remember that birth controll is not a definate answer to not getting pregnant. My mother got pregnant with me and all my brothers and sisters while she was on birth control, or after getting her tubes tied.
you need to let him know, his reaction to your news will tell you the most valuable things about him. If he acts ignorant and ignores you, then by all means honey, he wasnt the man you were looking for.
As for an alternative to abortion, think about adoption. if he turns his back and leaves you in the rain, then at least you wont think you just have the option of raising the child alone, or doing away with the child while its still "in cognito". seriously think about an adoption, and if you choose that, then make it an open adoption...that way if you ever want to know the child, then you can.
IF he always told you that he would leave his wife for you...then how did you not know he was married???? This is going to take some soul searching on your part. I don't think anyone at this forum can tell you what to do?? This is an emotional issue not a medical issue. You are in a very tight situation, and I feel for you. I myself am a 23 yr old unwed mother. It is very hard, but very worthwhile. This situation your in sounds very familar to my friends. She did not get preg. but she did find out her boyfriend was married and had kids. She choose not to confront the wife and to just let him go....I understand of course in your situation that you are prego, so it's not quite that easy. Just remember the decisions that you make will affect everyone's life involved..Not just your own.
Good luck , I know whatever decision you do make ...It will be a hard one .Best wishes and Merry Christmas.
Hello I was in a similiar situation but It was by kids father I left him because he was cheating I was tired of it and moved to Texas. I was pregnant again. My mom made me tell him because she said what if something happen you don't want it on your conscious the reason your child does'nt know his or her father.