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My MIL is, as she refers to herself a "yenta", very opinionated. I recently found out that I was pregnant and from the beginning, things have been rocky with the in-laws. The comments have ranged from whether or not this is the right time for a baby (big issue) to whether or not I will go back to work (none of her business). In addition, she has told me that she will come two or three days per week to watch the baby for me, something I don’t want or need.
Please help before I lose my mind….
Please help before I lose my mind….
My m.i.l is still best friends with my fiance's ex (says she's her daughter) and his whole family still invites her every where and call her sis and things like egad and its so annoying especially cuz im 25 weeks pregnant .. I cant stand them .. Not to mention she just moved put of jis parents house... They were never married and have no kids so I dont get why everyones up her a$$ .. Just need to vent
RUN!! lol
Sorry.
I have the same problem...I hate mine worth a passion. She did the same things to me as your's is doing to you.
ALL of hubby's family told me that I was nuts to have a baby...we are in our 40's...they bashed us both...and his SIL said that he didn't deserve one. She even said she wished it would die!!!
Tell hubby that you are stressed out. Tell your doctor what has been said and how you feel about it. Seriously! Do it! Tell the doc to talk to hubby on one of your weekly visits.
She/he will instruct hubby that you don't need the stress and that he should talk to his mom. I had to finally do this...but he was too afraid to stand up to mommy dearest. Ugh.
Good thing mine lives a province away now.
I'm not sure about your MIL, but I finally figured mine out...she never had a daughter...she only had sons. She wanted to take care of the baby because she needed to feel needed once more. Most daughters will let their mother take care of their baby...but not too many hand baby off to the MIL. She may be afraid that you won't let the baby be a part of her life.
Here's what you can do...stay calm and focused. The next time she mentions it look at her and sweetly say "Thank you for your concern." This will blow her away. lol
Then tell her: "as soon as I'm ready to go out after baby is born I'll call you to babysit for us."
Trust me on this...after a few weeks of late night feedings...you WILL want to go out shopping or something by yourself. It's always nice to have a back up babysitter as well. This is why I suggest you tell her that you'll call her. It should shut her up.
If this fails...start calling her every time the baby is ready to feed (after baby is born of course)...call her at 2,3,4 in the morning. This will shut her up. lol
As for the "this is not the right time" crap...tell her it's a little too late for that as you don't believe in abortion. That will stop that conversation.
Did i mention that most places won't even take newborns? So if she's only willing to sit here and there a few times a week, who is going to watch baby the rest of the time while you work? Most places want baby walking, talking, and potty trained. lol
Good luck.
Sorry.
I have the same problem...I hate mine worth a passion. She did the same things to me as your's is doing to you.
ALL of hubby's family told me that I was nuts to have a baby...we are in our 40's...they bashed us both...and his SIL said that he didn't deserve one. She even said she wished it would die!!!
Tell hubby that you are stressed out. Tell your doctor what has been said and how you feel about it. Seriously! Do it! Tell the doc to talk to hubby on one of your weekly visits.
She/he will instruct hubby that you don't need the stress and that he should talk to his mom. I had to finally do this...but he was too afraid to stand up to mommy dearest. Ugh.
Good thing mine lives a province away now.
I'm not sure about your MIL, but I finally figured mine out...she never had a daughter...she only had sons. She wanted to take care of the baby because she needed to feel needed once more. Most daughters will let their mother take care of their baby...but not too many hand baby off to the MIL. She may be afraid that you won't let the baby be a part of her life.
Here's what you can do...stay calm and focused. The next time she mentions it look at her and sweetly say "Thank you for your concern." This will blow her away. lol
Then tell her: "as soon as I'm ready to go out after baby is born I'll call you to babysit for us."
Trust me on this...after a few weeks of late night feedings...you WILL want to go out shopping or something by yourself. It's always nice to have a back up babysitter as well. This is why I suggest you tell her that you'll call her. It should shut her up.
If this fails...start calling her every time the baby is ready to feed (after baby is born of course)...call her at 2,3,4 in the morning. This will shut her up. lol
As for the "this is not the right time" crap...tell her it's a little too late for that as you don't believe in abortion. That will stop that conversation.
Did i mention that most places won't even take newborns? So if she's only willing to sit here and there a few times a week, who is going to watch baby the rest of the time while you work? Most places want baby walking, talking, and potty trained. lol
Good luck.
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