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My boyfriend loses his erection every time we have sex
Here goes...I am hoping someone can shed some light on my situation.  My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and since the beginning he has never once held and erection during sex.  Sometimes when he's rock hard and I get up to position myself for him he goes soft.  He never has a problem staying hard during a *******, and never has a problem when masturbating.  Before me he was single for a year, and was never with a woman.  He watches porn every day, and this doesn't bother me, but the age of the girls he is attracted to does...18year olds.  I am 29.  Does this mean anything?  I've tried orally gettting him hard before sex and then as soon as he enters me he goes soft too...help!  He won't go to a doctor.
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do an experiment. Have him watch a porn while having sex? if he goes soft its cause he is no longer attracted to you (harsh but true that same thing happened to me) and if he stays hard maybe he just needs a little extra stimuli to get him going.
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even im having the same problem what hell is this even i  don't  understanding this.
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My problems is my bf can only go for like two mins how do I get him to go longer
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I'm a 21 year old girl who is dating a 21 year old  male virgin for 3 month now, he has never watch porn,thought naughty thoughts or even some masterbating. well one day he asked me to have sex with him.  he can get an erection but when we get into the position we wanna he goes soft. what do i do to help him?  please help me!
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Has anyone tried lubricants to simulate the erection and then place a **** ring on it. It will hold the erection and supply pleasure. Or maybe when he goes soft, don't make a fuss over it and rush to try getting him hard again. This is very embarrassing on a man. Act like no biggie and focus sex attention else where. Talk dirty and do some fore play. Massage his body run your tongue down him his chest. Anything to divert his attention away from his problem back to you and back to sex. When his mind relaxes and pressure is off his performance and on how good this is gonna be, his erection will come back. May take a few times but just make it fun sexy and tantalizing. Then his erection will override his head and do what comes natural. Its all mind over matter.
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Has anyone tried lubricants to simulate the erection and then place a **** ring on it. It will hold the erection and supply pleasure. Or maybe when he goes soft, don't make a fuss over it and rush to try getting him hard again. This is very embarrassing on a man. Act like no biggie and focus sex attention else where. Talk dirty and do some fore play. Massage his body run your tongue down him his chest. Anything to divert his attention away from his problem back to you and back to sex. When his mind relaxes and pressure is off his performance and on how good this is gonna be, his erection will come back. May take a few times but just make it fun sexy and tantalizing. Then his erection will override his head and do what comes natural. Its all mind over matter.
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I am a man and when I am going to have sex with my partner the same thing happens to me it dose go soft and find it very hard to get it back.and by the time I do she has falling out of the mood and tells me its ok not to worry I need help A.S.A.P
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I have same problem just met this 20 year old off craigslist and i have hadn't had 'sex in 6 months do to a divorce from my wife and i'm not looking for a relationship. just sex. I thinks its cause i masturbate everyday to porn. I'm gonna slack off on it and i got out of practice with sex plus me and my ex hardly had sex after her miscarriages and we had problems in the bedroom cause i couldn't keep it up long. I was taking cialis and that helped but she just was turned off by sex and i could go a long time without cumming and stay hard when on cialis. and she would get hers and get dry and say it hurt so we stopped and i would jerk off. this girl i just met today of craigslist i couldn't stay hard and she said she was a virgin but she uses a dildo. i felt bad for her cause i couldn't keep it up on the plus side i gave her good oral and made her *** a lot. I'm 38 and when i was young in my 20's i didn't have that problem at all. I was rock hard and could go for hours. Now that i'm older its hard to keep it up during sex and its embarrassing and brings your male ego down and your self confidence makes you feel like less of a man. I'm pretty sure i wont hear from her again. But i hope i do cause man she had some good *****. She said it was ok i told her i guess i needed to get to warm up to her we just met complete strangers. Hopefully if we do hookup and get i will **** the hell out of her. Man i wanted to bad but my dam **** wouldn't cooperate and she gave me head to and it got hard for awhile but wouldn't stay hard but her mouth was dry not lubricated enough in her mouth. Hopefully we can do it again and try something different maybe i will be more at ease. But if we don't hookup again i'm gonna miss that ***** that was the youngest girl ever i have been with. I cant believe she chose me outta all the guys that post on craigslist in my area. Don't get me wrong she wasn't a 10 but i would say she was a 8 in my opinion.
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