I cant get wet and dont want sex anymore, used to be very horny. why?

[seaside333]

Im not interested in sex anymore. I am 23, used to be wet all the time. never had a problem, and i always wanted sex. have been with the same boyfriend for 2 years and always had a healthy sex life. we moved in together 4 months ago. and for close to two months i have been so dry and not interested at all. why am i dry??? it is putting a lot of added stress on living together. why would things change so much? the facts: i am busy and kind of stressed at a newish job, he was out of work for a while. i am on the pill but is has been the same one for over a year, and i have never had weird side effects with it. i had a UTI a month ago or so. i think that is gone. Otherwise, i am eating the same, trying to stay hydrated, and just wishing that i was still interested in my partner. and not wanting to be in bed with him is frustrating, i am finding myself angry at him for things i shouldnt be. I do not have doubts that i still love him, i do, and i want to want him to touch me. i just dont crave it.
any thoughts? its driving me crazy.
thanks...

[NadiaJ]

My fiancee and I just moved in together as well. And we have had alot of stress in our life to... alot. I think its just stress. Stress can do alot to your body and your sex drive.

All you can do is just try to relax and know that all hard times eventually end in good ones.

[punkybear]

When my fiance and I first moved in together omg we fought a LOT! The whole dynamic of the relationship changes when you move in together because you learn things about each others habits and stuff that you didn't know about and it can drive you crazy! Anyway, we got through that "adjustment period" (because that is all it is) and we are now back to normal. You will be fine soon. You are just getting to know each other in a different way. Good luck!

[Avaheart]

All i can suggest is to talk to him about it. You'll be amazed at how intimant you can get without needing or wanting intercause. Talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels about the situation, and maybe he can suggest some ways to make you "want" him again.

[seaside333]

thank you ladies, ill try to relax. you are so helpful.

[redheadwife]

Wetness can mean alot of things for me its cause my body products extra natural bacteria and thats why I'm usually wet. It could be something as simple as your body cleaning its self. There shouldnt worry unless it starts to have a colour or an odour, or other problems then go to the doctor other then that you should like your fine.

[redheadwife]

what help with me living with my man and we started fighting alot . GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Being stuck in closed in space tends to make people fight more. John and I go out into the country now when we start fighting too much then we come back loving each other more then before and are more relax.

[sk2006a]

as for the dryness issue, try using a lubricant such as k-y.

[sparkle27]

I am having the same problem.. I am beginning to hate sex.. I hate the way I feel afterwards.. I feel gross and need to take a shower.. or I feel like I have been used... I was married and just got a divorce recently.. I would have sex with him because that is what he wanted. it would get to the point were he would beg or tell me that I am his wife and I should want to do it.. I would hate it.. I would rush to the shower to wash it all away.. I didnt want to have kids with him either.. we finially got a divorce.. and I have started a new relationship and now I feel even worse.. like I am just there for him to have sex with.. I never get anything out of it.. I have never "get mine" so to speak.. they always do.. and when they are done they get up and go.. I am beginning to hate men as well.. I dont know what is wrong with me. I want a relationship and I want it to be healthy but I can't seem to get that from anyone..sex is always an issue.. I wish is wasnt, I have never found it important.. I am 27 now and still have never really enjoyed sex,, i would rather make out then have sex. what is wrong with me..  

[smellsweet]

Try being single for a while! this is exaclty what happened to me. I felt used by men, as if i was an object. And i stayed in these relationships because i wanted the intimacy.. the conversations etc. I really suggest being single for a while. I had loads of old relationship strings hanging around me and i cut all my ties and avoided all sex for about a year.. NOW ive found someone i REALLY LIKE!!! :D and its good as we're getting to know each other and we enjoy being together with NO SEX!!! its great! dont look for a relationship. Learn to love yourself and love being single, then if you find someone worth you, and worth having a relationship with go for it. And make sure its built on something solid, which doesnt involve sex. Then, if sex does come into it it will be so much better! good luck. xxx


And about the drynes in the main question. Im struggling with the same problem. I just dont seem to get wet.. even sometimes when i want sex! i dont feel aroused however i just would like it? i dont want to use lube because im so young! i feel i want it to come naturally

[butterflyluvr286]

i use to feel like you some time ago and this might be strange to say but thats how i found out i am a les try something with a chick not a close freind that will make probs but you might be a les and just dont know it yet or just affaid there is nothing wrong with who you are its not a choice to be who we are.

[Sydney1]

one word LUBE

[vern20]

I myself use to be very horny with my partner as well almost everyday i would have sex and i would get wet and enjoy it, but since i have moved in with him into my parents home. It just doesn't feel like right anymore. I have to be very quiet so my parents wont hear me,but i do it for the sake of him. i dont enjoy it anymore not even for him to touch me period whats wrong with me!! im 20 years old and we have been together for 2 years some advice please.