One problem is that many old books on sex incorrectly state that the clitoris is a protruding structure that is about 1/4 inch long, giving many women the wrong idea. It is rarely that large. In most cases it is just a tiny bump or button less, often tucked under the hood or surrounding skin except during great arousal. Also, even women who have a clit so mall it is virtually indetectable, can locate the nerve endings there with experimentation and stimulation.
Yes, it is called clitoral agenesis, or aphallia, and it's an extremely rare congenital defect (75 recorded cases in history). It seems more likely you may have phimosis of the clitoral hood, which is where the clitoral hood hides the clitoris. This is correctable through a minor surgical procedure. I suggest you talk to your GYN about your concerns.
Thank you for asking this question! I'm only 15, but I've been openly sexually active for almost a year and nothing, it's almost smooth down there and whatever I do I cant ever seem to find it. I know the ins and outs of everything, and I know what it should look like but still nothing. Even if it doesn't seem like there is a answer for me im glad I can see that other people are struggling with this to, it makes me feel alot better! <3
Hi to all, my girlfriend have the same clit issue, no clit!.. but after touch and explore, i find her clit inside of her vagina!, no joke, she has a big clit inside, more strange her clit its in her vagina wall anus side, so when i stimulate her with mu fingers, i can touch her g spot and clit with a vertical move, she enjoy sex in great ways cause that. We have a children, and thanks to god we dont know this, but she had a C-section delivery instead of normal delivery, after 3 years we found a medical note, that said: if clit was inside, it would be destroyed by a normal delivery… all of this is not a joke, sorry about my english, im mexican and she are colombian, i hope maybe her issue can help u, maybe u have a clit inside.
Hi to all, my girlfriend have the same clit issue, no clit!.. but after touch and explore, i find her clit inside of her vagina!, no joke, she has a big clit inside, more strange her clit its in her vagina wall anus side, so when i stimulate her with mu fingers, i can touch her g spot and clit with a vertical move. We have a children, and thanks to god we dont know, she had a C-section delivery instead of normal delivery, after 3 years we found a medical note, that said: if clit was inside, it would be destroyed by a normal delivery… all of this is not a joke, sorry about my english, im mexican and she are colombian.
Maybe you are Asexual? It means you are not attracted sexually to anything.
It is highly likely that you may have a DSD (disorder of sex develop, also called intersex) it's quite common in those cases to be born without "normal" parts. But honestly no one is "normal". Best way to test this is to have blood work done or go to a Obgyn to see if your reproductive system is "normal". It could also be hormonal, which is easily fixed with birth control or hormone replacement therapy.
Some women have innies and some have outies but if you really want to find this particular body part or location you can it just takes a made up mind. If you're truly concerned ask your OB. They will help you find it. The only stupid question is the one left unasked.
Ok if you didn’t have a clitoris you would not be able to urinate, so 1 question can you urinate? If you answer yes then you absolutely do have a clitoris.
Pls, I also dont enjoy sex at all and my boyfriend told me he couldn't find my clitoris ND I was embarrassed,i have never enjoyed sex for once because it's always painful.. Pls help me on what to do
This is great! Glad I'm not the only one....
Okay I don't want to sound more intruding than helpful, and I don't know much about where to find your clitoris etc. But maybe ur lack of libido/Sexualität arousal or pleasure has less to do with your physical anatomy? I understand the situation you are in and how uncomfortable it must be. Good luck with your research
I am a 70 year old male and had a female friend who is 4 years younger than I. She is in exactly the same situation as what you describe. No matter how hard I tried I could not find a clitoris. Also she told me that she has never orgasmed and did not think that such a thing exists! She is married and has had children. There is no chance that it had been surgically removed. There are no scars and in every way the area is unblemished. Just thought I would share this with you so you know that you are not alone.
I'm kinda relived that I was lucy enough to find this blog, and learned that there are other women with this problem. I am 23 now, and I always thought that I am abnormal and maybe that's a sign. Or I am just really really sc*** up, because I have a lot more thing I don't like about my appareance. And I never found anything about this topic in my maternel language.
Even thougth I am able to reach orgasm with my own hands, I never experienced it with a men (but I always was shy and full of fears)
So I am grateful that you say it's not that abnormal, but I'm still afraid of being rejected because of this, since even if it's not abnormal medically, but it makes me different of other, avarage women.
Do you now any operation or anything I can change my condition?
And sorry for talking so freely about my feelings, But I am happy, that finally I could share my feelings.
Hi ladies I am a male and I was watching this lecture from somebody called dr phil valentine and he came across this topic about women not having a clitoris, from what I gathered he explained that women never had clitoris and that its a male feature, he goes on to say that in africa if a female had such a thing tthey would cut it of because they believed it made them more of a women and the clitoris was a mutation of the body. if you would like to check this out click onto the link.. I hope this helps.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnhkqvW0zFA
click from 16 minutes
I'm the same way. My boyfriend and I have looked for it for over a year and still nothing. My doctor has never said anything about it, so I didn't think it was a problem until I was sexually active. I still enjoy sex, but I feel like I'm really missing out because I can't orgasm.
Also similarly to you, my puberty was smooth sailing, and even though I'm 20 and fully developed, people who don't know me think I'm still in high school (just this year two people have asked me if I'm 16).
I guess we just drew the short end of the stick :/
I'm surprised that no one has researched the anatomy of the clitoris. Here is a link to recent reliable research:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16145367
J Urol. 2005 Oct;174(4 Pt 1):1189-95.
Anatomy of the clitoris.
O'Connell HE, Sanjeevan KV, Hutson JM.
Source
Department of Urology, NeuroUrology and Continence Unit, Royal Melbourne Hospital, Victoria, Australia. Helen.O'***@****
I hope this is of interest and help
Iv always been able to find mine but a way which made me notice it ALOT was when i was in the shower (its a hand held one that attaches to the taps) and i was in a squatting position and washing down there, and as i was running the water over my vagina it started to feel really nice, and the water comes out quite strong, so maybe you could try that, run it all over untill you find where it feels nicest, thats where your clit is. squatting position is probablh best too, hope that helps a bit?
It's sad to be reading this, but it seems that many of the questions that are being asked here seem to stem from a lack of basic understanding of the average/typical female anatomy. Of course it can be completely normal to be undersized or oversized, or to have things positioned a little different from one another, but it seems that many of you don't know where to -start- looking, and ask questions out of fear, not knowing what normalcy could possible look like.
It seems like you've all been done a major dis-service at the lack of education you've received from public education on the topic of your own anatomy. Shame on K-12 schools! Shame!
Here's a little tip. Start looking up pictures of female anatomy! There's PLENTY of it out there. Any basic image search engine can help you. Of course there is plenty of clinical imagery, but pornography can be a valuable learning resource as well. If you have Beef with porn, try to put those offending morals aside for a moment and think about this in an informational sense. Not the pictures, as those can be doctored and manipulated as badly as any fashion photo, but the movies will be more helpful.
An an example, I'll share this is a quick little story about my girlfriend, who was brought up extremely religious. She always used to have self confidence issues because when she took her clothes off to bathe at night, she thought that her body was disfigured and abnormal. In one of the later years of high school, she was spending some time at a guy friend's house. The guy left the room to go grab something, and in that moment, she came across a porn mag half sticking out from under his bed. Initially, she was tremendously offended, but she her curiosity got the better of her, she decided to take a peek, and her mind was blown. The different women in the mag actually had bodies that were shaped differently, and different textures and feature details. A few more magazines, and she didn't feel like a freak anymore. She came to grips with the idea that yes, people are different, and IT'S NORMAL.
Just yesterday I was having a chat with a male friend about some of the things he likes to do with a woman in bed. When he told me about sucking the clitoris, I told him there was nothing there to suck.... and hence began my search to find mine. As far as I can tell, I do not have one - at least not a protrusion where it should be. But I have all the same sensitive feelings in the spot where it should be. I am saving myself for marriage ( I am 23) but I have fooled around before and no guy has ever said anything... so I may have a friend look or go to the doctor. Either way I find it totally strange to suddenly realize I may not be "normal." But I have all the drive down there, so I don't know. Is there a book out there about this at all?
There is a disease called Lichen Planus that can bury the clitoris completely, and cause the lips of the labia to disappear. If you have these symptoms you should definitely get referred to a vulvo-vaginal specialist, or perhaps a dermatologist, but the first would be the best.
Wow. This site was a bunch of help!!! I needed to know about the hood/ covering thing!!! Thank u all!!
I googled and saw this forum, and decided to join with my questions as well.
I was over 40 when I found out that I didn't have a clit, a hood, or an inner labia. I was astounded that NO ONE ever told me that I was missing these parts. I have never seen a vagina but in risque books, but assumed they were the minority not me. I went to my gyno and the midwife told me that she could find no clitoris. and she saw no scarring. I asked her if by chance I could have been circumcized, and as I said, she said she never saw scarring, my thinking was they may have blended.
I would love to know how that I could find out, I tried looking for my medical records of when I was a child, and could not. I asked all my living relatives and they knew nothing of it. So I am on my own.
I do remember an intense extreme burning down there when I was about five, but assumed that it came from a rape that I had a memory of occuring..
I had 2 normal babies, and my daughter had the flaps I call them, the inner labia.
I though am slick, nothing upon opening my outer labia exists but two holes urethra and vagina. Inside my urethra however is a bulb sort of thing that gets stimulated at times.
thanks