Im forteen and need help!

[rissypoo5]

Ok im in high school and im alott of girls im friends with have all you know drank, got drunk, hooked up all that stuff. and im so not like that im the goodie goodie who gets the good grades, but i really wanna like start kissing and hooking up with boys. the most i did was a peck for a milisecond ..not even? lmao. but like no boys talk to me now that im in high school and they all know i dont do that stuff. and trust me i dont wanna do it so boys will jusst use me for that i wanna do it cuz i WANNA. and my old boyfriend said it was going to slow and cuz i wouldnt even kiss him. the reason im so laid back with this stuff is my parents they would kill me if i hooked up with someone but they dont understand that im in highschool and its okay... right? PLeasssee comment<3 :)

[sweetpea03]

In high school, I was just like you. I didn't date much, didn't kiss anyone or anything else until my senior year. Don't think that just because your friends are doing something that you have to as well. There is no rush to grow up and be sexual with a guy. Take your time to experience life and have fun with friends. The people who are "cool" in high school usually are not cool in college and many don't go to college. Make sure to look at your priorities and what you want in life, then go from there.

High school wasn't that great for me, but I have loved college. Kissing is fun and all, but it is even more fun when you are kissing someone that you love, not just some random guy. I dated a few guys starting my senior year of high school and if they did not have the qualities I was looking for, I moved on. I met my fiance at the end of my freshman year of college and have been with him ever since. Kissing him is better than kissing anyone else in the world because our relationship really means something and I know we have a mutual respect and love for one another. I lost my virginity to my fiance and I am glad I never fell to peer pressure to have sex with any other guy I had dated prior to him.

Make sure that you are ready 100%, not just doing this because you think you should or that "everyone else is doing it", because really, not everyone else is. Make sure to stand your ground and do what you feel is right. There is no rush to grow up. Have fun being a teen and then think about all the other stuff later on. Take care!

[sweetwithaBIGsmile]

I know wat u mean just don't have sex until ur ready I'm 14 and I have had hookups and now I'm scared I might have a std or sumthin... So please wait or use a condom.....

[TiredOfGirlyProblems]

Well when I started highschool I was just like you, and I think it was just perfect, I didn't even kiss my first boyfriend in high school!!! I think it's awsome that you haven't done anything. See the thing is if you start too fast then when you are older you are going to look back and hope that you would have waited!
For instance I waited until I was 17 when I finally found the "right" guy at the time, and I lost my virginity, now I'm 23 and even tho that guy was my first love he was not my true love, and to be honest I wish that I would have waited until now!
I mean sure kissing is fun, I wouldn't deprive myself of that but waiting to do more serious stuff is best.
Oh and if a guy is too pushy them he isn't worth it!!

[ducky406]

Unfortunately some people don't understand that everyone does things in their own time. And if you're friends/ boyfriends aren't supporting your decisions or are pressuring you, they aren't being good friends. About the boys, you just need to be patient. If they're not willing to wait until you're comfortable they are so not worth it. I also think that you should take your parents out of the mix. They aren't the ones making this decision, you are. No one else can decide when you are ready. Heck, sometimes when you wait until that supposed right moment, even you feel you should have waited longer.

Honestly, I am really against all drug use, underage drinking and being drunk in general. But my life has been rampaged and turned upside down by addition. I've seen enough drug use (even "recreational") go bad to scare the bejesus out of anyone, so I've got a very biased opinion and won't say anything more on the subject.

Anyway the important thing to keep in mind is that not everyone is having sex at the same time. I lost my virginity at 17 and I was in only the reported 43% of my school (public school) who was sexually active. And of my friends- Females 17, 19, 22, 14, 21, 23; males- 14, 16, 16, 21, 27. The oldest graduated in 2003 and the youngest in 2008 so we're exactly THAT long out of school. Also three of the above waited until marriage and only two were religious (21F, 27M). Never feel pressured because your friends are doing it or wrong because you're not.