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Miscarriage?
hi, I'm 16 and I was about 4-5 months pregnant ( please don't judge I actually wanted this) and on Tuesday I had these strong back pains but no bleeding at all, I was eventually in so much pain and so I went to the bathroom because I felt a lot of pressure and with one push my water broke and the baby was out, the baby quite big already was dead, I am currently feeling very vulnerable and empty because I really loved that little boy, but now I'm bleeding since but it's not a lot with the casual clot but nothing else, but now my breasts are swollen and very painful and are full of milk but they didn't have milk in to begin with, how can I dry the milk up, it's extremely painful because the milk is just getting to much and the pressure build up is making my breasts extremely large over night, they are also leaking a lot. Please can anyone maybe tell me what to do, my heart is really aching and I'm really going through a lot of depression because I never said anything to anyone so I am currently still alone in this situation, can some one also please tell me how to deal with this heart ache, I can't stop crying over my little boy
Gorgia, you did the right thing in keeping the baby once you knew.
Going down the route of having an abortion deliberately is not an easy decision to make and if it carried out, it affects most women very badly.
It is still hard and very painful emotionally and physically having lost a baby. And the fact that it was born and not alive must have been a horrendous shock for you. I lost at 6 weeks when it plopped into the toilet, and it took me a year to get over it despite the fact that I did not want any more children (I already had 2).
I am sure that your mom would feel hurt that you did not turn to her for help and if you told her what you have just been through, I am sure that she will want to hug and look after you.
Thank you for letting me know that your little angel has had a proper burial.
Please ask your adult friend that you confided in (or our mom) to take you to see your doctor urgently. I am very concerned for your health.
The doctor will be able to give you the medication to dry up the milk glands from producing, but it would stop eventually on its own as long as you do not try and express the milk. It can be quite painful when the breasts gets so full and then there is the risk of getting an infection called Mastitis. I have had that and it is not nice and extremely painful. You also need to ensure that your womb has been cleared of all debris and I remember getting some medication from the doctor at the time for that.
I am very concerned about your emotional well being and your mom will be able to support you. After a baby is born, and you have had a very traumatic experience, you can get what is called "The Baby Blues". This is to do with the hormones being all over the place and causing a depression.
I think your mom will probably want to do something serious to your "boyfriend" having forced himself upon you. You do realise that someone who forces you into doing something like that against your will is rape. At the end of the day it is your decision what you should so about that.
Take care and let us know how you get on.
Best wishes
Going down the route of having an abortion deliberately is not an easy decision to make and if it carried out, it affects most women very badly.
It is still hard and very painful emotionally and physically having lost a baby. And the fact that it was born and not alive must have been a horrendous shock for you. I lost at 6 weeks when it plopped into the toilet, and it took me a year to get over it despite the fact that I did not want any more children (I already had 2).
I am sure that your mom would feel hurt that you did not turn to her for help and if you told her what you have just been through, I am sure that she will want to hug and look after you.
Thank you for letting me know that your little angel has had a proper burial.
Please ask your adult friend that you confided in (or our mom) to take you to see your doctor urgently. I am very concerned for your health.
The doctor will be able to give you the medication to dry up the milk glands from producing, but it would stop eventually on its own as long as you do not try and express the milk. It can be quite painful when the breasts gets so full and then there is the risk of getting an infection called Mastitis. I have had that and it is not nice and extremely painful. You also need to ensure that your womb has been cleared of all debris and I remember getting some medication from the doctor at the time for that.
I am very concerned about your emotional well being and your mom will be able to support you. After a baby is born, and you have had a very traumatic experience, you can get what is called "The Baby Blues". This is to do with the hormones being all over the place and causing a depression.
I think your mom will probably want to do something serious to your "boyfriend" having forced himself upon you. You do realise that someone who forces you into doing something like that against your will is rape. At the end of the day it is your decision what you should so about that.
Take care and let us know how you get on.
Best wishes
COMMUNITY LEADER
Sweetie, your mom may surprise you. I'm a mom myself and I will tell you that when my kids hurt, I hurt. Sure, she may be concerned that this happened in terms of your getting pregnant but this will be overshadowed by her worries for your health. Your physical health after a miscarriage of a baby mid term and your emotional health. Please give her a chance to do what she is intended to do right now, care for you, love you and make sure you are okay. peace and hugs
thank you so much fior the advice, but I can answer your question with the baby remains I did not just leave it somewhere I told one of my adult friends and they had gotten a proper burial done for him, and also my mom looks after unwanted kids since I was about 3 so I do have a lot of experiences with babies even some with heart diseases, having a baby was not my intention I was forced to be sexually active when I knew the complications it may bring but I couldn't stop him, and then I felt that I couldn't just get rid of such a special gift from God so I was hiding it away, I also was very sick and was in and out doctors offices with long lists of medication, neither me nor the doctor thought its pregnancy that could of caused it and I had only realized I was when my tummy started getting larger (two weeks ago) because the medication I was taking would mess my periods up. I was and am just too scared to tell my mom because it is a serious matter and she would most likely not be the most sensitive, so what I am trying to say here which I should of in the begining was that it was not intentional I wasn't even interested in becoming sexually active it was more of my boyfriend that was, and I have always known the responsibilities of becoming a mom I just thought it was the most responsible thing to do was go through with the pregnancy giving a little baby a fighting chance instead of just aborting him, I had thought very long and hard on what to do for the time that I knew I was pregnant. And I also thought at first that it might not be milk but the fluid is a dull white and its a lot of fluid at a time. But thank you I will talk to a doctor if I can because I'm very secluded from public due to my shyness, I just don't know how to tell my mom because I don't want the situation worse than it already is.
hi there so sorry for your loss. I agree absoltely with the other posts. You need to go see your doctor ASAP. You really need to talk to someone about this, you should not be going through this alone. Best of luck. Take care and stay well
COMMUNITY LEADER
I see that Jemma has asked some good questions and given good advice.
Sweetie, what happened with the baby's remains? Don't tell me here but this is definitely something to share with a trusted adult. There may be a proper way to handle that and you want to do it that way. Now, early miscarriage does often happen in a toilet sadly but am wondering if you took it out.
You really need to get some help to make sure everything is okay. You need an adult to have a doctor look at you. They can give you medication if your milk is in and in general, you should be under a doctor's care. Is there anyone you can turn to if you are afraid to talk to your parents?
There is planned parenthood which provides medical care to young ladies such as yourself. Look up the nearest one and that is the last resort option if you don't feel you can trust any adult in your life to help you.
good luck
Sweetie, what happened with the baby's remains? Don't tell me here but this is definitely something to share with a trusted adult. There may be a proper way to handle that and you want to do it that way. Now, early miscarriage does often happen in a toilet sadly but am wondering if you took it out.
You really need to get some help to make sure everything is okay. You need an adult to have a doctor look at you. They can give you medication if your milk is in and in general, you should be under a doctor's care. Is there anyone you can turn to if you are afraid to talk to your parents?
There is planned parenthood which provides medical care to young ladies such as yourself. Look up the nearest one and that is the last resort option if you don't feel you can trust any adult in your life to help you.
good luck
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh goodness. You need to tell an adult immediately.
Most likely you do not have milk in your breasts. Milk comes in after a baby is born and as the baby died in utero, I do not think you have milk at this point. However, shifting hormones can cause pain and engorgement.
This situation is beyond the scope of the internet. You need true care and from an adult in your life. Please talk to your mom immediately.
Honey, I am not judging but at 16, motherhood would not have been what you think. You've romanticized it and it is not like that in reality. I planned my children and love them dearly, but have never had to work harder at anything in my life. At 16, you are still a child. What a baby needs is hard for such a young person to really provide. I know that is no solace---- but at times we have to understand that it wasn't meant to be. I would not try to have another baby until you are of age hon. Please, for your sake and a baby's sake. No judgment at all---- you sound like YOU wanted to be loved by someone and a baby fills that bill. But most would agree that this is a tender time in your life and accomplishing other things before motherhood would be best.
So, speak to an adult. Give yourself some TLC. Regroup and I promise, you'll feel better soon. peace
Most likely you do not have milk in your breasts. Milk comes in after a baby is born and as the baby died in utero, I do not think you have milk at this point. However, shifting hormones can cause pain and engorgement.
This situation is beyond the scope of the internet. You need true care and from an adult in your life. Please talk to your mom immediately.
Honey, I am not judging but at 16, motherhood would not have been what you think. You've romanticized it and it is not like that in reality. I planned my children and love them dearly, but have never had to work harder at anything in my life. At 16, you are still a child. What a baby needs is hard for such a young person to really provide. I know that is no solace---- but at times we have to understand that it wasn't meant to be. I would not try to have another baby until you are of age hon. Please, for your sake and a baby's sake. No judgment at all---- you sound like YOU wanted to be loved by someone and a baby fills that bill. But most would agree that this is a tender time in your life and accomplishing other things before motherhood would be best.
So, speak to an adult. Give yourself some TLC. Regroup and I promise, you'll feel better soon. peace
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby and also very sorry that you have had no one, not even a parent or friend, that you could turn to for help with this traumatic and sad event.
Strap your breasts with a cloth. Get some Epsom Salts from the pharmacy and follow the instructions on taking it. Follow the instruction on the packet.
This is only a temporary measure.
You MUST go to the ER, gynae, or see your doctor URGENTLY. Telephone your doctor's surgery.
The doctor would prescribe medication to help dry up the milk production. He may feel that you need medication to clear out any debris in the womb, if this is not done properly it can lead to serious complications. Sometimes you may need to have a D&C.
The doctor may prescribe some medication to help calm you down. You would benefit from bereavement counselling. Ask your doctor about that, as there may be a clinic that specialises in counselling mothers who have lost their babies.
I don't what you need to do or who you need to inform with regard the miscarriage of a 5 month unborn baby - with regard to burial. Ask the doctor.
This is a very serious health issue, please seek medical attention URGENTLY.
Strap your breasts with a cloth. Get some Epsom Salts from the pharmacy and follow the instructions on taking it. Follow the instruction on the packet.
This is only a temporary measure.
You MUST go to the ER, gynae, or see your doctor URGENTLY. Telephone your doctor's surgery.
The doctor would prescribe medication to help dry up the milk production. He may feel that you need medication to clear out any debris in the womb, if this is not done properly it can lead to serious complications. Sometimes you may need to have a D&C.
The doctor may prescribe some medication to help calm you down. You would benefit from bereavement counselling. Ask your doctor about that, as there may be a clinic that specialises in counselling mothers who have lost their babies.
I don't what you need to do or who you need to inform with regard the miscarriage of a 5 month unborn baby - with regard to burial. Ask the doctor.
This is a very serious health issue, please seek medical attention URGENTLY.
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