have a planned parenthood somewhere close to you. They don't require a specific income bracket to look at you. I have a couple friends who go there regularly (20-years-old, college students with no insurance) for check ups, birth control pills, etc. How often do you and your husband have sex? I've noticed that when I don't have sex for a couple months and then I do have sex I spot a little after. I would still definately go to a doctor, only they can tell you if you're ok or not (i'm sure you are though!)

[averygrace]

man... you guys are rude.  cant you stop and try to understand what she is going through?  well... i can.  the same thing happens to me.  not everytime we have sex, but sometimes.  its a very light tint of blood.  i understand.  i went to the doctor and pap was fine too.  ill look at that website you were given.  this has been going on for about a year and half for me too.  have you ever had chlymidia?  im not saying that you have it now, im just asking if you have ever in your life?  when is the last time you have had a test for chlymidia?  you guys could both be carrying it and not know.  its a cureable std with an antibiotic.  i got it from my boyfriend, we both had it and didnt even know it until one day i started bleeding during sex (no pain).  cured the problem... still bleed every once in  while.  let me know what you figure out??  (no insurance, just graduated college, so i cant go to the doc either)  good luck to you!  sorry so long!

[nickle14]

Yes, I had the same thing. Ignored it like you are and then my uterus just fell right out while I was at the grocery store.

[nowherechild]

Sigh.

http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/menstruation/a/bleedaftersex.htm

There's your possibilities.  Good luck.

[tfca]

Well, I completely understand that, and I wasn't asking for a diagnosis, I was just asking if anyone knew what it COULD POSSIBLY be.  

I am one of those that makes too much money to qualify for anything reduced or free, but my bills keep me where I don't have much of anything left over at the end of the month.  And we are paying off a large medical bill from when my husband had an accident so more medical bills scare me.  

But not only that, I keep thinking, if this could possibly be cancer and I find out before I have health insurance of some kind - they won't cover it because it will be a pre-existing condition.  I don't have a history of cancer in my family but one office visit diagnosing cancer would make it nearly impossible for me to get insurance after the fact (right?).

At any rate, just to clarify, I was just looking for what could possibly cause this, not any kind of diagnosis.

Thanks

[nowherechild]

Ideas aren't the same as a diagnosis.  There are low to no cost places to go to be seen, such as your local health dept. or local Planned Parenthood.  Bleeding/spotting after sex should be checked out in a responsible manner.  Sometimes it is just a friable cervix and could be normal, or it could be a sign of something requiring treatment.  There is no way anyones ideas here will tell you which it is.