I just dont know what to do

[concernedbff]

I recently found out that my best friend has herpes, she had unprotected sex with this guy numerous times and he knew that he had it and didnt tell her, i am really scared for her and anyone else this guy may come in contact with because he is known for sleeping around, she is still planning on having sex with him even though he doesnt like her he just wants to have sex with her, he has made that point several times but still she continues to think he will come around, she is OK with it. Her and her family are OK with the fact that their daughter has this and that she has it because she was stupid and so was that guy, other girls are going to get it from him but she cares about him too much to tell anyone about it, she is endangering herself and her comunity and her parents couldnt be happier about it i dont know what to do, shes practically family and i love her like a sister and it hurts me to see her life going this way, please help me

[vmvnpv]

Honestly, and this is going to sound harsh, but it's her life and none of yours or her families business.  If she wants to be with him it's her right.  She also doesn't have a right to tell anyone else about his disease but she should tell anyone she sleeps with that she has it.  It's their right.

[AnnieBrooke]

No matter how much you love her, it's her life.  All you can do is tell her your opinion, and then leave it alone.  Even trying some independent action (i.e., you telling people the guy has herpes) would be the wrong thing to do -- first of all, you don't know for sure he gave her herpes (sorry to say this, I'm sure you have it right but you can't prove it) and second of all, you will just look like a spiteful you-know-what for spreading stories.  Best you can do is suggest she use protection, and make the same suggestion to any other female you know is sleeping with him.