When your hymen breaks during sex it might hurt a little, only because it is tissue that is being broken, but your hymen could have broken before. This may have been due to riding a bike, horse or you just had a bad fall and hit yourself in that area. At first it might feel uncomfortable, maybe painful but it doesn't go away after the very first time. It takes a little time after to get used to it. It is very important to communicate to your partner how you feel, because if something is done forcefully it will hurt and not be pleasant.
Even if your hymen was broken through bikes, horses, tampons, sex toys sex can still be awkward and even a little painful. Also-the first time isn't all pain and a lot of the awkwardness can just be neither of you guys knowing what you want or what your doing. For me it took almost 3x for it to not have any initial pain- however the first couple times it was enjoyable and pleasurable by the end it was just the starting part. I also took a 3 year hiatus from sex and that first 5 minutes afterwards were a little uncomfortable so just keep in mind it's all about your tissues being stretched (like they were meant to be). So if you find during your first time it's very uncomfortable, try stretching yourself out with toys first. Once you become regularly sexually active, it usually doesn't register again unless you find a partner much larger than your previous ones.
And Like Chapina said, make sure you talk to your partner through it. I found the key to amazing sex to be confident enough to tell my partner what I want and in return having him let me know what feels best for him. I know it sounds odd, but it really makes all the difference.
Yeah, my boyfriend and i talk about it all the time,, we've had sex many times too.. but it really really hurts me... and like.. he can never go all the way in due to extreme pain... he stops because it hurts me.. but.. i just wanna get to the stage where we can have sex without it hurting?? Tomorrow will be the next time i have sex with him, im going to see if it feels different, since im pretty sure my hymen broke the last time...
Well if it keeps hurting you might want to consider making an appointment with a GYN. Most likely you're just too small atm, but if it's been more than half a dozen times and all you're getting is pain it's a good idea to get looked at just in case.
Yeah.. its always a lot of pain... and we tried again after my Hymen supposidly breaking... and it wasnt that much easierr.... i think.. because he's really big too... it doesn't help... ive said ill keep trying till christmas.. then ill.. i dont know.. many websites say im just not ready.. im probably not ready... im only 15..
That can make a difference, especially if you're still growing. Insufficient lubrication can also make a huge difference. So maybe look into a water based lubricant and see if that helps. Sometimes a body isn't fully caught up to the desires so you may not be producing enough. Just remember to avoid oil-based lubricants as they can harm the condoms I know you must be using. (And if you're not, start doing so and then just lie to me. I have known way too many underage girls getting pregnant and most of them didn't come out on the other side well. Honestly it's getting a little depressing.)
We dont use condoms, but we were both virgins before, and i have the implant,, so pregnancy is the least of my worries.... and umm,, i dont think i have any problem with producing liquid... i get pretty.. umm :L wet.. but like.. we're not sure what the problem is.. i was reading some websites, and apparently it is possible for someone to find sex impossible... i really hope that's not the case for me.... but i was thinking, i might just be too young? but kids have sex at all ages these days... so that cant be it? or my body just isnt ready? :S
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