Help!

[Beachk97]

So currently my boyfriend and I have been talking about sex but my biggest fear is pregnancy, yes I am on the birth control pill and he would of course use a condom but I always think "what if?". How can I calm my nerves to where we can have sex and enjoy it without worrying so much?

[Emm_jane]

The stress is the worst part, and even that can delay periods... I'm in a similar boat... The first time is the scariest, after that... Yeah. Jut be warned, sex for the first time Knicks your cycle ways off. You may have light spotting, but no period and then finally a really heavy one about a month later.... Idk hormones. Scared me.

[specialmom]

ALL birth control methods other than abstinence have a risk.  And if you are the one that it fails with, it doesn't matter if you are in the 5 percent group.   I tell young girls where an unplanned pregnancy would devastate their life (as it would have mine . . .  I had an order to life such as plans to go to college, have a career, etc. which is much more difficult with an unplanned pregnancy) that they do need to consider that risk.  

We encourage women to use birth control here at the forum but taking the risk lightly when it is unacceptable to even have a risk is not great for making a huge decision like becoming sexually active.  

[Ronnie6048]

your 'what if' has very low risk rate because u are on pills and he is using a condom chances are very low but as special mom has mentioned if u get late periods you'llfreak the hell out of you .but dont worry the chances of not getting pregnant are above 95% and plz dont ask or think about the rest 5% instead of getting pregnant u'll get headache.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  If the 'what if' is too horrible to imagine, I'd be hesitant to tell you it is okay to have sex hon.  ALL birth control methods have failure rates.  Abstinence is the only way to be sure you will not get pregnant.  I hate to be old fashioned in that regard but once you begin having sex, whether on birth control or not, you will worry about getting your period on time, etc.  It just brings a level of stress that you don't currently have.  Just know that.

But using birth control in terms of your taking the pill and his using a condom is probably as safe as it gets.  

I always caution girls to be careful with giving sex away.  It's like giving a piece of you away and should be reserved for someone VERY special.  Take care!  

[veromazarelli]

That's the thing about sex... There's nothing 100% effective to make sure you don't get pregnant (except for abstinence).

Just know that you are doing everything you can to not get pregnant. Make sure, if you need that peace of mind, that he wear a condom each and every time. And you take your pill every day. Be regular with your BC pills; that will be a major role in you not getting pregnant.