Not able to Orgasm and feeling inadequate

[Sapphire__87]

I am currently in a great relationship of 5 months so far that looks promising. My boyfriend has only had one other sexual partner other than myself and that would be his ex gf of a 5 year relationship. I'm 21 he is 24. I'm currently living with him in the same apartment they had lived in before. I guess I'm having inadequacy  issues. I can not manage to reach orgasm through penetration alone (as i realize is a common issue). So my issue is that he is used to his partner being able to orgasm as well as gush (female ejaculate) and I cant!

Ive been searching online for tip and tricks and Ive been trying everything and its just not happening :( I'm getting really discouraged. I am able to attain orgasm through masterbation on my own quickly but through oral it usually takes me a long time and I need to be able to tense my legs in a straight position to be able to reach climax. Anyone else have this issue?  Any advice for either issues?

[Sapphire__87]

Thanks for the advice. I got a good giggle on the Ms. Whale Spout comment. =)

[AnnieBrooke]

Not all women do gush.  It sounds like you are concerned that he is comparing you to his previous partner and you want to be better -- nothing will kill the buzz like sitting mentally on your own shoulder during sex and analyzing it all, with a feeling like you are in a competition.  I'm afraid there aren't many tips and tricks to get a person to stop that self-consciousness trap during sex, except to love yourself enough to lighten up and loosen up and have fun, so sex with you is the unique experience that comes from being with you.  (He's with you, right?  Not Ms. Whale Spout.)  Sometimes men are perfectly happy to leave a technically proficient sexual partner because something else is not OK in the relationship, and they love the new partner more even if she is not a pole dancer with a ten-inch throat.  I saw a movie once where the guy said to the girl, "What happened to that FUN girl I married?"  Be that fun girl, which is obviously what started the two of you off in the first place, and you won't have a dissatisfied man in bed either.