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I think my friend is lying about being pregnant

My friend is saying that she is pregnant. First of all she says that she hasn't gotton her period. She has taken three pregrancy test all blood test and it has all come back negative. Two nights ago she went to the ER because she was having a lot of pain. While there they did an ultrasound and they told her that the ultrsound looks like she is about 3 weeks pregnant. And then she say that the reason that the blood results are coming up negative due to the medication she is taking. I don't know if she is telling the truth or not. I thinki that she is lying so that she can get her ex back. First a blood results won't come up negative and an ultrasound i don't think will tell you your 3 weeks pregnant I think she is lying. What you think?

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There is no medication that makes you get a negative pregnancy test.

I don't see this as your problem.  You'll know soon enough if she's pregnant.  
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there are females that lie, but maybe something is bothering her and she needs a friends attention.  if you are her friend then trust her.  if it turns out she is lying you will know in 9 months for sure.  honestly though, you aren't being a good friend to her by asking this, and if she is lying then she isn't being a good friend to you.  
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Women lie about this kind of stuff a lot it seems. Either that or I have known a lot of scummy ones in my life.

My one friend saved her pregnancy test when she found out she was pregnant. My other friend offered to buy it from her so she could convince he ex to get back with her. When I asked what would happen in the future when it would become apparent that she wasn't she just said she would lie about having a miscarriage.

Another of my friends would tell her boyfriends that she was pregnant and needed money for an abortion. She would pretend to get one and then spend the money on herself.

I think your friend is lying. Watch as she'll mysteriously have a miscarriage in the future.

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who knows.  i personally think that its so stupid to lie about being pregnant because it's a pretty sure bet that everyone will find out the truth.  my husbands cousin did this.  she claimed someone elses ultrasound as her own, and everyone threw a shower for her.  opps not pregnant.  for the sake of the friend though, she might not be lying.  
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what I never understood about this "lying about a pregnancy" bit is won't the boyfriend just end up leaving anyway once he finds out the ex is not really pregnant? (whether by a fake miscarriage or whatever..obviously the truth will come out eventually when the girl doesn't ever go into labor!). So you get a few more months?  What for?  To REALLY try and get pregnant now that it seems to have worked?  Its sad that people will go to such extremes and want to continue relationships with people that don't want to be with them.  Have some self-worth, I say!  Where have the morals and values gone I wonder....good grief.  Geez, with all the staged or not staged shows on Maury Povich, I'd sure as hell get a paternity test if I were a male and there was ANY doubt.  There seems to be a lot of DESPERATE girls out there.  A man does not make a woman.  And being with the RIGHT man makes all the difference in the world.

-a happily married woman that did not trap her husband.
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I so agree with you, I too have been happily married for almost 7 years, and I didn't have to trap my husband.  Who in the heck would want a man that doesn't want you?  Females can be strange thats for sure.  
The only thing is that we aren't stopping to consider that maybe the friend that started this post is having jealousy issues.  I think that it is hard for us to say yes or no that her friend is lying.  She could be.  The one thing that I don't understand is she said her friend went to ER and had ultrasound done, was she there with her?  
Plus, it seems like the friend is in this a little deeper, like maybe she is trying to have a thing with her friends ex?  Sounds fishy to me.
I'm with you that these girls need to get some self respect.
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Hi,
Just reading over your post and other comments. I have heard of women making up lies about pregnancy in order to "keep a man." I find it rather disturbing and is usually a sign of some deep-seeded mental issues like a personality disorder.
What I do want to put out there is...maybe you should re-consider being her friend. The woman is either really disturbed (if she lies about being pregnant) or there is little trust between the two of you.
I sometimes find that it is hard to find honest and healthy friends, but in the end it usually better to not have toxic friends around.
I wish you the best.
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My ex-girlfriend just told me that she is pregnant. I stopped by her house, and she has a bunch of used tampon wrappers in her trash can. Also, she has taken her birth control pills up through today (I discovered). In addition, even though she is only a couple weeks late, she claims to be going in for her first ultra sound this week. A good friend of mine is a nurse, and she tells me that my ex is lying to me. She has a history of mental problems, and is on daily anti-depresion meds. I'm interested is some more feedback...is it possible she is not lying??
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If there were tampon wrappers in the trash and the trash is picked up weekly, and she does not have a female roommate, that would appear that she is lying.  She would probably stop taking the pill if she knew she was pregnant (there is no guarantee of this, but why would someone bother to take a pill every day if there was no need)?  A first ultrasound would not happen yet.  Even though pregnancy is counted as being from the first day of the last period, so she would (at a couple of weeks late) count as 5 or 6 weeks pregnant, that is still too early for a routine first sonogram.  Say you will go with her to the supposed ultrasound appointment.  If she says "Good!" and has one, you will be there to ask the doctor how pregnant she is and see if the dates add up.  If she gives you excuses about why you can't be there, it's a sign she is lying.
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I appreciate your insight. She is methodical about taking out her trash, and when I asked to go with her to the ultrasound she said no. She told me it would be too "wierd". Also, she couldn't tell me a due date yet. With the problems she has (some which are pretty severe), I can't help but be concerned about her having a child right now. Add in the fact that it would be my child as well, and I am very concerned...she has actually deceived me in the past by claiming she was committing suicide (on at least 2 occasions-the second of which I ended up calling 911). With the evidence at hand, her problems, and past history with trying in desparation to keep me in her life, my thought is that she must be deceiving me. Guess I'm just looking for some outside opinions.
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I recently broke up with my girlfriend (about a month now) and she is claiming that she is 7 weeks pregnant.  7 weeks being the exact last time we had sex, and yes we did use a condom and it didnt break or slip or anything like that.  She had quit taking birth control due to ultra high cholesterol from it, about 2 weeks before the last time we had sex.
But allow me to give you some back story first before any advice can be given.  

So far since we have been broken up, she was sitting in front of my drive way in her car when I got home from work, threatened to sue me or say something else bad will happen, when she asked me for the gifts she bought me back, saying that they were for us, when I had treated her very well both on gift and paying for every meal for over a year. Also I have been hounded a lot about giving her another chance, her deserving another chance, etc etc.

About two weeks after the breakup she apparently stabbed herself and also was barely eating or drinking anything, I haven't seen her so I don't know if any of this is true. I asked if she was checked in the hospital if she had been checked out for pregnancy and she had said no, however several members of my family pretty much have said yes they would have done a blood test considering her state of mind and not eating/drinking.

When I asked her further about how she found out, she said she had taken a pregnancy test, but it took her a very long time to remember when, "ummmm..... it was... ummm..."  Same thing with when she went to the doctor, not an obstetrician, but her family doctor, and she said she had a doctor's report saying she was pregnant.  When I asked for her due date, she said she had it written down, and it was in the 2nd or 3rd week of april, then the next day said it was June but didnt have an exact due date.  Also when I asked how far along she said 6 to 8 weeks, then revised it to 7 because "she didn't want to believe it herself"  In addition two days after her pregnancy test she was at a bar drinking a long island because she was text messaging me that she was tipsy.  The final thing I noticed was she asked, do we get back together now?  then later said she didn't want to get back together with me.

If this helps, since I dated her, I was very cautious about not getting her pregnant, very very cautious, and explained that to her.  I am a bit inexperienced at break ups and it ended pretty badly, I knew it was the last straw when she was hounding my friends to find out where I was, since I had become very busy with starting a new career. She also has been on anti depressants, and is bi-polar, and earlier in the relationship, there were several instances of her trying to cut herself.

I really need some insight, this is really stressful for me, as I just want to move on.

Thank you very much for your thoughts
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Yikes! yikes! You poor guys. My advice is that those women are LYING to you. If by some strange twist of fate, they are telling you the truth- be afraid. Be VERY afraid.

Those women sound like they have no respect for their bodies / babies/ or you! Drinking and what not while pregnant is bad ju ju. Not allowing you to be a part of the bonding and development of your child. Bad ju ju.

If you want my opinion- they are liars! Desperately trying to get your attention or back with you. I agree with Annie. I'd pretend that you believe them, and offer to go with them to the Dr's appt. But first, make it very clear that you two are OVER- and are only going to be around for the child. My guess is that they'll find some way to wiggle out of you tagging along to the appointment and suffer some sort of "miscarriage" while you're not around, of course.

But a heads up, I would strongly recommend NOT sleeping w/ them in the meanwhile- or ever again. I KNOW women like that (my bfs ex is one of them) and if she's not pregnant now.. oooooh she'll try her darndest to get you if she wants to keep you. Meaning, she'll call you for a booty call when you're drunk when she knows she's fertile, claim to be on Birth Control, use condom - whatever. I've even heard of one woman EMPTYING THE CONDOM INTO HERSELF after her boyfriend passed out.

Tip to fix anyone from doing that... either flush a used condom- or if you suspect a crazy one... give her a taste of her own medicine and pour some tabasco sauce in the condom. That'll fix her.

Either way, keep your Russel the love muscles away from those women! Nothing good can come of that if they are already acting nutty like that.
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My brother in law is going thruogh the same thing.  About 3 weeks ago he comes home with this girl.  She hasn't left yet.  She starting claiming to be pregnant about a week ago.  She say she went to the doctor yesterday and took a test.  She said it came back postive.  I asked her about the paper she would need to take to the ob/gyn.  She said they didnt give her one.  Given my experience with pregnancy testing in hospitals and clinics, I know you are given proof so that you can start prenatal care.  She also left an open bag of unused sanitary napkins in plain view. This girl has to have some issues.
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When I see her she tries telling me she doesn't fancy me or have any romantic feelings towards me.  It's not right some how, I feel it, but can't be sure and don't know what to do.  I left her because I just want to be on my own and in live my own life, and I'm not trying to turn my back on any responsibilities but I can't help feeling some times she's trying to trap me.... she has said before that she's never going to let me go because "you're far too special".  that sounds very unhealthy, i didn't say anything, i just wanted to get out of there.  Now I'm here...

any sort of advice would be appreciated...
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I just broke up with my ex 3/4 weeks ago.  Just this monday she's told me she had a miscarriage.  I have no way of knowing if she is lying or not, and im pulling my hair out in confusion.  I know she's on daily anti depressants and a history of mental issues... she never went to hospital, just a doctor who she said checked her over and gave a her a pill to take to clear her body.  She won't tell her parents because she says things are already bad at home... i've never met her parents so I have only her word to go on.  SHe knows I don't want a relationship with her, but I say I'll be supportive to her as a friend, like going to the doctors with her (which she doesn't do...) And she calls me up wanting to cuddle, which is fair enough for support but I can't help feeling sometimes its just to get back in with me.  Over the telephone she has slipped in comments like "I love you too..." when I have said nothing, like putting words in my mouth. When I see her she tries telling me she doesn't fancy me or have any romantic feelings towards me.  It's not right some how, I feel it, but can't be sure and don't know what to do.  I left her because I just want to be on my own and in live my own life, and I'm not trying to turn my back on any responsibilities but I can't help feeling some times she's trying to trap me.... she has said before that she's never going to let me go because "you're far too special".  that sounds very unhealthy, i didn't say anything, i just wanted to get out of there.  Now I'm here...

any sort of advice would be appreciated...
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there is medicine out there that can cause a neg blood test and at three weeks sometimes the hcg levels arent as high as they should be too so dont doubt your friend...let me tell u like this I'm currently 9 months prego about to pop at any day now and one of my best friends is doubting me being pregnant....just believe your friend B/C let me tell u it hurts like h*ll for a friend to do that to you...take it from someone who has been there and is going through it now
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Today is mother's day and my bff just told me "I think I'm pregnant". She does this about every 3-6 months. It gets kind of annoying so now I just ignore it. If she is then I will find out sooner or later. But I am tired of hearing "Maybe I am, maybe I am". She seems really desperate to get knocked up by her sleezy boyfriend. Every time she 'thinks' she is she tells him that just to keep him around. She has claimed miscarriages in the past also so that people feel bad for her. She's one of those people that lie about being hurt or sick all the time too. Most of her life she's had a sling on her arm or an ace bandage on her ankle. Sometimes I wonder why I still talk to her. I mean, I have friends but she has been my bff for 11 years. Now that I am engaged I think of my fiancee' as my best friend. Every time my friend calls and leaves a message that she thinks she's pregnant my fiancee and roommates start to talk. It is really getting on my nerves. If you've ever heard the story of the boy who cried wolf, no one will believe you when it actually happens for real. If she is pregnant for real, I don't believe her because this is what it has come to. I feel bad because it is mother's day. But I mean, just because it's mother's day doesn't mean you should pretend to be a mother just to get attention. It's an insult and I wish she'd stop embarrassing herself.
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Its very unfortunate that girls today are playing this deadly game. Many years ago I gave up a little girl for adoption - as it was the best thing for the child as I was a very young and dumb mother.
On her 18th birthday she found me and what I hoped would be a wonderful reunion has turned out to be a complete nightmare. When she found me, she had already given birth to a then 3 month old baby boy. This child was apprehended from her due to neglect. She told me a completely different story and I completely believed her - wanting so badly to save her from this mess. The truth surfaced when she moved into my house and we made weekly visits to see my grandson (her son), and she really was disinterested in this child completely. Of course she told people that she loved him, but her actions fell very short of the words. She would show up with friends and absorb the " what a cute baby" attention that lasted 5 minutes and then that was all the attention he got from her. She refused to pay for him, and basically was pawning him off on family members until Child Protection apprehended.
Since then the lies that spill from her mouth are completely unbelievable. She bounces from Man to Man and with each encounter when they don't want a relationship with her, she tells them shes pregnant. Then she flee's the city and tells them she is at home to have the baby (completely unknown to me that she has told men she was pregnant). One on of this occassions she had a guy who was in jail for armed robbery and a crack addict convinced that he was the father of her 3 month old son, but she told him that the child was 3 years old. I was beside myself when I found out as she intentionally put my family in danger, when the guy was released and showed up on my door step to see his child. He had pictures of his 3 year old son and was very distrubed (as was I) when I had to inform him that those pictures where of my son (her brother) when he was 3. Since that incident she has been pregnant every month to many different men (she figures they'll stay). When her lies are exposed ( as she never gets big) she tells them the child was born dead, died of crib death, had an abortion, miscarried etc.. Honestly I swear she has her own corner of a cementary for all her dead babies.
As of this date, she is apparently 7 months pregnant she is a facebook fanatic who posts pictures every day.Until now,  there isn't one photo of her being pregnant, no mention when your talking to her about her cravings, swollen feet (an example), how big she is.. all the exciting things an expecting mother would talk about and she just got a little puppy... Odd for a women expecting in 2 months who can't even afford to take care of herself.. 3 things to neglect is better then none I guess. I called her to let her know I was coming to the area and that we should go for lunch, I heard every excuse in the book so that I wouldn't show up. So being completely at my ends wits -- I've taken a break from her. I can only pray she finds her way and that while she's on that road, these little games and lies won't get her in serious trouble or badly hurt.
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shes definetley lying mate.she needs a slap
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It is not my place to say either way but for the sake of your friend i wouldnt push the issue, I myself have had 5 misscarrages all that i conceved on birth controle. and i lost all of them in misscarrage. my best fried (of whom we no longer talk over this) told me well if you were pregnant all these times you would have a baby by now and told me i was lieing about me being pregnant. it is very hard to deal with a misscarrage and you really need your friends during that time and it a horrible feeling to have your friend say something like that. just remember pregnancy is a funny thing and no 2 are the same. give her a chance because you never know what is really going on.
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i had a friend who sed she was pregnant just to keep her boyfriend and her boyfriends sister couldnt have kids she then lied and sed she lost the baby its sick and wouldnt dream of doing it but then you need to think why has she done it is it because she needs help or she cant have kids and reaally wants one so says she is to make her self feel better.
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I have a friend that says she was pregnant last year with twins. She say she lost them by only spotting. She was about 5months pregnant. 3 months later she is pregnant again but dont find out til her 7mth. It is said by her that she has other health issues to why she never knew until 7mths. Consider it is twins again. She was set up with a doc appt with the ob/gyn I used. Her pee test came back negative. They sent her for blood work. Only answer I get from her is the blood work came back fine. She canceled her next appt so actually never seen the doc. the doc didnt see her the day she went in and had the pee test done. She has not been seen by a doc and would be 8mths by now. She say she went and had an ultrasound a few days ago and she seen 2babies one of each. There is no pictures to prove it. The day after us she is bleeding and believes to be losing the babies but will not go to a doc in her area or hospital. she says they are rude and dont do anything for her. she will wait to go to a doc she probably hasnt seen in 6yrs about 2hours away. My Question. Can you be 8mths pregnant, Bleed and lose twins just like that and the mysterically disapear? No sign of being pregnant once this happens? No being cleaned out (DNC)?  No Funeral? No memorial? Where did the babies go that was seen the day before on the ultrasound? Is this normal?
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I have a friend that says she was pregnant last year with twins. She say she lost them by only spotting. She was about 5months pregnant. 3 months later she is pregnant again but dont find out til her 7mth. It is said by her that she has other health issues to why she never knew until 7mths. Consider it is twins again. She was set up with a doc appt with the ob/gyn I used. Her pee test came back negative. They sent her for blood work. Only answer I get from her is the blood work came back fine. She canceled her next appt so actually never seen the doc. the doc didnt see her the day she went in and had the pee test done. She has not been seen by a doc and would be 8mths by now. She say she went and had an ultrasound a few days ago and she seen 2babies one of each. There is no pictures to prove it. The day after us she is bleeding and believes to be losing the babies but will not go to a doc in her area or hospital. she says they are rude and dont do anything for her. she will wait to go to a doc she probably hasnt seen in 6yrs about 2hours away. My Question. Can you be 8mths pregnant, Bleed and lose twins just like that and the mysterically disapear? No sign of being pregnant once this happens? No being cleaned out (DNC)?  No Funeral? No memorial? Where did the babies go that was seen the day before on the ultrasound? Is this normal?
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