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My boyfriend loses his erection every time we have sex

Here goes...I am hoping someone can shed some light on my situation.  My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and since the beginning he has never once held and erection during sex.  Sometimes when he's rock hard and I get up to position myself for him he goes soft.  He never has a problem staying hard during a *******, and never has a problem when masturbating.  Before me he was single for a year, and was never with a woman.  He watches porn every day, and this doesn't bother me, but the age of the girls he is attracted to does...18year olds.  I am 29.  Does this mean anything?  I've tried orally gettting him hard before sex and then as soon as he enters me he goes soft too...help!  He won't go to a doctor.
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do an experiment. Have him watch a porn while having sex? if he goes soft its cause he is no longer attracted to you (harsh but true that same thing happened to me) and if he stays hard maybe he just needs a little extra stimuli to get him going.
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even im having the same problem what hell is this even i  don't  understanding this.
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My problems is my bf can only go for like two mins how do I get him to go longer
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I'm a 21 year old girl who is dating a 21 year old  male virgin for 3 month now, he has never watch porn,thought naughty thoughts or even some masterbating (masturbating). well one day he asked me to have sex with him.  he can get an erection but when we get into the position we wanna he goes soft. what do i do to help him?  please help me!
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Has anyone tried lubricants to simulate the erection and then place a **** ring on it. It will hold the erection and supply pleasure. Or maybe when he goes soft, don't make a fuss over it and rush to try getting him hard again. This is very embarrassing on a man. Act like no biggie and focus sex attention else where. Talk dirty and do some fore play. Massage his body run your tongue down him his chest. Anything to divert his attention away from his problem back to you and back to sex. When his mind relaxes and pressure is off his performance and on how good this is gonna be, his erection will come back. May take a few times but just make it fun sexy and tantalizing. Then his erection will override his head and do what comes natural. Its all mind over matter.
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Has anyone tried lubricants to simulate the erection and then place a **** ring on it. It will hold the erection and supply pleasure. Or maybe when he goes soft, don't make a fuss over it and rush to try getting him hard again. This is very embarrassing on a man. Act like no biggie and focus sex attention else where. Talk dirty and do some fore play. Massage his body run your tongue down him his chest. Anything to divert his attention away from his problem back to you and back to sex. When his mind relaxes and pressure is off his performance and on how good this is gonna be, his erection will come back. May take a few times but just make it fun sexy and tantalizing. Then his erection will override his head and do what comes natural. Its all mind over matter.
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