Masterbation - from a woman's perspective

[awkward]

Hi.  I have a few questions about masterbation from a woman's perspective.  Every post I've seen about masterbation has been from guys.  Do the effects of masterbation differ w/ men and women?  I've only masterbated twice in my whole life and I'm 19.  I don't think that's bad.  Actually I think it's quite good.  But anyway, I've been getting mixed feelings about masterbation.  Some say it's healthy, some say it's a health hazard.  Some say it's only addicitive if you do it 5-10 times per day others say even if you start off with a little bit you'll get addicted eventually.  

I'm just trying to find ways to relieve my sexual tension w/o hurting myself.  As of now I'm thinking about ruling masterbation out.  Sex is out cause I'm waiting until I'm married.  Is it true if you masterbate too much you'll lose sensitivity in your vagina?  Are the effects of masterbation the same for men and women or do they differ?

Thanks for your help.

[Dontneed2tell]

First of all, IMO, you're not a woman yet. 19 is still a teen. Legally you're an adult but that's just my opnion. I've always considered myself a "gir;" up until my 22nd or 23rd birthday. Now to what you're saying...masterbation is bad if it's done too much to where it effects your daily life in terms of your job, etc. Masterbation is bad if it starts to get sore  you know where (in the private areas/groin). Our culture thinks too much of sex because sex sells but it does not mean that masterbation doesn't have repercussions.

...Also if it involves dangerous tasks like in a bondage situation where the blood supply or breathing can be cut off.

[emmagoldmanfight]

I hope you talked to a doctor, because thats the best idea in this situation.

[AlissaRose]

I'm a 13 year old girl and masturbate like 2 every 3 days. (Because my hormones are going insane I guess and I don't want to attack my boyfriend) If i keep doing so, will it effect my growth or anything like that? Because I've noticed that I haven't started my period and I've started to notice discharge in my underwear a while ago. Like really, more then a year ago..

[sumarmarllen13]

So i been havnt oral sex with my bf, and the last 2 times we did oral sex, i didnt cu'm. and he did put his penis inside half way, cuz im still a virgin, and when he put it in i felt pain cuz his got dry, and it was hurting me little. so after that day, my vagina started feeling weird, like unfinished, feeling like i need more sex, and kept making me rub on it hard. nd now its little sore and still makes me rub it every few minutes. whats wrong with it? is it risky??

[sumarmarllen13]

So i been havnt oral sex with my bf, and the last 2 times we did oral sex, i didnt cu'm. and he did put his penis inside half way, cuz im still a virgin, and when he put it in i felt pain cuz his got dry, and it was hurting me little. so after that day, my vagina started feeling weird, like unfinished, feeling like i need more sex, and kept making me rub on it hard. nd now its little sore and still makes me rub it every few minutes. whats wrong with it? is it risky??So i been havnt oral sex with my bf, and the last 2 times we did oral sex, i didnt ***. and he did put his penis inside half way, cuz im still a virgin, and when he put it in i felt pain cuz his got dry, and it was hurting me little. so after that day, my vagina started feeling weird, like unfinished, feeling like i need more sex, and kept making me rub on it hard. nd now its little sore and still makes me rub it every few minutes. whats wrong with it? is it risky??

[sumarmarllen13]

What do you mean when you said its bad? what will happen afterwards?

[Daija_vu98]

I agree with you Enjoyit_more. Masturbation is absolutely normal!  Some people do it and some don't, it's a personal preference. Don't let other people sway your decision because they are judging you or encouraging it. I'm personally 17 years old and do it  because it feels great and is a stress reliever. It helps with sexual tension and helps me stay abstinent till I'm ready. I don't see any health risk so why not? Besides it shouldn't matter how much you do it, as long as it doesn't interfere with your life. I say if your comfortable with it and your self go ahead and do it and if not comfortable don't do it. It's your choice and simple, no one has to know unless you want them to. Again your choice, it's choice weather you become addicted or try other things after you try it. Don't stress over it and just relax.

[sallyhigh]

tjhh.. I was about your age when I started masterbating (now 21) and now I do it on the daily. At that age I had to get creative with things I used since at that age there is no way to get a dildo without some embarrassment. I would recommend not using a hot dog as that is processed meat product and you never know what germs/bacterias are in there. You have to be safe with what you are putting in yourself because your vagina can be a very sensitive thing and you don't to cause an infection or anything like that. I remember using a curling iron or a mascara tube after I washed them with soap and water. Make sure there are only smooth edges on these things you use because that can scrap and cause injury!
Also keep in mind you don't have to put anything inside at all to orgasm. Clit stimulation can get you there. But don't be afraid to experiment! Good luck with your masterbation girl!

[tjhh]

im 13 & scared to have sex :/ , i just rub my finger around on my clit it feels really good (: i wanna take it a step further and start masterbating the only thing in my house are hot dogs ! , is there anything you would recomend me to use ?



# i like the feeling of it tickleing .

[yebooo]

masterbation s good plus we do it based on different reasons. Stop judging other ppl, bcos we a different. If u feel like doing it, just go for it.

[patients1960]

Why would a man rather masturbate , then to have sex with his lady , even tho he knows she loves sex , he dosnt do it to her for months , but masrwebates every day , in the tub or shower , quiet ,,

[satanangel]

THIS IS MY QUESTION PLEASE ANSWER THIS.. im 20 and im starting to masturbate since 2005.. why everytime i masterbate i alwats have a pain in my shoulder??? whats the reason behind that is it normal or not???? thanks you,, hope you answer my QUESTION.

[Agnes345]

I came over in this column. Yes, I masturbated and I'm 20 when I felt doing it after I saw a movie Black Swan. I'm emotionally depressed that time and out of curiosity I tried it. The feeling was good but I felt guilt in myself. I tried not masturbating but I can't stop it when my body feel the urges at time. In one week I masturbate twice. I don't really watches porn videos because I don't like it. Yet the fact that I masturbate is something that my body needs for a moment, and I got used to it. It something that you can't stop easily. But it's your own decision to handle your sexual desire. Mine was I haven't tried having sex with other men. But if you haven't tried masturbating, I advice you should not try it because at first you could find yourself dirty and there is guilt in yourself. It something you feel good after that moment and you will feel that you loosed your virginity. So for girls who are curious, Don't do it. But for women who are struggling to keep away from masturbating, Don't hurt yourself. Just do it in moderation, masturbate but don't lust. Just give what your body needs at the moment and you will got used to it on time and you will treat it as normal. Yet, Don't be a *****, don't always over think about sex. Masturbation is something you could get from your pocket easily when your body needs it. Don't make it rule you always, but instead you should control yourself from addiction.

[shoodyP]

M 28 n engaged I started masterbating when I was13 I masterbate myb 3 times a week sumtyms penetration is not enough I lost my viginity when I was 22 take ur tym but dnt stop masterbating u r da only person who knows wher u want to be touched
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[zombiefeces]

OMG Masturbation is so good for women, it relieves stress and liberates us. I masturbate all the time, my husband even bought me a special vibrator....I think you need to do it more personally I think it is very healthy and normal

[Eireluv]

damn girl you gotta get checked.

and to the rest of you that disagree. i say its healthy to let that tension out  some how dont ya think?

[Justpassedby]

I just wanted to ask,I masterbate like 3x a day ,started doing this on march since i had abortion, i felt like just the need to satisfy myself than have an  intercourse with my bf since he is always traveling and its totally not gonna make me pregnant,and it makes my menstruation a lot advanced, or sometimes I bleed after I feel my orgasm, is there something wrong with me? Would definitely appreciate your opinions

[reallynow1]

First of all, "masturbation" done in the old days to women in hospitals is sexual abuse and was discontinued for that reason.

Second of all, many of you act as if you have no choices in relieving sexual tension besides masturbation or sex. It is possible to channel that energy into exercise, meditation or prayer, or doing something worthwhile to help the world or improve yourself!

Also, looking at porn can make you unappreciative or real live sex when you find the right person to have it with--it objectifies people and sets unrealistic expectations. Masturbating while in a sexual relationship can take away the focus from improving the relationship and is not necessarily good.

I see masturbation as an immature way of handling sexual tension. Not bad but not ideal either.

[annimok]

Did you know that masterbation use to be used in hospitals as a treatment for stress???? Thats where vibraters came from, doctors were tired of doing it themselves and so they invented a machine to get it done and do it faster... so There is your proof that masterbation is healthy, it helps releive stress... if i didnt masterbate id prolly done went on a killing spree...

[justuandme]

masturbation can be a very healthy thing as stated by others....as long as it does not CONTROL your life!

My sister and I talked to our Dr. about the fact that neither of us have ever had an orgasm during sex......we have both been married for years and have had different partners prior to marriage and no one has ever been able to give us one.  His advise was to masturbate. He said to get our bodies used to the feeling and the more we do it the greater our chances are of having one with our hubbies. It was weird at first but it does work! Now I can have a clitoral or a Gspot one almost every time, sometimes more than once!

He also told my husband to masturbate to help him "last" longer. My husband is a wieredo, he does not feel right doing it....he feels like he is cheating on me if he does it.  At least he always make sure I get to have one first.

Masturbating has also seemed to help my mood and stress level LOL

[RichyRichArd334]

Dang girl, you know how to live

[micky476]

exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal. ever since i started masturbating, i've noticed myself be more relaxed, happy, and basically more focused on all the things i have to do. i do it about 6 times a week, and i LOVE it. i look at pictures or porn for like 5 minutes, rub my "area" and just let nature take its course. i think u need to accept your body for what it is, and not speak so narrow-mindedly. really? how conservative!

[Kosa]

I am a 23 year old women and I have just reasontly started masterbating to relieve some of my overpoweing sex drives. I to have desided to wait untill after marriage for that beautiful event. My reasons though lie in that the Bible forbids it before marraige. Its not easy though and I struggle hard with it at times. I was very afraid that I was going to lose my verginity if I didnt do something about my emotions so I started masterbating. I have found that it helps my emotional state yet I now have to deal with wanting to masterbate more then I need to. Sex is something beautifull and perfect in its right place. It is not my time to experiance that, but when it comes my time I will compleatly enjoy myself and have no regrets!

[frog83flys]

Ok so I was reading the reply, and I just wanted to say that having urges is a normal thing. Every teen gets them no matter if you are actually thinking about sex or not. I think that it is defiantly okay for you to relieve those urges with a little self pleasure. I can understand not watching porn, but I'm pretty sure that every woman who marries a man already knows that they have probably more than one time in their life watched porn and or masturbated to it. I respect your thought to stay pure, but sometimes those urges can build up and you might do something you could regret. If masturbation keeps you from having sex, then I'd say go for it.