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I'm 16, I just found out I'm pregnant Tuesday night. About 5 weeks. Still don't know how to tell my parents.. Advice?
Hello there. Well, I'm sure this is hard. A teen pregnancy is rough. Some make it through alright but you WILL need the support and help of your parents. As you are not yet an adult yourself and dependent on them to live, so will a child be if you intend to keep the child. So, telling your parents is a huge deal. They may react badly but part of that is fear for your future. Nothing changes the landscape of your life like a child and when you try to undertake that when you are still but a child yourself, it is worrisome. so, they will be afraid about what this means for you and your future and what you will do with your life. They also legitimately will worry about what this means for THEM as they in essence will have another child to raise for a while at least. Babies are not cheap and very time consuming.
so, I always recommend for an unplanned pregnancy to first think about your options. If you want to consider adoption which is really an excellent choice for a very young mother, if you want to consider abortion or if you plan to keep the baby. All require some thought and planning and you'll really need to think about it. I wouldn't romanticize ANY of the choices and no one choice is right or wrong as long as it is your decision. What I would then do is come up with some ideas for plans. If you tell your parents you are keeping the baby, for example, make sure you've thought of your game plan for getting on track for being an independent adult down the road. What will you do post high school? Go to college, trade school? And how will you pay for or accomplish this with a baby? How you will balance work, school and baby care? Assuring them that you are willing to take care of the baby at night, for instance and that you are willing to not go out on Friday and Saturday night so that you are with your baby. All of those practical things that are REAL life to having a child. Nothing will make you grow up faster and if you present it to your parents in that fashion, they'll take it better. (if your hope is to keep the baby).
Anyway, I do wish you luck. Like I said, it is very very hard but if you do a lot of planning and sacrificing, it will hopefully be fine. Your parents are much needed in this scenario and hopefully they will choose to be supportive for whatever you decide to do. peace
so, I always recommend for an unplanned pregnancy to first think about your options. If you want to consider adoption which is really an excellent choice for a very young mother, if you want to consider abortion or if you plan to keep the baby. All require some thought and planning and you'll really need to think about it. I wouldn't romanticize ANY of the choices and no one choice is right or wrong as long as it is your decision. What I would then do is come up with some ideas for plans. If you tell your parents you are keeping the baby, for example, make sure you've thought of your game plan for getting on track for being an independent adult down the road. What will you do post high school? Go to college, trade school? And how will you pay for or accomplish this with a baby? How you will balance work, school and baby care? Assuring them that you are willing to take care of the baby at night, for instance and that you are willing to not go out on Friday and Saturday night so that you are with your baby. All of those practical things that are REAL life to having a child. Nothing will make you grow up faster and if you present it to your parents in that fashion, they'll take it better. (if your hope is to keep the baby).
Anyway, I do wish you luck. Like I said, it is very very hard but if you do a lot of planning and sacrificing, it will hopefully be fine. Your parents are much needed in this scenario and hopefully they will choose to be supportive for whatever you decide to do. peace
I think I'm going to my grandpa first, he'll be able to help me. My dad is gonna flip out. Lol, but besides all that I'm beyond excited and I cannot wait to bring my little one into the world :)
Its nice you mencion God kasy422 . Ppl foget about him its sad when i read forums, berry its nice the way u talk about your unborn child , i got pregnat at 20 i was afraid too my dad was very old fachiond and i was afraid i told my mum first and that she told my dad , tell ur mum that your pirod is late and that u can be pregnat dont tell her ,mum im pregnant give it to her slow thats what i did , i made the home test
Good for you (: god bless yoouu.
Thank you! I'm starting college classes next year for early childhood care. Why take care of somebody else's kids before I can care for my own? I love kids so much. I don't think it'll be a problem. I really hope they understand.
I think one of the biggest reasons why its so hard to tell your parents is because you don't want them to be disappointed in you but let me tell you something ...if you show them you are serious about having your baby and are ready to take on the responsibilities, no matter what anyone else thinks, when they look at your baby and know that you were the one who cared enough to bring it life, they will be the proudest parents and grandparents ever. Be strong and no matter how hard it gets, always remember ..... With God as your Strength, there is nothing you can't overcome .... just sit them down & tell them to listen to you. R get a close friend to tell your mom or dad first. Goodluck
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