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Is it possible? Help please!
I wasn't sure which topic to post this under, so I apologize if it's wrong. I posted a question on here last month and every one was really kind of helpful. I think I have either an anxiety problem or OCD. Last month, my boyfriend and I used condoms, pulling-out, and I am on the pill. I am now on day 13 of my 4th month on the pill. 7 days ago my boyfriend came back into town. We agreed not to have sex for a while so I don't stress out since I have finals coming up in college. We were running short on time though and took a shower together Thanksgiving morning. We started kissing in the shower and he slipped in penis between my thighs. The tip was obviously at the back of me and not near my vaginal opening at all. It lasted about 3 seconds. That was the only time we were both naked at the same time. My vaginal lips also remained closed the entire time because he did not push up very hard. He never entered me. I am still a little concerned. Not as much as last month at all, but still a little. I think it's just stress from this semester being almost over and I'm leaving for a month with him to stay at his home with Chicago and spend Christmas with his family. I just keep thinking that since we were naked then his penis touched my vagina somehow without my noticing. There had been no previous ejaculation and he had urinated right before that incident. I have no missed any pills and had taken 8 pills from the new package before that happened. I know there is pretty much a 0% chance, but I am still a little concerned. I have 13 days before my next period so I am hoping i don't stress too much. I also have a left over test from my last freak out, so if I need to, I do have a test. We are not concerned with stds as we were both virgins and have been together for almost 3 years now. Thanks to anyone who helps. :)
Thank you. And I know I should stop. I know there is no point to worrying over something I can't change. I even had symptoms like 3 days after. I'm pretty sure that if I was, the egg wouldn't have even implanted yet since it hasn't even been a week. Plus the pill thins your uterine wall, so the egg might have trouble implanting. And say the pill didn't work. Would that mean that I would ovulate the same time as I would if not on the pill or would it be random? Because it only happened 1 time in an entire month so I know the chances of the pill failing at that instant is crazy. I found out that I do not have to perform in a skit next week which was a major stress and I put off a dentist cleaning and filling for 2 weeks which was also stressful. Now I just have school, this worry (but I'm getting better), exams, a big project, and more papers to write and then it's Christmas. Since today is Tuesday, my period should be in about 10 days (not this friday, but the next.) It usually starts on the same day, although always a little different and at different times throughout the day. I'm trying to take out other stresses so that maybe I can calm down a bit. I just have a ton of stuff on my plate right now so instead of finding ways to deal with it, my mind always makes everything worse. I have no idea why, but it's always been that way...back to kindergarten when I used to cry everyday because I thought my mom would always die before she could come get me from school. I've also worried about cancers and diseases all my life and used to make my mom take me to the doctor. These kind of fears run in my family and my cousin is also always worried about getting pregnant even though she is 27, teacher, and married.... she confides in me because she is always afraid. It's not just pregnancy worries, I've been like this for a while. I know I have an anxiety disorder but doctor's wont treat me because they say I don't. I'll keep you updated. And thanks again.
My personal opinion is that you're thinking about this way too much. Even if there was ejaculate left over from the night before, your chances are still really really low. Each factor that you are pulling together has a really low likelihood (the chance that there was still ejaculate, the chance that it got into your vagina, the chance that you were ovulating even though recently on the pill, the chance that the sperm was able to penetrate the egg). With so many unlikelihoods, the chance that you would be pregnant -- regardless of whether there was sperm on his penis -- would be small.
Having said that, I really do think you need to relax a bit. You are just going to cause yourself undue stress. Given the way you are thinking (all of the possible reasons why you COULD be pregnant), I am not sure there's anything anyone on this board can say to you that will make you feel better. It's up to you to try to maintain some level of calm about this. Like I said -- if you are pregnant, I will eat my shirt. But perhaps the way to go about this is to think of it this way. . . even in the really unlikely event that you are pregnant, there's nothing you can do about this until you find out whether that is indeed the case, which is -- what? -- two weeks from now. So you can sit around obsessing about it for two weeks, or you can decide to just assume you are not (which is the most likely scenario), and if you are, you'll deal with it when it comes.
I say this not to minimize the fear you are feeling. Like I said, I too have been there. But with the benefit of hindsight, I've learned that all that time was wasted, since there was nothing I could do at the time but sit around afraid. Enjoy your holidays -- no reason to spend your time stressing about something that's out of your control.
I'll be wishing you the best of luck (though I doubt you need it), and keep us updated.
Having said that, I really do think you need to relax a bit. You are just going to cause yourself undue stress. Given the way you are thinking (all of the possible reasons why you COULD be pregnant), I am not sure there's anything anyone on this board can say to you that will make you feel better. It's up to you to try to maintain some level of calm about this. Like I said -- if you are pregnant, I will eat my shirt. But perhaps the way to go about this is to think of it this way. . . even in the really unlikely event that you are pregnant, there's nothing you can do about this until you find out whether that is indeed the case, which is -- what? -- two weeks from now. So you can sit around obsessing about it for two weeks, or you can decide to just assume you are not (which is the most likely scenario), and if you are, you'll deal with it when it comes.
I say this not to minimize the fear you are feeling. Like I said, I too have been there. But with the benefit of hindsight, I've learned that all that time was wasted, since there was nothing I could do at the time but sit around afraid. Enjoy your holidays -- no reason to spend your time stressing about something that's out of your control.
I'll be wishing you the best of luck (though I doubt you need it), and keep us updated.
I just realized something! There was a recent ejaculation! I had forgotten that I got him off orally that night at about 11 p.m. The incident happened at about 8 am the next day. Would that affect it? I've always known there has been no sperm in pre-ejaculate unless there had been a recent ejaculation (maybe like 12 hours?) Oh no, now I am scared. He did urinate before we got in the shower and had washed his penis before that happened. H never has much pre-ejaculate, usually just a little dot on the tip. I am pretty sure his penis never touched me, and I know it didn't enter me...but I'm still worried...now more so! Help!
Thank you. There shouldn't have been sperm in the pre-ejaculate at all since there was no recent ejaculation, and if there was, probably not enough to penetrate an egg, and EVEN if that were possible, my pill would have had to fail and made me ovulate. I am actually on the pill for breast cysts which used to show up the day after ovulation. My doctor said I got them when the egg wasn't fertilized. It's kinda like my body was saying "damnit, I want to be pregnant...here's some extreme pain for not getting pregnant." haha. I haven't had lumps since being on the pill and do not have them this month either. I guess that means it is working. So there would have had to be sperm in the pre-ejaculate, the pre-ejaculate would have had to "swim" into my vagina although it was closed and his penis wasn't in there, AND my pill would have had to fail. I think I will eat my shirt if I'm pregnant as well. ;) Thanks again. You've helped a lot. :)
Relax -- I am sure you are fine. It sounds like you know everything you need to know about the situation -- there was no ejaculation, his penis wasn't really inside of your vagina, etc. Given all these facts, plus the fact that any tiny amount of sperm would have to be in your vagina and able to penetrate an egg during conception, your likelihood of being pregnant is REALLY low. But it sounds like you know all of this. It's just a matter of trying to relax and let yourself believe it and trust in it.
I think you are right that your anxiety is overwhelming you. The problem with anxiety is that you can't distinguish between the POSSIBLE (which nearly anything is . . .) and the PROBABLE. In this situation, it's not impossible that you could be pregnant, but it's very highly improbable.
Try to relax. If you're pregnant, I'll eat my shirt.
If it helps any, this note could have been written when I was 18 years old. I was so desparately afraid of being pregnant that I would do exactly the same thing. And, of course, I never got pregnant until I was actually TRYING to do it. Once you get to the stage of wanting children, you'll laugh when you realize how complicated it is to get all of the right elements together to create a baby.
I think you are right that your anxiety is overwhelming you. The problem with anxiety is that you can't distinguish between the POSSIBLE (which nearly anything is . . .) and the PROBABLE. In this situation, it's not impossible that you could be pregnant, but it's very highly improbable.
Try to relax. If you're pregnant, I'll eat my shirt.
If it helps any, this note could have been written when I was 18 years old. I was so desparately afraid of being pregnant that I would do exactly the same thing. And, of course, I never got pregnant until I was actually TRYING to do it. Once you get to the stage of wanting children, you'll laugh when you realize how complicated it is to get all of the right elements together to create a baby.
I forgot to mention that I didn't take the last two pills last month. I only left a 7 day break between pill packets, just like it says. (I just wanted my periods on Fridays instead of Sundays.) That won't affect this month, correct? Also, when his penis was between my legs, he put it all the way though my legs and pushed up for about 1 second. His shaft and testicals touched me a little (mostly at the top of my vagina), but I barely felt it and it was more so my butt anyway. His tip wasn't near me from what I could feel or see (and I did look and saw the tip of it in the back of me.) My vagina is really tiny and my lips cover everything (I have seen some pictures of women's who's "stuff" sticks out, but mine is all totally covered.) Even if there was pre-ejaculate, there was no recent ejaculation and it shouldn't have been near my vaginal opening and his penis was never inside. Thanks. :)
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