I am standing by what I said about your boyfriend bringing it up so that you will want to try it. Why would he be asking these questions if he wasn't. I commend you for standing up and staying a virgin. Congratulations.
I agree w/the trickiness. They will also tell you everything you want to hear just to get it....Don't ever be fooled. A woman who doesn't put out is respected. MOST women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm. MOST women will achieve more intense orgasms through masturbation.
Sounds to me like your boyfriend is trying to get you excited about it so that you might do it.
Be careful guys can be tricky.