I want this relationship to work

[MaliaGrl09]

I've posted in several other forums already, but I'm trying to get some feedback into how I should handle my current situation with this guy I'm hoping to date.  I truly believe in waiting to have sex with the right person after you've been with them for awhile and there is a committment involved.  For some reason I had an off day and my philosophy went out the door one night.  The guy I'm interested in is a friend of a friend, and we had a connection going on.  He seemed to hint to me that he wanted to start a relationship with me.  That was a great start; however, what happened after that makes me worried that I acted too soon out of emotion and not out of rationality.  We began to kiss and one thing led to another; we eventually had sex.  The day after he called me and asked how I was and if we could meet with one another.  We've been talking everyday ever since.  I'm just worried that this connection we have will dissipate and I'm going to feel like a fool to have given myself to him so early.  On top of that, our friends know what happened, which adds to the embarrassment of what we did.  I just hope a relationship comes out of this.  Any words of advice or similar stories?

[im_a_girl_nickel]

Question: Have you had sex with him again? If you haven't/don't plan to.. What exactly do you guys talk about? Bc if you guys talk about that night a lot, esp. his talking and urging for it to happen again, then maybe he's looking for a FWB..? If it's just really interesting/get to know one another chitchat with the occasional mention of that night.. then, personally.. I would feel good about the situation.

[MaliaGrl09]

Thank you so much for your advice.  I feel so much better.  I will definitely let this one run its course.  Time will tell if this works out or not.  I'm going to try to not have bad feelings about all this.

[jdlk]

Perhaps now it is time to take it slow.... you got the sex part out of the way - just sit back and relax and hang out with him for a while - there is no pressure now.  If he likes you and wants a relationship with you he will keep coming back and hanging out with you.  Perhaps you did act too soon - but it takes two to tango - don't put all the blame on yourself for what happened... there was and sounds like there still is a connection between the two of you - so now you need to figure out where he is at.  It sounds like he is still interested in you (since you have been talking everyday) - now it is time to start over.  The sex may not come for a few weeks again, but that might not be a bad thing - he may be just as nervous as you are.

So what if your friends know - lots of good friends end up hooking up at one time or another.  They might think it is odd at first, but you can't control your heart.  They'll get over it.  Good luck!!

[Curious6789]

I went through the same thing, and now My best friend and I have been married for 5 yrs. If you both want it to work out, then just talk about it. I'm sure that if you guys decide not to date, it will be akward, but in time, it will get better.