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Hi! My friends sister showed me this site and said that it was a good one to ask questions. I need help making a decission. I don't want to make the wrong choice, so I need you guys ideas please. I am wanting a baby. I have been with this boy for a long time now and want to have his baby. But the prob is that he isn't very cute and I scared that we have a ugly baby. I have this other boy that is really cute but I don't love him but he loves me. He said that he would have sex with me to have a baby and we not tell my boyfriend the truth. He said that he dont want to be a dad but because he loves me he would give me a baby and not be it's daddy. What you think I should do? I really don't want to have a ugly baby, I don't think I could handle that. but I want my boyfriend to be the father. but if he changes diapers and watches it when I want to go shopping and is there to read him books then he is actualy his father right? I really need help wiht this cause it's a huge choice. and I don't have much time. I need to have sex in the next few days cause then I will ovulate and get pregnant. I don't want to wait till next month.
thank you all for helping me.
Oh yeah, one more thing, my boyfriend doesn't wnat to have a baby right now but said that he will be a good father if I ever get pregnant and will give me money to go shopping when I want and help when it's not a good baby, can you choose if it's a boy or girl? I would like a girl cause she can go shopping with me but if it's a girl then I won't have as much money to go shopping. boys don't like shopping.
Renee
thank you all for helping me.
Oh yeah, one more thing, my boyfriend doesn't wnat to have a baby right now but said that he will be a good father if I ever get pregnant and will give me money to go shopping when I want and help when it's not a good baby, can you choose if it's a boy or girl? I would like a girl cause she can go shopping with me but if it's a girl then I won't have as much money to go shopping. boys don't like shopping.
Renee
first of all i feel the person that post this is a damn kid and this got to be a joke....people out here have kids for the wrong reason...now y in the world would she make a pork child to give to someone thats not de father... i mean be real u think the ******* child wont resemble the owner...i mean come de **** on mehn.... ppl like this need to jus throw themself in de damn garbage because they are waste.
My goodness! This IS REAL! And you all should be ashamed for not helping. Obviously you're mother has some real problems and has in a sense "brainwashed" you. (My mother has had real problems in her life and always made my life a living hell.) Sweetie just b.c you are 14 and you got your period doesn't mean that you HAVE to have a baby now, it just simply means that your body is capable of such., but you're brain hasn't caught up. THERE WILL BE PLENTY OF TIME TO HAVE CHILDREN. If you have a child theres getting up every 4 hrs. change, feed, play, the unsoothable crying for hours on end. The diapers, the housing expense, what if they get sick? do you know what the highest temperature a baby can have? Do you know when a baby who can't tell you whats wrong is sick, or, Hungary? I am 21 I got my period in the 5th grade. I was 10. I have no children and am getting married in 4 months and I will have a 4 yr step son FULL TIME! I love him even though he looks like his mother (which whom I can't stand) and he's not even mine. Please think this through I wish no bad luck on you just best wishes!!! This is my e-mail ***@**** Be-careful Renee
Wth he'll is wrong with u repliers! Of course this is real. This woman has a serious problem and laughing at it is not helping!!!! If u realy think she is not tellingcthe truth than just don't post anything, but u don't need to make her look like an idiot!!!!
She isn't even supposed to be posting here. It clearly states that you need to be at least 18 in order to post. DO NOT be surprised to find this post gone soon (probably sometime tomorrow). As far as I know they delete all posts by an underage person and ban them from medhelp.
You are GOOD! Great elaboration. Nice bit about the shopping. However, in future, you need to take your grammar down a notch and use less punctuation.
But, overall, I give you an 8 out of 10!
But, overall, I give you an 8 out of 10!
Oh wow, nobody in their right mind would do some stupid sh** like this..
This has to be a joke...
This has to be a joke...
Not really sure your ready for a baby just yet. No baby is ugly in thier mother's eyes. Get a grip girl sort yourself out. Could you imagine how you'd feel if your boyfriend felt the same about you.
please don't post things that are not serious....it's a waste of your time and ours. I am trying very hard not to judge, but i find it hard to believe this is a serious post. So please, if you're just trying to incite people to respond...don't. It's an immature thing to do. If you are indedd serious, then it sounds as if you're not ready for the responsibility of parenthood...just my opinion
But really, if this was real, this girl needs a psychiatric evaluation. SHe would be putting that child in a HORRIBLE position...
But really, some people do think this way... Its on the talk shows ALL the time. You know the ones, "you're my babies daddy" on Maury and Springer..
Crazy chick...
But really, some people do think this way... Its on the talk shows ALL the time. You know the ones, "you're my babies daddy" on Maury and Springer..
Crazy chick...
woa, this just has to be a joke. maybe oliver's sister!
if by any chance you AREN'T joking, you don't sound like you're in any position to even think about having a baby. plenty of women get pregnant without marriage, but decide they want to have and love that child. but you want to have a baby by someone more handsome than your bf, and then pass it off as your bf's baby? wrong, wrong, wrong on SOOOO many levels. please continue using some form of birth control. no child deserves to come into this world in such a manipulative manner!
if by any chance you AREN'T joking, you don't sound like you're in any position to even think about having a baby. plenty of women get pregnant without marriage, but decide they want to have and love that child. but you want to have a baby by someone more handsome than your bf, and then pass it off as your bf's baby? wrong, wrong, wrong on SOOOO many levels. please continue using some form of birth control. no child deserves to come into this world in such a manipulative manner!
You were right about one thing....it is a HUGE choice to have a baby. Please make the right one...and don't get pregnant. You are very young, and that's okay...please understand that having a child is NOT about having a cute baby from the boyfriend who doesn't want to be a father. Having a child is a life long commitment.
If you want to be FAIR and provide a GOOD life for your child, you cannot deceive people and sneak around. This is not ok. If you want to have a baby, you must be able to provide for this child....do you have a full time job? Health insurance? A home? A car? Not to mention a loving husband and a supportive family? If you cannot provide for your child in an unmarried situation, who the heck do you think will? For 18 years?
Having a baby is not a consolation prize for other things that have happened in your life. Be fair to yourself and your future children by making the choice to wait. I don't know you, but based on a few short sentences, you are not ready to have a child. YIKES
Please, I BEG of you to discuss this further with a guidance counselor, parent or priest/pastor. Deciding to have a baby is alot more than what you have mentioned, and should have nothing to do with what you did mention. PLEASE talk to someone who knows you and cares for you about this matter.
If you want to be FAIR and provide a GOOD life for your child, you cannot deceive people and sneak around. This is not ok. If you want to have a baby, you must be able to provide for this child....do you have a full time job? Health insurance? A home? A car? Not to mention a loving husband and a supportive family? If you cannot provide for your child in an unmarried situation, who the heck do you think will? For 18 years?
Having a baby is not a consolation prize for other things that have happened in your life. Be fair to yourself and your future children by making the choice to wait. I don't know you, but based on a few short sentences, you are not ready to have a child. YIKES
Please, I BEG of you to discuss this further with a guidance counselor, parent or priest/pastor. Deciding to have a baby is alot more than what you have mentioned, and should have nothing to do with what you did mention. PLEASE talk to someone who knows you and cares for you about this matter.
Exactly how old are u?I assume quite young, like 13 or something? Sorry if Im wrong but to say u dont want an ugly baby but theres someone else who will give u one etc etc, I think u shouldnt be thinking of one right now of thats the things that are important. What would u do if u had a baby with downs or something else if you cant handle an 'ugly' baby?
I don't know what you guys are talking about and why some of you think this is a joke. I came here asking for your help for a important matter. Thank you to the ones that did answer me but I don't think you understand. I got my period so that means now it's time to have a baby. I just turned 14 over the summer. I have had my period for more than a year now and have not had a baby yet. I have to get pregnant now. If I don't get pregnant then I will go against what god wants for me. I know you all want to help but trust me god would not have given me my period if he did not want me to have a baby. why else do you think that nobody else in my class has there period yet? I called my mom like you told me and she said to go for the cute guy. He is willing and is cute. And she said that she will send me money every month. it will be good. And when my boyfriend gets out of school he is going to get a really good job. His dad might give him a job where he works. But when I do this I really want some woman to help me and be like a sister or a friend or mother to me. I just hope you guys keep talking to me.
what is downs? You mean if the baby falls down? I don't understand.
what is downs? You mean if the baby falls down? I don't understand.
To lucylocket or something. I was not asking you or your husband for money! My mom will send me money and when my boyfriend is done with school he will get a good job. He told me that everything would be ok.
WOW i hope this is a joke. Just because you were given your period does not meant it is "time for baby" you are merely a child and need to grow up finish school, go to college, get married and then THINK about having a child.
I dont think God or anyone else would want a child to be brought into the world under these circumstances.
There are much more important things than shopping and cute babies.
Please grow up before you decide to give life to an innocent child.
I dont think God or anyone else would want a child to be brought into the world under these circumstances.
There are much more important things than shopping and cute babies.
Please grow up before you decide to give life to an innocent child.
14? and u want a baby? That makes me laugh. Call 1-800-jerry springer. He will be able to help you make up your mind.
lol,lol,lol, I know you weren't asking me for money. It's called welfare. That's what I ment they takeo ut of my husbands check. If you were so worried about God. #1 you would capitilize his name, 2 - It is a SIN to have a sex before marriage.
What you are wanting to do is against the law. Did you know that? You will go to jail. Even if you are 14 .
lol,lol,lol, I know you weren't asking me for money. It's called welfare. That's what I ment they takeo ut of my husbands check. If you were so worried about God. #1 you would capitilize his name, 2 - It is a SIN to have a sex before marriage.
What you are wanting to do is against the law. Did you know that? You will go to jail. Even if you are 14 .
If this is a joke , which I hope it is , this is the most horrible joke I've ever read. It's depressing to know there might actually be women out there who are so concerned with shopping and money and having perfect babies ( which any baby is perfect to their mother regardless of physical appearance )that they will rush into having a baby when they're not ready. You need to grow up and experience life first , and get a good job to support the baby , not just your mom or cute guy sperm doner , but a loving family enviornment. You are not ready to have a child. If this is a joke , it's a childish and cruel joke.
THIS IS A JOKE BECAUSE I AM ON THE FLOOR ROLLING! YOUR MOM SAID GO FOR THE CUTE ONE! I'M GONNA WATCH MY MOUTH ON THIS ONE CUZ YOU'RE ONLY 14. BUT THAT'S SAD IF THIS IS REAL AND YOU REALLY THINK THAT. YOU ARE GOING TO BE REAL SALTY IF YOU HAVE A BABY AT FOURTEEN CUZ YOUR LIFE IS OVER AS YOU KNOW IT! AND THE SHOPPING THING? WELL, IF YOU MEAN SHOPPING FOR DIAPERS AND FORMULA I UNDERSTAND. GET REAL.
the reason everyone on this forum considers this to be a joke is that we can't imagine anyone who is the age of 14 seriously wanting to be a mother. having a child at that age means your social life is over, and very likely so will your education. you cannot depend upon your bf, or whomever you are going to arrange to get you pregnant (jeez, sounds as personal as putting a horse or dog out to stud) to give you money for this child! especially when he finds out you deceived him! you might want to check with mama to make sure she's on board for supporting a baby in the event of bf bolting. of course, this whole lecture does depend upon this post NOT being a joke. which, of course, it is. isn't it?
now lucy, SHE'S not going to jail as the pregnatee. HE will as the impregnator. are those real words lol
now lucy, SHE'S not going to jail as the pregnatee. HE will as the impregnator. are those real words lol
hey there,
you say you're not joking...so i will give you the benefit of the doubt. Honey...please, please talk to someone before making this choice. I cannot or will not tell you who you should choose to be your baby's daddy. The fact that you are even asking complete strangers who you should choose shows that you are way to immature to have a baby. At 14? Please, and if getting your period meant it was a sign from god to get pregnant...then every woman in the word would be having babies at 13, 14, etc. You seriously need professional help and your mother doesn't count in this situation....she's obviously as misguided as you. If you want to talk to us "as sisters" as you said...maybe that's what you need. Other females you can bound with...which is a very important part of growing up. Join a sports team or club, etc to bond with other people. Your guidance counselor at your school can direct you where to go for help.
you say you're not joking...so i will give you the benefit of the doubt. Honey...please, please talk to someone before making this choice. I cannot or will not tell you who you should choose to be your baby's daddy. The fact that you are even asking complete strangers who you should choose shows that you are way to immature to have a baby. At 14? Please, and if getting your period meant it was a sign from god to get pregnant...then every woman in the word would be having babies at 13, 14, etc. You seriously need professional help and your mother doesn't count in this situation....she's obviously as misguided as you. If you want to talk to us "as sisters" as you said...maybe that's what you need. Other females you can bound with...which is a very important part of growing up. Join a sports team or club, etc to bond with other people. Your guidance counselor at your school can direct you where to go for help.
In the unlikely event that this is real, let me say this- I can't think of any religion that advocates unmarried children giving birth simply because they are biologically able to.
Go buy some Bubbleyum and have your mom drop you off at the mall. Oh, and you'll never get back in those Abercrombie jeans after giving birth, honey. Quit being ridiculous.
Go buy some Bubbleyum and have your mom drop you off at the mall. Oh, and you'll never get back in those Abercrombie jeans after giving birth, honey. Quit being ridiculous.
Babies don't just look like their mommy or daddy only, it goes back many many generations!!!
How about saving a doggie from a shelter & taking care of it!!!
How about saving a doggie from a shelter & taking care of it!!!
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