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HPV/genital warts and some lifestyle questions (eg how to tell new boyfriend?!)
Hi all, hope I'm not repeating any other posts (have tried checking to make sure but there's many postings!).
I just got diagnosed with genital warts about three months ago and after switching doctors, the liquid nitrogen finally starting working. I know I caught it from being unsafe about a year ago which is a big lesson for me to be safe forever onwards! I only had one, then I found another, then one more and I think a fourth now but they are all really tiny. Especially compared to many internet pictures which are horrific! So much information from doctors and internet is conflicting. Do you guys have any advice/ideas on these few questions;
1) how do I reduce risk of spreading HPV (even when no warts are visable) to a new boyfriend, when one comes along? If my warts were on my labia, doesn't this mean a condom is fairly useless for an uninfected guy having sex with me?
2) how do I tell a new boyfriend this is risk!? So scary? What do you say!?
3) if no warts are visable, can using a vibrator and/or a partner's hand down there spread the infection to other parts of my vagina or himself?
4) any good, non-scary website suggestions I can give a new boyfriend for information without scarring him off too quickly?
I've asked the doctors but they seem so different in their knowledge/convictions that it's very confusing so thanks so much for any info/advice you may have!
I just got diagnosed with genital warts about three months ago and after switching doctors, the liquid nitrogen finally starting working. I know I caught it from being unsafe about a year ago which is a big lesson for me to be safe forever onwards! I only had one, then I found another, then one more and I think a fourth now but they are all really tiny. Especially compared to many internet pictures which are horrific! So much information from doctors and internet is conflicting. Do you guys have any advice/ideas on these few questions;
1) how do I reduce risk of spreading HPV (even when no warts are visable) to a new boyfriend, when one comes along? If my warts were on my labia, doesn't this mean a condom is fairly useless for an uninfected guy having sex with me?
2) how do I tell a new boyfriend this is risk!? So scary? What do you say!?
3) if no warts are visable, can using a vibrator and/or a partner's hand down there spread the infection to other parts of my vagina or himself?
4) any good, non-scary website suggestions I can give a new boyfriend for information without scarring him off too quickly?
I've asked the doctors but they seem so different in their knowledge/convictions that it's very confusing so thanks so much for any info/advice you may have!
Hi. I haven't been to the dr. yet but i am scheduled for a few weeks away..is this too long to wait? I have recently just found a few places i think are warts...they aren't visible they are right under the vaginal canal opening so i can't see them but can feel them. i think there are 2. I am so upset. I have been with my fiance for a year and a half now. Did I get this from him? I have never had any symtoms until now...and he is the only person i have never used condoms with. How long does it take to get the warts after being infected???
I haven't even slept with but 3 people and one of the others was 4 years ago..he is my exhusband and i did of course not use condoms with him but found out he had been cheating on me...could this have been from him that long ago??? ugh...so upsetting. I don't know how to even get the words out to tell my dr! I had just set up my annual apt. with a new dr. and just found this..should i move it up is my biggest question and would this be from 4 years ago or more likely my fiance? I do know when i first started seeing my fiance I had to go the dr. for bacterial vaginosis...and have had that problem since him but no stds or anything like that! i am devistated. Im a super clean girl and just can't believe this is happening...scared.
Does anyone have any answers?
also...does your obgyn remove them or do you have to go to a different dr to remove them?
I haven't even slept with but 3 people and one of the others was 4 years ago..he is my exhusband and i did of course not use condoms with him but found out he had been cheating on me...could this have been from him that long ago??? ugh...so upsetting. I don't know how to even get the words out to tell my dr! I had just set up my annual apt. with a new dr. and just found this..should i move it up is my biggest question and would this be from 4 years ago or more likely my fiance? I do know when i first started seeing my fiance I had to go the dr. for bacterial vaginosis...and have had that problem since him but no stds or anything like that! i am devistated. Im a super clean girl and just can't believe this is happening...scared.
Does anyone have any answers?
also...does your obgyn remove them or do you have to go to a different dr to remove them?
Obviously if the warts are still visible, you should tell your partner, (so he isnt freaked.) Have you gone to the doctor for treatment yet? Once the warts are taken care of and 6 months go by w/out another, you have no obligation to tell anyone about your hpv. Everyone who has had 3 or more partners in their life, will most likely contract some strand of hpv. The virus will eventually shed on its own.
honesty is the best policy! As they say. i am so sorry to hear of your situation. Sometimes the worst things happen to the best people. I am very proud of you for being so honest. You take care of yourself.
HPV and genital warts are so common. I would start by being honest with your boyfriend. I contracted HPV and genital warts when I was in college from unprotected sex and only the second person I had sex with. I remember becoming serious in a relationship (years later) and deciding to tell about the HPV. It was difficult to do, and I remember him asking a lot of questions. All in all, he was glad that I was honest with him. Must be he really liked me regardless; we just celebrated our 8th anniversary in June.
There are a lot of websites out there with good information about the virus. Just google HPV or genital warts. Maybe you could present him with the facts. Seeing how common it is may help to alleviate his concerns.
I'll be thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.
There are a lot of websites out there with good information about the virus. Just google HPV or genital warts. Maybe you could present him with the facts. Seeing how common it is may help to alleviate his concerns.
I'll be thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.
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