well what works for my gurlfriend is alotta foreplay and its builds up the atmosphere and she wants it more that way so when im on top i go slow and kiss her neck and talk in her ear so shes not focusing so much on the sex shes focusing on the whole feeling and that way she orgasm really hard um women dont orgasm alot from just sex u need to interact with her idk if he'll get affended if u tell him this but thats all i can sugest good luck
WTG above poster....I explained that to my DH and he understands. We are very complex(women) that is.....you just need to make him understand that yes a large percentage of women need to have clitoral stimulation to climax. Being on top does not help me. Don't be ashamed go to an adult toy store and find something that he and you both can use to help with reaching climax. then he can say he took part in getting you off.
They say that something like 90% of women never climax during intercourse, some other form of stimulation has to take place in order for this to happen, i.e. the clitoris.
The most effective way to reach the peak during intercourse is if you are on top as this causes friction on the clitoris as well.
It really isn't something that your DH should feel bad about or you really, as a lot of women go through this and some never admit this and never end up having an orgasm in their lifes (poor ladies).
Good luck.