Large female pubic bone.

[Anne1971]

This was a comment I found and I HAVE EXACTLY THE SAME THING! I need to know how I can correct this! You have no idea the suffering we go through on a day to day basis looking like you have a male part instead of a female anatomy. I don't feel like a complete woman. I cannot wear sexy underwear and don't get me started on what wearing a swimsuit feels like or anything that's tight, so I'm always wearing things that are baggy and I'm soooooooooooooo tired of it. My Gynecologist says it normal, WHAT????????????!!!!!!!!! It's not normal for a female to have a LARGE bone sticking out! Believe me, you would not want to be me....
There has to be a surgical proceedure to reduce the bone there, so we can feel like women again.
See below...




when i started discovering my body as a young girl, i realized something different from everyone elses. my vagina looks really bony. when i lay down flat, my pelvic bone is protruding out. even standing up, i can see a big bump. more than normal from what i have seen. i have been told by friends "oh you have big vagina" and it really bothers me. i am embarrassed to be intimate. i did research but didnt come across anything. i'm 25 now and am still embarrassed to go to a doctor. i dont know what the problem really is. i used to crack my lower back, i dont know if that would do anything to it? but i dont feel any pain or anything. just physically, its very different, bony, and embarrassing from what i see. i've been told by several family members " are you wearing a pad" because its that noticeable. i know that if it was from birth, my mom would notice. because now they tell me things like you have fat, big, vagina. i really need to do something about it, but need to know what? and need to know what the problem really is and what may have caused it? and what kind of doctor i should see. and how i should explain it. please answer my questions asap. i cant take it anymore, and i find it embarrassing to share it w/ anyone else.

[mayflowers]

I have heard of this problem and I believe there is plastic surgery for it.  You might want to post on the doctors forum.  It will cost you but they might know more about this issue than  the regular uneducated person.  Don't stop searching for an answer or solution.  I'm sure there is one!!!!

[monkeyflower]

It is indeed perfectly normal. Mine's like this too :-) Pelvises come in all shapes and sizes. You just have a prominent pubic bone, is all. But if you're overweight, you can also develop a pretty big pad of fat that will make it look more prominent.

I don't know what's up with your family or friends, though. I can't imagine anyone saying you have a "big fat vagina" (apparently they don't have any understanding of female anatomy), or asking whether you're wearing a pad. Seems weird. Or are you maybe projecting your own feelings about your body?

[irreversible]

I have the same problem, and I agree, it's awful and embarrassing.I haven't talked with anyone about this, I guess, no one knows, since I try to hide it..
But I can't any longer. I'm sick of boys dumping me because I can't take the courage and have a sexual relationship... I'm sick of choosing carefully clothing, I'm sick of being unable to wear what normal women do! I'm sick of looking myself at the mirror - I'm really thin, but this enormous thing is all I see.

I do not want to sound pessimistic, but what can be done? As far as I have read, this bone helps for keeping one's balance. So it cannot be removed. Seriously, is there something that can be done?!

[mayflowers]

Is it an actual bone or is it tissue?  If it's tissue, I would like to think that it could be easily removed.  The bone would be harder to remove, they would have to break it and then do some plastic surgery, but there must be some plastic surgery doctor that will do this for women.  I've seen them reconstruct faces on tv by breaking bones, removing them, placing them elsewhere, etc.

Why don't you try calling or contacting some plastic surgeons around the US at major surgery centers (Mayo clinic comes to mind) and see if they can do the surgery?  Maybe even contact the medical channel on tv, they are always performing uncommon surgeries or even common surgeries but in a new way.  

Don't lose hope either of you!!  If you want this bad enough, you will find a way to get it done!!!!

[irreversible]

Because I am not from the US... I am from a small Eastern European country with awful medical service... I simply cannot imagine getting this done here. And one more reason, I guess it will cost pretty much; not only the operation, but also the tickets and all the documents and hotels and etc.
I guess I just have to put money aside and postpone this.
And yes, it is a bone, I am sure about this. By the way, I don't know if this is connected, but I also noticed that the bones around my knee (the cap, I suppose?!) are jutting out, too; also my ribs. But I don't care at all about them, all I want is, as Anne has written above, is to feel like a woman

[mayflowers]

I would say that there is a connection between this bone and bones on the rest of your body, still I do believe that there must be some operation to help you in this area.  I have heard that a lot of people are going to India for surgery because they are cheaper but also because the do a great job!  Even in the US, and even with insurance, people are going to India.  I am not sure if this is a better option for you or not, but something to keep in mind.  I truly hope it all works out for both you and Anne.  I'll be praying for you both...

[monkeyflower]

After re-reading your post, I'm a little worried about an eating disorder. The fact that you're really thin and all your bones stick out might just be because you ARE really thin... everyone's hips and pubic bone and ribs and knees are gonna seem huge when there's no fat to even things out. And you have the mindset common to eating disorders. Just a thought. I'm really concerned about you. I hope that you can get the help you need.

[monkeyflower]

"I'm sick of boys dumping me because I can't take the courage and have a sexual relationship... I'm sick of choosing carefully clothing, I'm sick of being unable to wear what normal women do! I'm sick of looking myself at the mirror - I'm really thin, but this enormous thing is all I see."

But don't you see, it's not your "enormous" pubic bone that's driving people away--it's your feelings about it. You're not even giving anyone a chance, because you're too insecure about your body to let anyone else even get near you. You've already judged yourself so harshly, you can't see how anyone else might see you differently.

But the truth is, no one is perfect, and no one has a perfect body. I bet a million dollars that even if you miraculously found some quack to do this "surgery" (which would be an unbelievably bad idea--no real doctor is going to agree to break your pelvis), you'd immediately find something else that's 'wrong'.

That's because the problem isn't in your body, it's in your head. It's how you see yourself that's all messed up. You don't have to sit around feeling bad about yourself, pushing people away, making yourself miserable. Make an appointment with a therapist. When you feel this bad about yourself, it's probably going to feel scary and really hard to open up to someone else. But honestly, give it a chance. Just talking about it will help. You are perfect and lovable just as you are. Therapy can help you see that for yourself.

[Anne1971]

I'm so glad to know there are other girls out there with this same problem.
Listen, I am thin too; 5' 7" and my weight is 136. I do not have an eating disorder like someone else suggested.
Until you walk a mile in our shoes, you just don't know how it feels to have a large pubic bone. Finding pants, shorts, skirts, that will hide this is extremely difficult and womens clothing was NOT MADE FOR A LARGE PUBIC BONE!!! This is not the norm for a woman. Like I said, womens clothing, swimsuits, panties, etc are not made to accomodate a woman with a large pubic bone.
When I was growing up, I was made fun of-like kids would say, "you have a buldge" or "what's up with the buldge in your pants" or "you used to be a guy right?". Of course this effects your self esteem. But what do you go to a doctor and say? "Hey doc, I've got this large pubic bone and it's making me insecure-here take a look!" Yeah right....
If there was a surgery to reduce the size, life would be so much easier.

[irreversible]

I too don't have an eating disorder, I'm quite sure about this. My weight is 45 kg (sorry I don't know how to converge this) and I am 157 cm (don't know how to converge this, too).
But I don't think I have this *problem* out of thinness. If it was so, what about all the skinny models then? What about anorexic people? (I really have never heard or seen another girl with a problem like mine. Here I read for the first time about someone with the same complaint!)
I guess it's all about bone structure - as someone had said above, pelvises come in all shapes and sizes. Unfortunately.
I know that I probably take this flaw more serious than an unknown observer would. I know it probably seems more awful in my eyes than it actually is. But it's not simply a familiar little defect - if it was so, if it was common, I wouldn't be so scared! But this is something entirely unconceivable, I guess. It's extraordinary and new and rare, and has never been mentioned... If I was worried about my breasts, for example, well, this is the kind of things therapy can help about. Do you see what I mean?! I am scared enough to have found something so strangely peculiar about my body. And everyone I show it to would be equally scared!
I try to hide this... to choose careful my clothes... I guess no one have noticed it... Just once, in my early teenage years, when I didn't know that this is something wrong yet - I was with a guy, we weren't doing anything, just laying on the ground, too shy to make out  - at a point, he lay over me, perfectly calm and still... and he said "you know, something is hurting me". You just can't imagine how I feel since then. And this is just an example of being physically close to someone. Imagine what would the guy have said if we were making love?!
Sorry about the long post... and about my English, too

[scifi72]

I finally decided to Google my "protruding pelvic bone" and found these posts.  I've had this all my life - it's definately a bone and I'm 5'10, 180lbs so I don't have an eating disorder.  It's very embarrasing...as the others said, I can't wear many items of clothing...including most of the pant styles popular today (flat fronts) which would otherwise be ideal for my body.  Monkeyflower is focusing on our mental health - why is it so hard to believe we might actually have an "abnormal" pubic bone?  Although, and I dont understand this, my gyno says "all" women have that...which is total BS!  Not to sound like a perv, but I've seen tons of naked women and I've NEVER seen anyone with this.  Even going to a waterpark and seeing all different types of women in their bathing suits...even fat women look normal in that area.  I feel like a mutant.  I have a child so I know that everything is in working order, but there are times when it's briefly crossed my mind that I was a hermaphodite or something at birth and was "picked" to be a girl.  But I know that's only because I want to rationalize why I would have this horrible protrusion.  Anyway, you girls haven't posted for a while, I hope you read this because I want to know if you've learned anything else since June???? At the very least, it's nice to know I'm not alone.
Thanks for being there!

[chrply]

  I'am a 58 year old male, i have been with more than my share of woman in my life, I had a 5 year relationship with one woman with a protruding pubic bone, i mean it was as big as my fist folded up. The first time i saw it i was kind of shocked but oddly aroused because it wasn't your every day L@@K  after several weeks into our relationship i grew to really like it as it gave me and her advantages that you wouldn't have otherwise, it also helped her to reach orgasam faster. if you learn how to use it to your advantage. I talked about it to some of my buddies and they all agreed that it is indeed a very exciting atribute. anyway do not consider your selves freaks but consider yourselves one of the very few lucky ones. PS, i don't miss my ex-girlfriend but i sure miss that love making.

[DrDrizzle]

I have the same problem. I have noticed it scince i turned 10. My mom asked me " whats that?" i didnt know what she was atlkign about until i looked down and ever scince i have been embarrsed. I know that most of it is bone but some of it is fat (the mons pubis) covering the pubic bone. I have been searching high and low to try to find a solution. I have found soem sights that may help and ill list them at the end. It is interfering with my social life. I cant were and bikinis or sexy cloths becuase of it. Im still looking for the best options for treatment and prices. I dont think i can ever be intimate until this thing is removed. But the girl is right up there, dont give up trying to find a solution. We all need to stick together and try to help each other out:)

Some info that may be helpful to you:
(please return the favor)

http://ph.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070926175652AAcVDYI

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/WomensHealth/messages/5448.html

http://www.plasticsurgerypa.com/index.cfm?event=CategoryView&CategoryID=46

http://www.righthealth.com/Health/large%20mons%20pubis-s?lid=goog-ads-sb-6800049797&gclid=CPjWhPyOzo8CFQJzHgodJgJ2yA

I hope this helps. If you find any information please write back.

[LexiconDul]

I know self-image is important and all, but speaking as (what I assume is) a normal male, I myself am absolutely incredibly attracted to a prominent "mont de Vénus."  And I definitely agree with chrply as far as making love to a woman with such a think.  I don't want to get all pervy with descriptions and stuff, but wow... I wish none of you ladies would think there's anything wrong with you, or with wearing clothes that do nothing to conceal this attribute.

[Dr.D (not a real docter)]

BREAK THROUGH!!!!
I found something that may be the cuase of this defect, check this out:

What is the reason for protrusion of the pubic bone?  
  
  
Q. I have a prominence of the bone which is below the stomach and above the thighs The bone is outwards (not flat) and is apparent if I wear skirts. Why is it like that and what can be done ? Is this the reason why I get back pain?

A. The bone that you are referring to is called pubic bone and this should normally be flat and not prominent. The important causes of this bone coming forward are any swelling inside the bone, deformity of spine or deformity of hip joint. All these three things have to be checked by examination and if necessary by X-ray. The same deformity can also be present because of vitamin-D deficiency in childhood and evidence of this will also be seen on X-ray. I advise you to consult an orthopaedic surgeon for examination and proper diagnosis of your condition.

http://www.doctorndtv.com/FAQ/detailfaq.asp?id=2892

you should check this out with your doctor... It might be serius :)

[irreversible]

Hey :) I’m so glad to see the discussion ‘revived’…
And I want to ask something I didn’t have the courage to ask last time: do any of you girls feel pain? Because sometimes I do. And I totally freak out! I don’t know why but I’m pretty sure it comes from ‘there’, you see, like this awful thing is growing even more and more, that’s how I feel it, hurting and even more protruding… At one point I even thought I have a cancer :)
Oh and about growing again. Well… I have the strangest feeling that this bone used to be smaller. Or perhaps I was smaller during puberty, I don’t know

[keight]

im 15 and have the same problem and i noticed about a year ago. I wanted to know if it will get bigger as i get older?

[imagirl]

The first time i realised i had a protruding pubic bone was when i was at the gym with a friend and we were doing the "superman bone" and it hurt my vagina so much, because the bone there was so large and digging into the floor. It sucks buying pants, and i definately cannot wear leggings without a long top. But i still feel like a woman!!my breasts and my hips make me feel like a woman. i would NEVER consider plastic surgery, i think its just how you perceive it. If people bring it up then f**k them, they're not worth it. It still works! theres nothing wrong with it!

I get conscious about sexual contact, but i think whatever..... a p*ssy is a p*ssy, he isnt gunna complain because hes getting some!

Just chill with it. Everyone has their flaws

[qihote]

I've always adored women with prominent pubic mounds - I'm fortunate that both my late first wife and my second wife had/have a lovely bulge when they're lying down. The most sexually exciting girlfriends I have had (apart from the ones I married) also had pretty pubic mounds, and I have spent a lot of money on underwear that accentuates this. It certainly seems to go with enhanced clitoral sensitivity. For me there is nothing sexier than a girl in a bikini on the beach with a cute bulge - preferably with just a hint of clit showing through the fabric. Don't be shy, girls

[nett64]

I just wanted to say that I have been searching the internet for ages and am so glad that i found this site. I thought I was all alone and I too, thought occasionally that maybe I was one of 'those babies' and my parents chose to have a girl! It didn't make any sense though - me being the 3rd girl in the family! lol. If nothing else, it's just nice to know that there is someone out there who has thought the same crazy thought that I had. I once thought that it was because my spine is so straight (resulting in a flat bottom) but have since noticed that other people with that same shape don't have large pubic bones. I am the only one I have ever seen who has such a large bone and I know how alone/rare I am because of gym work in high school where I was the only one (out of 60 girls) who couldn't do certain exercises. I don't want to scare anyone but I am wondering whether, with each baby I had, did it get bigger because it seems to worry me (as in being embarrassed) more now than when I was young. It almost seems ridiculous that at the age of 53, I would still be thinking about plastic surgery at all, but i seem to be getting more obsessed - perhaps as time goes by the disappointment becomes cumulative and not something you get used to.

[glamgirl07]

I'm 15 and i too have this problem - I go to an all girls boarding school and as you can imagine, it is terrible to see all the girls walking round house in their underwear and then not be able to do the same. I used to be bullied about it but then one day i just turned round and said.. "you know.. f*ck you all cause its not worth the energy" and to be honest it is right to say that. I am too scared of getting intimate and especially scared of getting intimate with guys who have been there before. I just wish someone understood and there was an easier answer to this.

[nett64]

At least all the women on this message board understand - and that is something that we've never had before. One thing I have always said to myself is that at least I have legs and arms etc and am not disabled in any way. I know it's disabling in some ways, in that getting intimate for some is a problem, but apart from that (and when you find the right guy it won't matter in the least) it is probably a little problem. I think back to when I was young and I mustn't have been fully aware because I was more worried about a scar I had on my breast. My boyfriend who became my husband didn't care at all about the scar and has never mentioned my pubic bone. It turned out that he wasn't sexually active at the time anyway. He was also a wonderful person and serious about our relationship and I know he would never had commented on anything about our private lives to his mates. So I think, be fussy with whoever you become intimate with and I don't think guys really care about these things. I suppose they have their own worries with penis size etc, which, when you think about it, we don't really care much about. Decent women will not make fun of a man in that way and decent men/boys won't make fun of you either. I have always kept telling myself that it is just like having a big nose or big ears or whatever - just a different shape. It would be easier though, wouldn't it if it was more common? It must be hard for you in a boarding school. When I was young we were all a bit modest with each other, so it wasn't such a big issue. I reckon I'd feel it more if i was 15 now, 'cause like I said, I seem to be getting more obsessed as I get older. It's probably the times. You sound like a strong character, which is good, so all the best.

[girlygirl612]

I have it too! I'm 24 now but , while growing up, I constantly asked myself if something was wrong with me... or if I was not totally "female."  When I finally started to reach puberty I thought, okay I may be a girl.  Then I got my period and I thought, "Woo hoo!  I am a girl".  Now, in my twenties I thought, maybe I will never be able to get pregnant... I did get pregnant, totally unplanned, but I was SOO excited just to know that it was possible.  Anyway, I too will be searching for solutions to this bony problem and will post if I find any.  Keep posting anything you find!

[sunflowercake]

i have it to and i am only 13 i think that when i'm older sex is gonna hurt and i wont be able to have babies. But now you say that you're pregnant i can stop worrying so much!

[helava]

Hi! I have the same thing too! Thought I was the only one in the world - I HATE IT!

I just want to know if anyone has had a baby with our problem? I am concerned about the Labour part of pregnancy and whether there are implications giving birth because of the bone deformity? Has your doctor said anything?

Thanks!

[nett64]

I have had 5 children and no, it doesn't in any way affect labour. I am a bit puzzled by how anyone could worry about sex hurting as 'girlygirl' said and am wondering if we are all talking about exactly the same thing. Anyway, it definitely doesn't hurt.

What I have always wondered is, do we have any other anatomical similarities, such as overly straight spines, which is what I have? I have wondered whether, because my spine doesn't 'kick out' in the lower half, that it's actually forcing the pubic bone forward. There's probably more to it than that, but I'd love to know anyway. I am tall and thin(ish) and when I was young I was pretty bony.

[ThatGiirl]

Hey
Im 15 and I hate wearing skirts or tights oor anything cos when i lie down the bone sticks out major! I hate it. ALl my friends are sexually active.. unbeliveable ( i know) i doo wanna try some stuff but have been too scared of it. I only noticed it a year ago. I do get sore lowerright back pains.. if that helps anyone. I weigh 55Kgs... hoping thats the average weight for a 15 year old im 5ft 8 too.no one else in my family is like this and i wish i had bigger ****. i cant even fit into the smallest bra which is embarassing as some of my friends r C's

[Annie47]

I too have the same problem. I am in my 50's and since I had my last child by C Section this area seems larger which I find totally unattractive.  My hubby says I am worrying about nothing that he finds it sexy.  But I am too embarrassed to wear a swimming costume.  I would dearly love to go to Water Aerobics with my friends but just can't pluck up the courage.  I have been searching for some time to find a solution.  The only thing I have come across is a video on YouTube that shows exercises for the lower abs.  Maybe they will help.  Look at YouTube and in the search bar for videos type... Lower Abs and Fat loss.  Give it a try.....  I will.  I understand how you all feel it makes me feel not so alone but wish there was an easy solution I don't relish the thought of surgery.

[emmabean1]

I am so happy that I found this site. I feel like my protruding bone has finally found some friends, as odd as that sounds. I have, for years, felt like such a weirdo. I hate the way my bone shows through my clothes.  There are so many cute skirts, dresses, pants, shorts, etc. out there that don't fit me right because of the way I'm shaped down there.  I find it so embarassing!  When I walk down the street, I can see men looking between my legs, especially when I'm walking against the wind. Is there surgery for this? We need to find out! I understand that in the grand scheme of things, we should be thankful that this is our only "deformity" and that we are still alive and healthy otherwise.  However, like many others, I do not feel like a woman. Just like others, I thought that I was supposed to be a boy when I was born, but God made a last minute "switch."  I figured this is why I had that giant buldge.  Please keep us posted if anyone here hears of a SAFE fix.  I want a feminine contour down there, and feel it'd really lift my confidence. I tie sweaters around my waist, arch my back, but no matter what, it just can't be hidden.

[Annie47]

I understand entirely. I have searched on the internet without sucess.  I so wish there was an answer. I have a reasonably good figure for my age apart from that 'bulge'.  My hubby doesnt find it offensive and thinks I worry too much but that is easy for him to say.  I feel self conscious and always have done.  It feels worse since I had my last child as I had a C section and of course that leaves a problem with my lower abs I think it is called an apron so I am going to start some lower ab exercises I found on Youtube. Fingers crossed.

[Tashi102]

Oh my god, I thought I was the only one!! I've had this problem for years - I thought it was because I was born with dislocated hips and something went wrong with the treatment after birth! I would love to wear tights to the gym, but just feel like a freak with my huger than life camel toe.  Getting a bikini wax is just embaressing and I feel weird and unattractive and this has a huge effect on my self esteem unfortunately
I've spoken to my physio and chiropractor about this, and apparently my back is actually too curved (too many years of sticking my bum out to look more normal?) - my understanding is that I think it's to do with the shape and tilt of the pelvis and I honeslty don't think surgery woudl change that in any way... I actually feel a bit better knowing it's not just me, we're more normal than we thought! (and have to wear looser clothes below the waist...)

[tinkergal]

I'm glad to find these posts.  I also, like a lot of you, thought I was the only one.  I'm 39, can't wear tight shorts, skirts, pants, and when I wear a bathing suit, it has to have a ruffle around the waist/hip to hide my 'bulge'.  I realize that everyone is structurally different, but I do wish there was something that could be done to reduce it.  I also have a child, who just turned 6, so it didn't prevent me from having a healthy baby.  Actually while I was pregnant it was kind of nice because my big belly hid the large public bone.

[dbible]

I'm an average male.  I had no idea that a woman would be self conscious about this.  My girlfriend all through high school had a prominent pubic bone and I found it exciting and attractive.  She was and is a beautiful girl.  I married her.  I guess I'm just surprised.  I'm sorry it's so upsetting to a girl.  You are NOT a freak!

[aylana]

oh my god, i have it too. :( and i get really depressed about it. thank god i found this site. seriously, i think we all should meet up or something (but that would be impossible since we're from different countries. haha) i'm not sure whether alllll guys are like the guys who've spoken up here, but i definitely hope my boyfriend's one of them. :( i never really talk to him about it but sometimes i feel really really embarassed about it and that he might be abit turned off by it. anyway, i used to think i was supposed to be born as a guy too. haha.

[Tashi102]

Thank you so much for saying that it's not freakish or unattractive.  I still will probably never feel comfortable with it to be honest, but knowing it's probably not the repulsive turn-off that I've always imagined it to be makes me feel a bit better!

[nafif88]

im 20 and i had lipsculpture on my "bulge" abt 5 months ago.

the bulge was half due to the bone being prominent and half because there is just more fat than usual.

im a healthy weight for my height and basically the plastic surgeon said it was very common to do these procedures.

it was very painful and takes a LONG time to heal (im still not fully healed).

i wouldnt call it successful. i still have a bulge even tho it is SLIGHTLY smaller.

please learn from my experience.. it costs alot of money, it is very painful and really is inconvenient to your life and chances are it wont look anything like you dream of.

we arent alone, we know that much, surgery or anything like that is more drama than its worth.

[big10daddy1]

You women out here that think that having a large bone is a curse?? You certainly do not understand the males "AT ALL"  This is one more tool that lures in the men like bees to honey. It is Soooooo sexy. Most men really want to make love to that part orally, and then do it the regular way after they have had the fun of that massive play ground. It is Very sexually stimulating, and most men that have women that have a large bone like that, find themselves very jealous of other men looking at his woman all the time.My wife has to have the largest bone EVER! I would always get jealous of her when she dressed up, or went swimming etc.., because of all the male gawkers. She used it to her advantage  i guess, because she really likes attention, and that really got the people to approach her. Ladies?? If ya got it?? FLAUNT IT!! It is the sexiest part of a women, along with extra large nipples. Be proud of it. Most people would love to stand out in a crowd, and especially when it comes to attracting men.  ENJOY!!

[monagina]

I am 30 by now, and since I was 14 noticed something different down there, I mean the pubic bone. I have also short legs, or maybe the pubic bone is just coming so low, anyway I usually don't feel sexy about all these.  When I wear pants I know everyone is starring at me, but in the last time I really don't care. I saw some improvement in my appearance, when I wear high-heels shoes and, long blouses that are very modern now, I try in any way that I can to pass through this.
It's a little bit easier knowing that it isn't just me in this situation, but let's hope we will be healthy and this is our only problem.
All the best. Mona

[Cheesey]

Im so glad I found this site!!! im only 16 but have noticed this since i was 11... and swimming with friends is impossible! im not fat (i dont think!) but i am tring to lose some weight to see if i can 'flatten' it down a little bit... it is so embarresing (soz cant spell) and i was hoping that i could have an operation in the near future to sort it out... i havent told anybody about this problem because i thought that i was a 'freak' and that it was only me... :(
I have never had a proper boyfriend because im to scared of becoming to close, just in case he tells my friends about it, but i am sssoooo glad that i am not the only one with this problem and just hope that it can be fixed.

[beausilk74]

After reading your comments, I feel a whole lot better that I am not the only one.(Thanks!!)  I've been searching for any kind of plastic surgery to fix the "area" but sometimes I am NOT too sure if it's even worth it. Then Nafif88 said that she got  Lipsculpture (now I know what it's called) done and explained how painful the surgery was.  (Thanks for sharing your experience).  No matter what guys said on here, I STILL want to get it reshaped.  But I feel like we are pretty much stuck with the way God made us..  

[gracefulLEE]

I too, thought that I was all alone. Its so nice to hear others with the same thoughts and feelings about the large pelvic bone...
I am 23,  5'2, short legs and anywhere from 120-130 pounds on a given month. I realized the more weight I lose, the more my pelvic bone looks like it sticks out and so it is difficult  for me to keep my weight off.
I'm just glad to know that I am not alone. I wear whatever I want, but generally try to cover up my pelvic bone with something. Swimsuits are a no-no, and any fashionable high waisted pants? I dont think so. I used to wear a lot of knee length dresses but then I got chiggers and now I cant even wear that. Sigh...
Okay, im done with my rant. I realize that others have worse problems, but this is a big deal to me.
keep on trucking girls!

[nicknocks]

I have exactly the same problem and only today was shopping for clothes for a special occasion and saw a perfect dress but it was fitted from the waist down so there is NO way I could wear it. I have never spoken to any about it....I presume they must have noticed though....but am going to pluck up the courage to ask the doctor about it when I next go. No-one I know has this problem and am glad that there are others out there with the same issue. I am not sure if it is worse now but have certainly been much more aware the last few years. I will wear a bikini/swimming costume but do not feel comfortable at all so the sarong stays on!!!
Mine is bone but also fat/tissue on top.....and no....I am not overweight or underweight.
If I hear of any miracle cures I will let you all know!!!

[jlkmil]

I am SO GLAD to read all this comments...  I wonder does it runs in family?  Will our girls have it?  
I thought it was part of boy bone that was wrongly put, when I was born with.  whew.

[kayla27]

I am 27 and have been secretly suffering from the same problem since I was a little girl.
It does feel so good to find this forum and all your comments and stories, thank you all for sharing them. I've dealt with it all, the having to wear baggy clothes, the comments,  the sexual insecurity with boys, the thoughts that maybe I was meant to be a boy or a hermaphrodite, feeling like a freak, mutant, abomination etc. I even developed a horrible body misalignment from years and years of trying to tuck that part of my body in. It's been the cause of horrible back pain and headaches and I am currently trying to correct it through yoga though even that is embarrasing because when I DO stand up straight (esp during the class and poses) there's a horrible bulge there and I wonder if people are secretly wondering whether I'm really a girl or if I have a penis or something.  It is NOT a mental thing and it is NOT an eating disorder.  I too am thin, though eat very heartily and healthfully and all the GYN's brush it off as my being too bony. I know that there are worse things to have and I am blessed and grateful for what I have. I'm still going to fantasize that there's a way to fix it somewhere, somehow and that someday i'll have enough money to do so.
For the guys, thanks for speaking up- I now feel the courage to talk to my bf bout it.
For the younger girls, believe me I understand how difficult it is as a young girl. When I was young I would aways look at women's parts down there whenever I could  and  I couldn't wait to watch some pornos so I could see if there was anyone else out there like me. I had heard a statistic that even when you think you're alone on something, 99% of the time there is  someone out there who suffers from the same thing. After a while I concluded that there wasn't and that I was that 1%. It felt so horrrible. Please know that you're not alone.
Thank you again to everybody and let's keep each other informed on any miracle cures! ( so sorry for the rant but this has been cookin' for a looooong time )

[mocha78]

I'm almost happy that its not just me.  Just wanted to add that.  But I'm still in the pursuit of correcting it.  Even if no one else notices, or even cares, I do.  So even if I go through a painful surgery and the outcome isn't exactly what I was hoping it would be, I'm sure it will make me feel better that I did something.  To me, I think it would be worth it.  Good luck to everyone else who is going through the same thing, and good luck in whatever you decide to do!!  I'll check back soon, either when I have news or to see if anyone else has any!  :)

[untitledforher]

Yes..It's rather sad. Mine isn't as prominent but however, it is noticeable if I wear anything tight. You have no idea what I've tried to get rid of it. In the privacy of the bathroom, I've tried to flatten it by force. It didn't work. I've tried extreme exercise. Didn't work. I've tried ignoring and leaving it alone. Didn't work, doesn't work. Possibly when I grow a little older and get some money and I'm legally out of my parents' clutches, I'll go myself and get plastic surgery. My father doesn't care if I get plastic surgery, he says he'll take me to do my eyes when I'm 16 but my mother opposes but admitted she almost got plastic surgery on her face too. I think you could save up and come to the U.S., and be sure to find a good surgeon, and not one that's "discounted".

[xenaz]

I have the same problem and I am almost 46.  I have noticed that it has worsened with 2 children.  Like all of you I try to disguise it by pushing my buttocks back as much as possible but when lying down it is impossible.  Girls, we need help.  Even at my age I would like to have this corrected.  

[Nottheonlyone66]

I have the same problem, as does my mother. Does anyone know if this is genetic - maybe we are all related??? Anyway, it's good to know we all have the same 'thing' and it's awesome to hear that guys actually like it... this forum has slightly changed my negative attitude towards my 'thing' henceforth known as my BIG HAIRY PEACH! Rock on you big bump girls!!! ps Im 42 and a little over weight, was young and very skinny at one time, makes no real difference, the bump is still there, just have to live with it I guess?

[swammy]

i'm 17 and i can't wear cute things because of it. I can't lay flat on my back with out sticking out. it's terrible. and i too have learned to just stick my butt out. urgh. the things us girls have to go through. i really want surgery for my 18th birthday, but i dont know how i'm going to ask my mom? Any answers? I don't want to just be like " yeah UH mom, i have  a fat mon pubis so uhhh, i want to get lipo. sooo ya...." Like how can i ask her, without making a fool out of myself. Oh and i guess we basically refer to this word "f.u.p.a? which is very vulgar and  discomforting when people use it. it means " fat upper ***** area" it's that replusive!!  enough blabbering, i found a really good website!!! take a look.



http://www.plasticsurgerypa.com/index.cfm?event=SubcategoryView&CategoryID=49&SubcategoryID=146

[helpout121]

I'm 20 years old and I have always been pretty bony. At 5'7" I only weigh 120 lbs even though I have a healthy diet. About the time of puberty I began to notice that my pubic bone protruded a lot! I have never had the courage to talk to anyone about this and I always thought I was a freak. It is a constant worry that there is something genetically wrong with me and my female anatomy. I wear unattractive clothes just so I could hide this problem. I always avoided getting intimate with anyone, laying on my back, or wearing tight clothing. After reading these messages I feel a little bit better that I am not the only one!!
I wish there was some way to fix this problem but I don't think there is. When I work out I stick to track pants and when I have to wear a bathing suit I find one that has a skirt bottom. I have also found that layering short surfing shorts over a bikini bottom hides the problem. I constantly have to search for long shirts or layer my clothing to hide my embarrassment.
I have only been intimate with my boyfriend of 3 years and he does not seem to mind my problem and does not understand my embarrassment. I have small breasts and with a protruding pubic bone I feel like less of a woman. I hate shopping and finding clothes because of this. I really don't know what to do to make myself feel better about this issue. I don't think liposuction would be a solution. There is a little bit of fatty tissue, but even when I stretch the skin taunt my bone still protrudes. My hip bones also protrude a bit, does this happen for anyone else? Does anyone have any other fashion ideas to try to camouflage this or any idea to make it better? I am trying to come to terms with this but it is an extremely upsetting topic for me.
And for all young girls, I feel your pain. If adolescence isn't awkward enough, a pubic bone that sticks out makes everything more difficult. But apparently to a lot of guys it is really not that big of a deal, and it can be hidden with some clothing.
Any help or support would be amazing!

[swammy]

it's an upsetting topic for me as well : (
I thought I was a freak too, up until i found this website. I thought I was a hermaphrodite or something odd like that.  I never had done back bends in  front of people, im sure everyone knows why.I made up this story to tell people if they ever questioned me on it.  I plan on saying " I slammed againist the floor really hard when i was doing the splits when i was five and broke my pubic bone." that's how embarassed I am by it !youre right the layering things does do the trick. like, wearing long tank tops under shirts, buying pants that have three buttons instead of a zipper. [black pants do an amazing job]also to not pull them up all the way. Does anyone else have the problem with wearing belts? Like you can't really wear them because it makes our "problem" as you would say, stand out alot more? because i always have to wear them really loose, and it's not fun. i've learned a good trick about bathing suits as well.  Look for bottoms that are thicker and stretchier, it actually makes it look like there isn't a problem. also, if you don't pull them up all the way, it works! and for the lipo, when you get that done, i guess they can fail down the bone as well? i read it somewhere.

does anyone else have tips on clothing?

[stranger1414]

this is the first i have heard of any one elce having this problum, and it make me have a bit more faith in finding a anwer! It honastly make me dread every day, and the depreshion because of it is really efcting me.
Its hard to hug friends, i feel ugly and diffrent :'(

its hard to find clothes, and im 16 so im missing out on the yers where i look my best :( i wana just be normal. is there any thing that can be done!?

[Yas1991]

Does ANYONE here *actually* know a solution to this problem?

Im 17 and It's really great to know I'm not alone..and we're all sharing our experiences of going thru it..but it still kinda doesn't solve anything.

PROBLEM:  We all have a visible Popping-out mons pubis due to a prominent pubic bone or a big layer of fat tissues or a combination of both.

Still unanswered Questions:

1) Is it a good thing or a bad thing?  ( with the responses of the guys in here r they an exception or is this the majority's view? - think Big boobs...theyre a good thing..majority rules)

2) Does it get bigger as I get older?

3) How can i fix it?

4) and I heard about the lypo solution BUT I would STILL have a problem bec other than the fat tissues my Pubic Bone IS half the problem..as its prominent and looks like a hump when lying straight on my back.. So Is there a surgery for that?


I've been researching this and I heard there is the lypo solution but without having a solution for the pubic bone then its useless because these fat tissues are there to PROTECT the bone during sex.

[mocha78]

Good points!  I would also like to know if it's a good or a bad thing... ie. what do the majority of guys think?  I hate to wear a bathing suit mostly because of that!  What do other people think?  It's not like I see alot of other women with this problem.  But by the sounds of peoples comments, and my feelings aswell, it's not a good thing.  I wondered that too, about the lipo, but the bone still being there.  If you find anything out, PLEASE let us know!!!

[xenaz]

I don't think it is a good thing when most of us feel abnormal and unattractive because of this problem.  I don't care what the guys think. They are only the opinion of the minority.  
We ingeniously find some way of disguising the problem and even enjoy intimacy although it is always tinged by this problem.  I personally think it would take major surgery to fix the problem because of the reproductive organs in that area.  Someone (untitledforher) has raised this question with the Orthopedic Sports Medicine on this website entitled "A deformed pubic bone"...you all might like to have a read of the doctor's answer.  The end result is he said she needed to consult a doctor to have a thorough evaluation.  Can you imagine the embarrassment.  Not only would you have to expose yourself but you most likely would have to have xrays done too.  This is very difficult to do due to the intimacy of this area.  The bottom line is some needs to find the courage to see a doctor and tell us the result of their consultation.  Can anyone have the courage to do this?  We would all like to hear from you if you do.....

[keight27]

So I'm a virgin and I was just wondering if it is the first thing your boyfriend notices when he lays on top of you?
I have avoided ever having a boyfriend because I'm too scared of getting intimate.
I just wanted to know If there is any way to hide it when your that close to someone else?

[mocha78]

I've never had a boyfriend say anything about it.  If he even notices it, which I don't think he will, it definitely won't be the first thing he notices.  I promise!!  I know it *****, I hate it too, but don't let it stop you from having a relationship!  Plus, there's lots of 'positions' where he wouldn't be laying on top of you.  Hope that helps.

[chezzy521]

THANK YOU TO THE MEN FOR YOUR DELIGHTFUL COMMENTS I feel better about myself already (I think the male commenters are really telling us something here GALS).  Nobody likes a scrawny cat, but when you see a big fluffy pussycat you really want to play with it, DONT WORRY GIRLS,  its like a BIG JUICY PEACH i reckon, and YOU CAN STILL HAVE AMAZING ORGASMS, REPRODUCE normally, whatever.  Im sure there are millions of women like us, we have just never been written about in womens mags or appeared in porns ( i havent seen any yet) hmmm ONE DAY WE WILL BE IN FASHION

[healthnut1223]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all, except your mind set... please know that I am a man. I'm guessing you think of this as a masculine bulge and it makes you feel anything but feminine. This is not the case at all. Think if it this way... men wish they would have a big chest and so do women, the difference is the shape. The shape of a man and women in the pelvic area are totally different. Personally I find the feminine pubic bone very attractive and I'll tell you why. Virtually all women (except very heavy set women) have a more noticeable public bone when the are laying on their back so this reminds me of that intimate setting. Again your curves are  clearly different, it's like comparing pecks and breast... one is feminine and one is masculine. I've shared shallow talk with other guys and they offer the information that the feminine bulge its a turn on and i never recall anyone saying he didn't like the feminine bulge. It's just like having larger breast, only it's the other feminine curve, so I say you have an asset.

Karl
Columbus

[healthnut1223]

Forgot to say above.

Not all guys like thick girls and not all guys like thin girls. If any guy comments negatively about your curve don't believe that's the trend. Honestly I think most guys think it's a turn on. Like I say, it's kinda like seeing that women laying on you bed in panties, or the hot girl at the beach sunbathing, it's just feminine. I wouldn't care if you could see it in your skirt standing up. It's that intimate image of a woman's curves that is sexy as opposed to a girl with no shape or curves from head to toe, just boring that way. If your guy doesn't like it there is another man that will. Would you get a nose job too if you boyfriend made a negative comment. Don't ever forget... if you are a women even if you have a very pronounced pubic bone your curves are feminine and there are a ton of guys just like me who think that is a bonus to have such femine curves.

[julygirl07]

Well.. I'm 20. And I have the same problem.. Its is uncomfortable.. Yea, U have to watch what u wear and what not. I really wanna get surgry done to. Does it hurt on anyone? Mine doesn't hurt at all?. Sometimes it seems larger somedays than others?.. My periods are always on time. I've never had a problem with that. I've never told anybody besides my mom.. I also have a really big chest? could this have something to do with it?.

[yukiko4711]

I'm absolutely thrilled that I found this place. My mother had noticed my difference when i was about 11 yrs old. She actually told me it was a protruding pelvic bone, but never noticed any other relatives that had the same structure as myself. My mother kind of shrugged it off but I was always self conscious of it. As I got older, I learned to kind of let it go. Yes, I still think about it from time to time, but I've learned to be more accepting of it. With the few men that I've been with now, it has proved to be a great asset. ;) They've always commented on how sexy they think it is and it's helped boost my confidence about it.  And with the comments I've read above, maybe this explains my more 'heightened' sexual urges and sensitivity. Makes me feel more unique and special. (my personal ego booster!)

I'd say keep it ladies. Knowing your body better and harnessing the advantages in what you may think are 'flaws' may help you realize that you've got one up on most 'common' women in this world. And with the increasing amount of male comments on here, I'm starting to wonder if they know more about this than we do! haha.

[Ella1990]

These things kind of make me feel better. but i just cant help but feeling like a guy all the time.
I'm flat chested, lanky, I dont have hips and im just not shaped like a woman :( and my face isnt that great to look at either.
Im so scared of even being close to anyone. Im 18 and am still a virgin because of this. I dont want anyone to see me naked because i dont feel/look like a woman.
I just don't know what to do.

[freakedout4321]

i'm 18, 5ft 11 and weigh 10 and a half stone. i feel so self consicous with this bone thing that i don't dare get close to a guy. i don't like wearing anything but jeans so i have to put loads of stuff in my pockets to try and hide it. i feel ridiculous doing that though, i just want it sorted it out. it makes me so miserable and it makes me hate myself. i plan to go to the doctor and tell her about it but what do i say? please help.

[sweetpea03]

I tend to think that I'm the same way, I don't really like wearing anything tight. Though I would never resort to surgery to "fix" it. I'm just learning to really love my body. I found a guy who loves me for who I am and doesn't see any flaws in my looks. I never thought that was possible, but it's been great so far. Just act confident and you'll learn to be ok with the way you look.

[Haru_chan]

It's such a relief to have found this thread! I'm another girl with a large/prominent pubic bone and it's caused me so much grief. I'm 26 and first noticed this when I was around 12, so I've been covering it up for more than half my life. I have to choose my clothes really carefully. Ruffled/layered skirts are good, and body-control tights can help a little, but shiny and clingy fabrics are a nightmare. If anyone else has any clothing tips to share that'd be great! I avoid lying down flat because it accentuates the bulge, and I've done the arching-the-back-and-sticking-the-butt-out thing too, but it gives me backache if I do it for long! I'm 5 feet 5 and 115 pounds so I'm slim but not underweight at all - I used to think it was just fat causing the problem so I tried to starve myself skinny to get rid of it, but I still had a bump and I've come to realise it's the bone underneath that causes it. I have a friend who's almost exactly the same height and weight as me, but she has no bump down there at all and can wear really tight, clingy skirts with no problems. I have to admit I get jealous!

A couple of years ago (around Jan 07) I finally decided I wanted to do something about it. Back then, I still thought the problem was the fat in the area so I went to a well-known plastic surgery clinic and had a consultation. They didn't examine me at the time, but the nurse I talked to agreed that a labia reduction (I also have long inner labia but that doesn't bother me as much) and some lipo on the mons pubis would be a good option for me. I was booked in to have an examination and consultation with the surgeon a few weeks later, but I paid in full up front (had to get a big bank loan!) as the nurse told me I'd get a discount and special offers if I did this. She warned me that it was non-refundable if I changed my mind, but I was desperate to get rid of my problem and didn't care. I had all these images in my head of me wearing tight mini skirts and swimming costumes...

When I went to see the surgeon, he was really abrupt and didn't put me at my ease at all. He said I'd be a good candidate for the labia reduction, but then he pinched the flesh on my mons and said there wasn't enough there for lipo and he couldn't help. I was really upset and started crying (I just couldn't help it - what a let down!) and he said he "wished I could see some of the other women he's seen" as presumably they had more extreme bumps than mine. That didn't really help though, because if theirs were due to fat then they have the option of losing weight or getting lipo - what can I do?! Anyway, long story short the clinic said I'd have to go through with the labia reduction but they refunded the money for the lipo. I didn't want the labia reduction as that wasn't the main problem (it was just going to be an added bonus for me, so I'd look nice nad neat down there once the bump was gone!) so I went to my GP and explained the whole thing. Because I suffer from depression, he seemed to think this was tied up with that and wrote to the clinic advising that I was unsuitable for surgery at this point in my life and should be refunded. They did so, which was a relief, but I was left feeling worse than ever about my "girl bump" because it felt like no one believed me or cared and that I'd never find a solution.

I've since tried to stop focusing on it and just pick clothes that flatter my shape, but I still can't stop hoping for a solution! They can turn men into women and women into men nowadays - there must be something that can help us! I found out a few months ago that I have mild scoliosis (curvature of the spine) and now I'm wondering whether this is related. Do any other women here get back trouble? I'm going to see a physiotherapist soon, so I'll ask about this and let you all know what happens.

[Haru_chan]

Me again - I've just done a google search and I found a couple of pictures that prove we're not alone, lol!

WARNING: these aren't work safe as they show naked girl parts ;-)


http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/33/Mons_pubis.jpg

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/232/515627740_8dc4af2a7a.jpg?v=0

http://i.pbase.com/g4/69/198369/2/52492888.5919veneris.jpg

http://www.plasticsurgerypa.com/DisplayPages/images/mons_pubis.jpg

http://img204.imagevenue.com/img.php?image=17997_mp09_123_526lo.jpg

http://www.socalgtc.com/Back-Bend.jpg

http://yoga.lovetoknow.com/images/Yoga/9/98/Bostonyoga.jpg

http://www.contortionhomepage.com/glossary/backbend.jpg


I don't know how to make them into links, so you'll need to copy and paste them into your browser, sorry! It's good to se