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How can I have an orgasm!?
This is a little embarassing, but I don't know where else to go. I'm 20 years old and I've never had an orgasm. I'm in a relationship and I have sex with my partner, but I can never get off. I also don't know what turns me on. Sometimes I'll be in the mood, and other times I won't. I've tried to go "exploring" and nothing really feels right. I do'nt have a toy though. My boyfriend is very supportive though. He's trying to help as much as he can. But so far nothing has worked. This may be a little graphic but when i rub my clitoris, it feels really intense but it doesn't last long. I mean, sex feels good and all, but I haven't felt that "explosion" or "sneeze" as I've read it described as. Plus I don't really know how to turn myself on. I can't really talk to my friends about this and my boyfriend tries to understand but there isn't much he can do. I just want to know that I'm not a freak, and that it is possible for me to have an orgasm. I just need help!!! :(
You would be surprise of 85% of woman are in the same boat.
I felt the same like you when i was your age..i thoug i was different but not. man and woman are different when having sex.
1.) full massages from head to toe will help you to relax and feel the sensation of your body. ( choose a good looking masuse..lol)
2.) you said " i rub my clitoris, it feels really intense ".... my best advice is to get closer to your boyfriend body part when having intercourse and rub your clitoris agains his body, ( thats what i do ..and it works amaizing!) remember we feel outside not much inside( guys are different)
3.) you dont need to worry about him having good time while having sex, you can have your good time as well and dream..sometimes i mentally cheat and i think about having sex with brad pitt...aghhhh!
4.) your friends wont help, they might have the same problem...only you can find a way to play with his body..
use his body to your advantage...lol
good luck...and by the way i never owned a toy...no needed!
I felt the same like you when i was your age..i thoug i was different but not. man and woman are different when having sex.
1.) full massages from head to toe will help you to relax and feel the sensation of your body. ( choose a good looking masuse..lol)
2.) you said " i rub my clitoris, it feels really intense ".... my best advice is to get closer to your boyfriend body part when having intercourse and rub your clitoris agains his body, ( thats what i do ..and it works amaizing!) remember we feel outside not much inside( guys are different)
3.) you dont need to worry about him having good time while having sex, you can have your good time as well and dream..sometimes i mentally cheat and i think about having sex with brad pitt...aghhhh!
4.) your friends wont help, they might have the same problem...only you can find a way to play with his body..
use his body to your advantage...lol
good luck...and by the way i never owned a toy...no needed!
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